Hey, just read your update, thought I'd update you. WH came over today and told me he would be filing and bringing me papers tomorrow.
I am going to sign them, I just want this to be over. I will also be moving into my parent's within the week.

Faith,
I have thought about what I will do when/if that situation arises. Though honestly, I don't see her having the money to do it anytime soon. If you still have love for your H, I would recommend waiting on signing. "Reverse Babble" at him. Chris -CA123 first turned me on to that, and it helps me. If he brings the papers and all you say is I love and don't want a divorce. What can he say? Well I do? OK....I love you and I don't want a divorce. Then don't sign.

My best friend's older brother's wife (yikes!) asked for a divorce. I don't know if there was an A involved or not. (I don't think so.) When the papers came, he just put them in a drawer. The weight of the decision came to her eventually and they began reconciliation. Stranger things have happened.

This is the tact that I plan to take with my WW when/if the situation arises. I imagine I will be in Plan B by then, but who knows. Stay strong. I firmly believe that your WH will see your strength. I know it is hard, but do you really want to have given up? For a while, I felt like I was a doormat. Then I realize that standing for my marriage requires more strength than most people have. Because of that, I feel stronger now than I have in years..... Hang in there.

Ethan

Ethan,
I do not have the strength to go through it anymore. I can't take it emotionally, and I don't feel I could ever trust him or feel secure with him again. His primary concern is still for OW and her family. I can't deal with that anymore. She has promised me, to my face that she would stop talking to him until we came to a decision, yet she has continued anyway. I have no idea what is truth and what is a lie anymore. There have been so many times when I have thought that he genuinely was sorry and was doing the right thing, only to find out down the road he's been deceiving me. So when would I ever know?
I want to move on with my life and have some closure...This has been over 3 years in the making. 2 of those years I thought everything was fine, that we had a happy life and happy family. I was wrong. I don't want to waste anymore time like that. The past year has been emotional hell for me, there is only so much a person can take. Everyone has their breaking point and I have reached mine.
I hope things work out differently for you. You've handled things very well - I still have my fingers crossed.