Hello, I'm sure you have probably heard it all at some point but I woul dreally like an outsiders input on my marriage situation. I have been been married to my husband for 9 years and we have been together for 15 years. We first started dating when we were 19 yrs. old and have one daughter that is 6 yrs. old now. We do have financial strains that also do not help our situation. It all started when I became pregnant with our daughter and it's not like it was unplanned we had been planning it for over a year. Anyway, as my pregnancy progressed he started leaving home alot and hanging out with his buddies and going to a local bar all the time his friends frequented. He said hurtful things, one imparticular is the day we found out we were having a girl, we left the dr, office and the first thing he said is whatt in the heck am I going to do with a girl. It just made me sick to say the least. He went on about this for the entire trip home(30 minutes). He dropped me off at home and left for about 3 hours and then called me on the phone to apologize for acting the way he did. He didn't know why he was so concerned about having a girl and he was happy. He continued to go out and he would be out till very late at least once a week. It has been over 6 yrs. now and he still does it I have repeatedly told him to stop or don't come home he does it anyway. He has even come home the following morning and the only excuse he has is he crashed at his friend Chads house instead of drinking and driving. My response is so then don't drink and stay home. 2 weeks ago he was gone until 10:30 the next morning I had know idea where he was at or with who. I'm sick of it and he literally makes me sick to look at him anymore. I have a daughter to worry about to and financially can't afford to just move out, he has ruined my credit with all his schemes of getting rich that backfire. I'm between a rock and a hard place. Does anyone have an opinion they would like to share with me, please. I would greatly appreciate it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

My heart goes out to you and your situation... I would think he would be estatic about his own child, especially being married... Is it possible that he was not prepared to have a child of either sex. I know I would have been equally proud of a boy or a girl (my son is now 14 years old)...

You have a tuff road ahead and if you could take advice from a newbie I would do my level best to determine what his intentions really are?? Staying out all night with a wife at home with child baffles me..

My Heart also goes out to you, I would put my stuff in storage and go stay with a family member or friend. This will shock him, if he wants to work things out he would have to agree to couseling and going out with his friend, would not be allowed! He lost that right as far as I am concerned. I might sound harsh but a "Man" should be there for his family and if he is not maybe he doesn't deserve to have one. Children are a blessing, and so is a wife. I don't think he is counting his. I also think he is cheating on you. Well, I wish you the best of luck and courage to stand on your own two feet, stand tall and don't let him treat you like this anymore. Today is a good time to start.........