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I just e-mail him telling him that I and kids love him, and hope him to come home. LB or what?
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Good for you. Everytime you start thinking about him, or any negative thoughts, say "Stop". Make your brain think about something pleasant. You can retrain your thinking very quickly.
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I want to call him so much. But I have quit thinking about it. Just call the Dr. office to get more anti-D. D was complaining sore thraot.
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Wh just left without a trace. This morning S was crying, and I cry infront of him too. We cried holding each other. He kept asking where is daddy. I just told him that both mom and dad love him.
I want to call him to ask these questions:
1. What is your plan?
2. Where do you live?
3. How are you going to tell the kids?
4. What kind of arrangement for kids, expecially when I need to teach at night and weekend for the summer?
5. Do we need to do the seperation legally and how?
Please give me some opinion. Should I call or what to say?
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Explain to your children that you have a plan and are working on things. They need to know that you are taking care of family and will continue to do so.
Please have some patience and remember to fly by the instument panel.
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Believer, please read my thread. I draft a letter to WH, I need to talk to him. Please give your input.
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I just ate half of a slice of pizza. But I feel so sick. My stomach is turning upside down and i am trembling. I tried to call WH. He even did not answer. What am I going to do. Now I have to drive back home and send D for her violin lesson. I don't know how I can do it.
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Lostnhurt - What are we going to do about you? I guess we will have to take your hand and walk you through this.
Stop thinking about him. Most WS's don't come back during Plan A. I think it is time for Plan B for you to protect you, your family and your love for husband.
Let him go and see how soon he will want to come back.
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Believer, I don't know what I am doing and what i am thinking. I decide to go to Plan B. Help me with a letter. I will talk to SH monday for a concrete plan.
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Just finished tutoring a student. His mom helped me rearranged the funitures and gave me some ideas for decoration. It is good. I am going to shop for some pictures or little piece of funitures next week.
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Just hang in there and take care of you and your children. Give it some time to see what is up with your H.
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Just survived another day, praise the LORD. I took Xenex last night which knocked me down. I was going to call in laws to tell them that their son had abandended us. Just to tell them the fact. But I was knocked out by Xenex. Now I had dropped D to school, have to get S and myself ready and leave. I can not think about tomorrow or the days after. Just live day by day. Why life is so hard?
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Porbably the Xenex was too strong. I still feel so sleepy. I almost rear ended a car on the way to work. I need a nap now.
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Somehow we have to get you through this in a better way. Car accidents are very common when you are distracted. Also I worry about your health.
So WH has moved out and not taken his things? Or did he pack a suitcase and take some things? At any rate, this is probably good news.
Now OW will have to face the fact that she needs to make a decision. The fantasy may come to a screeching halt. I think it is very hard for women to leave their children.
But your H, in his foggy state will be putting pressure on her, and so will her H. So sit back and see what happens. It may be interesting.
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L&H We are here for you. Post us and let us know how you are. We will help you anyway we can. I can't tell you how many nights I sit at this computer crying posting to you guys. Keep your chin up, you have done nothing wrong. GOD has a plan for you. He is guiding you now, just take a deep breath and let everything go. You will be fine. You are a person too! You have feelings, it is okay to let those feelings out. Punch a pillow, sit in your car with the windows shut and scream as loud as you can. Then go on with life. We have all been where you are. It is getting easier. I have now let go, and let god take over. He is driving. What will be will be. You can't control anyone but you in this life, remember that. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> NY
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I don't know what is going on. He did not pack anything and just left. S has half day today. I called him to see whehter he can take care of him, he did not answer. Then I forwarded a dangerous strange warning note from school to him. He just sent me an e-mail saying that he will come home at noon for one hour to take care of him.
I hate him now. I know this hate is from love. I don't know how long I can hold on. I don't know how to take care of myself either. I need to learn it. I will post another one about women.
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What was the dangerous strange warning note?
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The note was from the principal of school. It said that there is report of inccidents that a stranger try to approach kids in the area. Let the parents beware. This is a good area, but still something like this happened.
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Are you still working on posiive thoughts?
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Believer, I am practicing. I feel a little better today. I hope next time the down time will last shorter, and the up time lasts longer. How are you doing?
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