I cannot describe the rage in my body right now. I just finished talleying the bills from the last three months. Not pretty!!<P>I reallt hope R doesn't call in the next little while. I want to tell her how much money her self centered bull**** affair has cost us. AARRGGHH<P>Now I am going to have to borrow money to keep from going bankrupt. Before this we were debt free save our mortgage. Now I have to pay for two homes.<P>We were right on the brink of haveing a great lifestyle, and she totally sabotaged it. I can't believe how far she shoved her head up her a.. in one day. The day she "realised" that this <B>POS LRB</B> was worth more than all we were working for.<P>"But I love him" F-you you self serving B...h.<P>Ok I'm done I had to get that out. Thanks for letting me lose my religion again.<P>I feel better. Now to get past this resentment.<P>Thanks,<BR>Bill<P>"commit to the Lord what ever you do, and your plans will succeed" Proverbs16:3

Let me say I know how you feel..."Rage" is an understatement<P>I lost everything, career, school, savings you name it.<P>It's hard but it does get better.<P>Don't say anything you might regret, I did now its just one more thing we have to overcome<P>good luck,<P>Jason

Thanks Jason, I have no intentions of saying one word to her.<P>It does not fit into plan-a. She knows we're in a bad place financialy no point in rubbing it in.<P>I'll get it strait like I have always done.<P>Financial security is her # 2 <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3300_needs.html" TARGET=_blank>Emotional Needs</A><P>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>

WJ-<P>This is tough stuff. It sucks.<P>Are you paying for her place to live? If you are, my qustion would be why?<P>It's perfectly normal to feel rage. It happens to all of us. What our spouses are doing, while in LALA Land, is absolutely incompreshensible.<P>Sorry you are having a rough time.<P>We're here for you.<P>Sending you prayers of peace.<P>God Bless,<P>Cheryl

Cheryl,<P>She makes school teachers salary. As soon as we get caught up we will no longer be pooling our finances.<P>I make a good bit more than she does. She will miss that.<P>I look forward to the day she comes to her sences.<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>

WJ-<P>Have you ever thought about not paying her? Or, maybe just giving her a little?<P>I know what you mean about one day them coming to their senses. Let's hope God will get ahold of them, before it is to late.<P>You are in my prayers!<P>cheryl

Cheryl, Being in a flawless plan-a, I must meet as many <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3300_needs.html" TARGET=_blank>Emotional Needs</A> as possible. Financial security is her #2. So I will continue selflessly meeting that need.<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>

WJ-<P>Good for you! I admire you. I wish I could do a flawless Plan A. I'm working at it , though.<P>BTW, what the heck is LRB? I got the POS .<P>Cheryl

<B>Little Rat [censored]</B><P>RMA coined the name for me.<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>

Bill,<P>Have you talked to Steve Harley yet? I would ask him about the financial thing. Maybe you should consider giving her whatever she would get if you guys were divorced, so she can see what little she would have to live on. I don't know if Steve would consider that a LB or a little dose of reality. Since Abbey is with you, maybe R would get nothing?? It only costs $85 - think about doing it even if you only can afford it once.<P>Sorry about the financial mess. My H has spent a good bit, too. It hasn't put us in a hole, but I hate the idea that he spends any money on her or to be with her. <P>When he left this second time, I requested separate checking accounts. I told him I felt like I was "participating" in his affair by having even one penny of any money I earned going towards it. It is not the money itself, but the idea that I would financially participate in something that is hurting me so much.<P>YUCK!!!!! <P>Desiree<P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>

Desiree,<P>I had a session w/Steve lst thursday, I will talk to him again on Friday.<P>He told me I need to exicute a perfect plan-a<BR>So that should plan-b be necessary it won't feel like punishment.<P>I'm doing the LB& EM questionaires from her point of view.<P>That cruise is sounding better.<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>

Yeah,<P>Even the Roy Rogers are sounding good, huh????<P>Desiree<P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>

I know! Right now I'm swilling countrytime lemonaide on the Rocks so I can cope...lol<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>

OK, as long as it is not a Lynchburg Lemonade.....<P>Desiree<P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>

Great Job Bill!<BR>Your a great man is all I have to say! Keep up the Plan A. I gotta say i dont think my h would do it. Keep your chin up! Your the best! Say that to yourself 5 times every morning. Beleive me it does help!

Thanks ina, I neededthat<P>Des.,<P>I'm getting ready to switch to iced herbal tea. I hope I can make it to worh tomorrow...lol<P>B<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>

Bill,<P>You KNOW you aren't supposed to mix your drinks like that. Isn't that similar to "beer on whiskey, pretty risky"??<P>Desiree<P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>

lol...I never had a problem mixing drinks...it's when I started doing bong hits that the trouble would begin...I guess I shouldn't smoke cigarettes when I drink like this...lol<P>B<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>

OK, now - BEHAVE!<P>See...your mood has improved in just a few posts!!!! CAn't keep a good man down!!!! <P>Luv Ya,<P>Desiree<P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>

I have to put Abbey to bed I sure hope she can't smell the sugar on my breath...lol<P>B<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>