I wish, too, Bren. Good thing we weren't having a blizzard, huh? <P>Yesterday, when I left and prayed, I stopped at the nearest coffee shop, 3 miles away. It was slow. <P>The waitress recently remarried - 1.5 years ago. She is about 53 years old, probably 10 years older than me. <P>She was married 25 years the first time, and her marriage ended in infidelity. (I think ever since I was a hairdresser 20 years ago, people think they can share their life history with me - and I usually tell them nothing about myself... weird, huh?) Anyhow, after her divorce she stayed single 8 years....<P>Then she said that she knew her new husband 6 years before they were married, that they worked together, but that he was married then. He ended his marriage and married her. She didn't say when the affair started, and when the marriage ended...<P>All I could think about was - gee, if she only knew what we all have been learning here on MB, then she would know that she only has a 3% chance of her second marriage working, and how much more better off she would have been had she known what we know. I'm sure she wouldn't have had an affair with a co-worker....<P>Regardless of the outcome of my situation, I am much more wiser than I was. <P>Bren, I really wish that things were different, and I'm not so sure that I can control outcomes, but I am going to give my life the best shot I can, and if it helps my marriage - great. If it doesn't, well - I guess I will just have to deal with that IF (not when) it comes.<P>tnt