I'm gonna take some time off for a while. Reading on this forum is getting to be too much for me. I've been here almost everyday since 30 Dec 98 'till now. There are so many new people all the time and it just hurts so bad to see the same thing over & over & over.<P>It's been just over a year since I found out about my Wife.<BR>Our 20th anniversary was on 5 Jan. I didn't expect squat from my Wife & that's exactly what I got.<BR>She's been gone almost 11 months. I've seen her twice in that time. Wow.<BR>Haven't even spoken to her since 2 Dec.<P>Right now I'm just hurting so much. 21 years together & you give up EVERYTHING for some [censored] you have known for four months. House, kids, marriage, both sides of the family, etc. I'll never understand. Donna, I pray one day you'll hear God. I'm not giving up on my marriage nor on myself, but I feel I need to do a few things. Step outside of this mess & see what I really want to do and what I really need to do.<P>To everyone who has helped me along this sh!tty path, I Thank You. I know it's far from enough repayment, but's it's all I have to offer right now since I didn't win the lottery. Again. Yes, my initial offer is still open for those of you who remember it. As soon as it happens I'll be in touch.<P>k, thanks.<P>Everyone else, you know who you are. If I start posting names I'll leave someone out.<P>Hebrews 11:1 Faith is the realization of what is hoped for and evidence of things not seen. <P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>

Chris,<P>I understand the need for a break. I just came back from one myself. But please keep us updated when you can ok ?<P>Chris, you are liked and well respected here, know I will be praying for you, the girls and for Donna.<P><P>------------------<BR>Just call me - Deb<BR>------------------------<BR>The only day I can do anything about is today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not yet mine.<P>

Ditto from me ... please stop in and say hello every now and again. I'm not quite where you are - I do talk to my husband fairly regularly - but I know that I have to take breaks from here every so often.<P>We'll be thinking of you and your family. Keep being the great dad you are to those girls, I know you will!<P>{{{{{{{{{{Chris}}}}}}}}}}<P>------------------<BR>terri<BR>I believe in miracles...<P><BR>

Chris,<P>We DO want to know how you're doing. And we are here if you need us.<P>Take care of yourself and those wonderful girls.<P>Lori

Chris -- You will be missed my friend. You have shown every man here what true commitment is. I myself have learned a great deal from you.<P>I hope that you will check in on us once in a while and let us know how you and the girls are doing. May God bless and keep you you all.<P>God Bless

Chris,<P>You were my first mentor here... <P>I'll always think of you every time I come here...<P>Yes, do take a break...<BR>Things are a bit on the down side here...<BR>(I've contributed to that a bit...)<P>Refresh your soul...<P>Prayers to you and your daughters! <P>Jim

Take care, Chris. I have always been amazed at your attitude. And I don't use the word "always" lightly. I have learned a great deal from you and I have been inspired by you.<P>I also just passed the year mark and unfortunately we have not had the same recovery experience. Chris, it is not you. This is her affair and her issues and her abandonment of her family.<P>The Lord will bless your efforts.<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13

Take good care of yourself, Chris. God Bless! <BR>

Chris -- Take a break and take care. You're one heck of a guy. I'll be thinking about you and the girls.

See you on the flip side. Take care. You're always remembered.

Chris, <BR>I fully understand......seems some of us have been in this "holding pattern" for quite awhile. Take care, we will miss ya!<P>------------------<BR>Susan<P><BR>

Hi Chris -<P>I know how you feel and you just have to do what you have to do!!!<P>I want to take this opportunity to formally THANK YOU for all that you have done for me!!! You helped me find my Sense of Humor, hope and perspective in all of this mess.....<P>I could never repay that!!! Just know that you are always in my heart!!!! The Girls also!!!!<P>Come here when you need a helping hand, though......OK? This is very hard to do alone!!! <P>BIG HUGS and Love Ya, Friend!!!<P>Sheba<P>PS - Forgot to ask - How are you feeling? You had mentioned something about getting a sore throat, etc. Any better?<p>[This message has been edited by Sheba (edited January 10, 2000).]

I'll miss you... <P>Take care, and I hope Donna pulls her head outta there soon...<P>You're a good man, Chris!!<P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>Nobody knows what you want except you, and nobody will be as sorry as you if you don't get it. ~Barry Manilow

Chris,<BR>Thanks for all of your help. You are a wonderful man and father. You have proved to me that "all" men aren't scum. LOL. Keep in touch and take good care of yourself and the girls. <BR>Nancy

Chris~<BR>I trust your truthfulness, your thoughtfulness, and your good sense. I understand completely the need to escape from the repetative bad news on this forum, even if there is a light at the end of some tunnels! Take it easy and know that we care about you, keep in touch with us, OK? <P>------------------<BR>Chick's <BR>Bren<P>You won't see things until your ready to not be blind!<P>

Chris,<BR>I really admire your fortitude and stick-to-it-tiveness, and I have tried to pattern myself after you in this mess.<P>I truly can understand what you are going through and I guess I am lucky(?) as my stbx is in the vicinity and can help out occaisionally. I can hardly imagine what it would be like to have ALL the responsibility, even though I have 99% of it.<P>I can appreciate you taking some time for yourself. Please take the time to heal.<P>You are loved here, so please keep us posted.<P>God Bless<P>Bob<P>------------------<BR>"You can't always get what you want! But if you try real hard,you might just find, you get what you need!"<BR>Mick Jagger<P>

Man I sure hope you find some relief from your problems. I have only been on here since April of last year but yours is one of the saddest situations I have read about. I will never understand the whys of some of this stuff I have read about here. I am over 50 years old and retired military so I have seen my share of people and people situations but this infidelity thing........I just don't understand lots of times.<BR>Take care of your kids and pray for the best huh?

chris, hang in there. I'll miss seeing you around here.<BR>i really hope donna wakes up before you give up.....<BR>hugs, <BR>julie<P>------------------<BR> <A HREF="http://www.alladvantage.com<BR>ID#" TARGET=_blank>www.alladvantage.com<BR>ID#</A> atp-113<P>

Hi Chris,<P> Boo hoo , Chris, don't go.....am I begging and pleading too much?(I've gotten pretty good at it!)<BR> Anyway, I'll really miss you on here,definitely check in with us and update, ok? Will pray for you , your girls and that wife of yours......(and maybe for Wankboy, but I won't say what I'll pray for him).... Lu

Chris,<P>Best wishes to you. You and your family will continue to be in my prayers.<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>