Wait til she goes to the bar, and change the locks.

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Well, it's been a while so I'll post an update. This is mostly for the benefit of others who may be going through a similar experience. Perhaps it will help.<P>The W finally moved out...I immediately changed the locks...and she immediately "shacked up" with the OP. At this point, I have told her I'll have no communication with her directly whatsoever as long as she is living in sin like that. I guess this is Plan B working itself out.<P>Now I am moving forward with healing myself and moving on in my life. Things have improved for me as I'm very active with my relationship with God and other Christian people. If W were to come back seeking reconciliation, I sincerely doubt I will want her back. I don't think it could ever be the same, and I would not be able to trust her. For me, if someone hurts you like that then the potential will always be in that person to do it again. That type of enormous pain is not something I am willing to go through again.<P>Counseling has helped tremendously, but putting all these problems in god's hands has helped even more. I just have to keep breathing and let God determine the rest.<P>FYI...direct email is warewa@bordenchem.com