SHA, buddy and noble knight in the marital battlefield! Great to hear from you again. I saw your thread last week and kept trying to post a response, but something always seemed to come up at work to prevent it. Finally, I seem to have the time to bring this to the top again, where it belongs.<P>Your story continues to amaze me, especially the part about the OM having second thoughts. Sounds like he does want to break off the affair. I think there's a lot of hope in that and I liked the way you said: <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>The past few days have been very nice. I have actually received a few hugs and kisses without asking for them.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>As someone who ALWAYS has to ask, I find this an extremely hopeful sign. In fact, so far, your story sounds nothing short of miraculous. What I'm wishing for you now is that your W will see the error of her ways too, and somehow find a way to let go of her attachment (which really sounds like an unhealthy obsession) to the OM. I'm sure you're praying for this too and, given your track record so far, seems to me there's a pretty good chance that your prayers will (eventually) be answered.<P>Regards and blessings,<P>--Wex

<B>DMac</B><BR>Thank you for your thoughts. you and Suse are certainly an inspiration. You both helped me through some pretty tough times. Thanks.<P><B>facing choices</B><BR>I'm so happy you are posted. I'm a little at a loss as to offer much advice for you in your recent threads. Always know I'm in your corner, even if I don't have much in the way of advice to offer. Thanks for being a good friend.<P><B>Wexwill</B><BR>Wex my fellow warrior, so glad you posted! I've missed your camaraderie. Events continue to unravel here. I believe this OM is distancing himself as the days go by. My wife is taking it pretty hard. Pretty intense mood swings. I still have a ways to go that's for sure. <P>You know, I can't help but to think of infidelity as a battle. I was watching Saving Private Ryan on the tube the other night. The commonality is there. You see these soldiers getting decimated my these bullets (infidelity) coming from no where. Chaos is everywhere. These regular guys find themselves in a situation they never thought they would ever have to encounter. If you sit and do nothing - your death is certain. If you move you may die, but it's your only hope. So, you press forward. No soldier gets through battle without being affected in some way, and I think the same holds true with infidelity. No one is immune to its devastation. I'll tell you one thing Wex, I'm finding myself through this. My character has been changed. <P>God is the architect of my rebuilding process. I'm still unsure of the outcome, but I'll give Him the glory no matter what happens. He's been good to me. <P>Wex, you're due for happiness. I read one of your posts about the new year's you had. It looked like a turning point for you. I'm trying to keep up with your story. You're a fellow soldier in this war and I'm praying for you.<P>God bless, <P>SHA

Amen to everything you say. You've made me tear up again. Go with God, my friend.<P>--Wex

David (Job) : Been lurking a bit my friend? Did you read the post about your email and my wife? Sometimes God does truly work in strange ways, huh?<P>I'm sorry I haven't replied to the email or to this thread before now, I didn't see this thread till just now. <P>In Christ all things are possible. I'm glad you are where you are, and where you are going. I won't mention specifics because I am the same as you and don't know them. But that's what faith is all about right? Not knowing, but giving it to God and letting him do as he will. It's hard at first, we don't understand, don't agree, or think we know better. But after all is said and done who was right? My money is on God! <P>You have had a profound affect in my life without even trying. If and when I reach those pearly gates I'll be proud to hug your neck and tell the Lord about how you've helped my family and offered a helping hand to me when I needed that little 'extra'. I will continue to remember you in my prayers. Remember me.<P>Good Luck and God Bless<P>------------------<BR>1Co:2:4: And my speech and my preaching was not with enticing words of man's wisdom, but in demonstration of the Spirit and of power:<BR>1Co:2:5: That your faith should not stand in the wisdom of men, but in the power of God.<P><BR><p>[This message has been edited by Paul Moyers (edited January 18, 2000).]