L&H

Where do you live? It is snowing here too. 6-12 inches in NY. I hope things get better for you soon. I will pray for you tonight. I have to give my son a bath so I will be off for a while. Try to have a good night if you can. Hugs.

NY

You ladies are very funny. You are right too. I don't care what he said, I did it for myself. He doesn't sleep in my room anyway. Why does he care.

NY, I am in Michigan. I will pray for all MB friends too. I was not used to pray. Now It became my life, like breathing the air.

Believer, how did your day go? Did you change your lock yet?

All my MB friends, good morning. We had snow here overnight. It looks pretty outside. Just wish the driving condition is ok.

You ladies can really predict what WH can say. He complained again. I had a very caual conversation with him this morning. We were talking about snows between east of Ohio and W. of NY. Then all the sudden, I said, are Ohio and NY connected to each other? I sort of forgot. He immediately commented: PA was between them. Don't you remember when we drove through? Of course, you won't know, b/c you always sleep while I was driving. I guess that is another excuse for D.

But this guy is giving you valuable information - now you know that you just needed new lamps, a not too red bed cover, and to stay awake when driving through PA. I think we're going to be able to figure this out!

Hey, stay awake while driving through PA. What a great phrase. Of course, I need to be awake when he is DRIVING through PA now.

Haha - You got me there. This is really brightening up might morning. It is so funny what some of these WS's say.

Believer, I gald that we can find some humor from this ordeal.

I love to read your posts. I read everything you posted. You are great. Hope you have a good day today. I am busy preparing my classes now. But I will check once a while.

lostnhurt - How are things going tonight? Are you enjoying your redone bedroom?

L&H,

How has your day gone? Are you feeling better yet? Have you done any more redecorating? (Would you like to come to Iowa and help ME redecorate?)

Is it still snowing in Michigan? Our 15" of snow has melted down to about 6" now, and I think in another day or so will just be a bunch of mud (great fun for my dogs to run through in the low spot in our back yard and then in the door and onto my beige carpet before I can stop them.)

Check in later tonight and let us know how you're doing.

LL

Maybe she went out to buy a new toaster.

Friends, good morning. Thank you for all your concern. I miss all of you. How are you doing?

H was home last night using the computer. I didn't have a chance to use it. By the time he went to bed, I was already asleep. I had a long day yesterday. I need to talk to people when I don't feel good. SO I talked to cosin and sis. It helped a lot.

Yesterday evening, WH was supposed to come home before me, but it ended up he came late. he said why are you so early. I said b/c you were late. He said I don't feel well. I ended up cooking dinner, help son do his hwk. He was yelling to son agai, S told him to go away, which made him REALLY mad. He said, you all want me to go away, I will not come home anymore. We all just turn ourdelf around, no one was paying attention to him. He kept saying to hel S to make his Pinewood Derby car, but it is still a piece of wood sitting there. He isolate himself again by sitting in the computer whole evening. I kept praying this whole thing to be over soon. I prayed for all of you too.

We have light snow here. Today there is another inch or so.

Just went to the employee benifit fair. Got a free massage.

WH just came home, it really suprised me. But he said he is not feeling well and went to sleep now. I don't know what is going on with him. But I have to pick up D now.

Sounds like he is not too much fun to have around. All of the deception must be wearing him out.

You mean he can actually sleep with that awful lamp and that bedspread that is too red (or whatever was wrong with it)?

LL

LL -
I think he sleeps in the other bedroom, but doesn't want lostnhurt to have too much red in the bedspread. But he does want her to have the new lamps.

Also the pinebox derby car is still only a board. Maybe lostnhurt is sawing away tonight.

Good morning, ladies. Your humurs always lighten up my day.

You are right, he is not much fun to be around ANYMORE. He is wearing out!

Here is what happened yesterday. Went to cosin's at noon for lunch. She said she talked my in laws again. MIL was really worried about her son. They tried to call him and left few messages to him, but he vever answer they calls, neither called them back. He is afraid to talk to his own parents now.

Then I came home at about 1:45pm. D was supposed to come home by bus at 2:30, but she called asking me whether I could pick her up a little bit later, b/c she wanted to do her homework at school. Around 2;30pm, WH came home, he said, I was waiting for D by the bus stop, but didn't see her. I told him what happened, he went straight to sleep. I gave him a little massage, at first he refused. Then he let me. I was joking about the massage I received today, telling him it would cost $1/min. He said do i need to pay you. I said ok, either pay me money or give me a massage. For about 10 min, I stopped. He almost fell asleep, I said you didn't pay me. He said, I already spent all my best years with you. I asked do you regret? He said no. I said me either. Then I went to pick up D.

After picking up D. She told me she had a concert in the evening where she had to arrive by 6:30pm. I said why didn't you tell me earlier. She forgot. I prepared a good dinner. 5:30, he woke up. D asked him why the whole family never showed up for her concert? He said because your brother didn't like it, I have to watch him. That was not true, when he was not around, I took S to the concert, but I didn't say it yesterday.

At 6:10pm, when we got ready to leave, D said I don't have black pants, UH? Then she couldn't find her white top. Finally she found it in the washing maching. She almost cried. I said you just wear it, it is not dirty. We will go to K-mart to buy you a pair of black pants. There we were, with 15 min, we had everything.

Then I called WH telling him that D performance were between 7:30-8:00pm. He can just come for this period of time. But he didn't show up. After the concert was over, he called. He said he took S to the hobby shop trying to buy an already built Pinewood Derby car, so he didn't have to make it(I almost dropped my jaw). But S didn't like it, so he had to make it!

What a night! When we got home, it was almost 10pm. I had the kids do CHinese homework. They finally went to bed at 10:30pm. I was exsuhsted. He was in the computer again.

Since he is not honest about the A, sis suggested me to write him a letter to ask him to talk about it. SO I will try to write one some time, I will psot it for opinion before sending.

What happened with the idea of hiring a PI?

I am still thinking about hiring PI. I have appointment with SH this afternoon. I want to talk to him about it before any action.

I am sure he will go out again next week when he feels better.

NY,

Hope your appointment goes well. I've been thinking of making one myself. Not sure they'll be able to do much because of WH's alcohol issue, and I know he won't participate, but might be worth it for me.

As for the PI, I agree with Believer. I'd do it, if they can tell you for sure what he's up to. It's too hard just wondering if there is or isn't something really going on.

I'm actually contemplating hiring a PI, if things don't work out with my WH breaking it of with OW before long, to find out OW's mother's name and address so that I can contact her. (These are things my WH knows but obviously won't tell me.)

I'm not doing it right now, because it will only push him further away, but if he sits on the fence forever, I might have to let OW's mommy know that the guy she's hanging with is really still married with no intentions of D (especially since I found out her mom is a nice lady who goes to church and sings in the choir. She might not like the situation quite as well and it might turn up the heat a bit.)

Keep posting!

LL