Sheba,<BR>Our H's sound a lot alike. Although while he was home my H never said he was unhappy with our relationship or with me, I think I know what your mean about the stares. My H did that about three times - and at those moments I felt like he hated me. <P>Thanks for asking about my job. It is going fine - it is a very family friendly place. I just wish there were more hours in the day, though.<P>Thank you for your support. At the course I went to last night they claimed that in the depression/sadness stage of grieving, you were supposed to have no energy or initiative. I have not found this to be true - during the last 10 months I found a job, I have put a ridiculous number of miles on the vehicles taking the kids places, I have learned to function on much less sleep - and yes, I can still laugh at funny stories, etc - I am certainly functional, but a large part of me has died.<P>schizzo,<BR>No, he hasn't accused me of being clingly - the closest he said was that he couldn't understand why I was dragging my feet with respect to the divorce.<P>I just am beginning to fear that he will always be like this, since he has gotten progressively worse.

Nellie1, sorry to hear that. I read your other thread, though I really had nothing to say (for once) not having been there.<P>Sheba didn't come back to answer my question, but I talked to my h about it. I think I'm starting to get a handle on this.