<B>Keridwen</B>...<BR>That was so inspiring...<BR>...it is definitely going into my <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000013.html" TARGET=_blank>Notable Posts/Threads</A> post.<BR>You are so kind... <BR>We can all be so kind to people we have never seen... show such great wisdom... and caring... what happend to our spouses?<P><B>Bob</B>...<BR>Thanks for your welcome...<BR>I remember... saying I would most likely follow in your footsteps...<BR>I guess resentment hasn't hit me yet...<BR>...especially since I will most likely continuing the Plan A even after the divorce... for a while.<BR>I can still share with the Newbies...<BR>...and there is some pain...<BR>...but not as much as I would have expected.<BR>I glad your moving on...<BR>..check out the link <A HREF="http://www.freshstartseminars.org/" TARGET=_blank>Divorce Recovery Seminar</A>... that <B>ZAPFT</B>(Tom) recommended.<BR> <P><B>Mitzti</B>...<BR>"Maybe in the end, you'll actually get to move to the "Recovery" board!"...<BR>I see that happening... unfortunately... it will be after my W marries and then later is dumped by the OM... (I really do believe these are the events that will happen first... after a few years.) I just don't know it I'll be around for her at that time. Like many have told me... God may have other plans for me... <P><B>Desiree</B>...<BR>Step away... you know I love to dance!<BR>The postings here are nothing like the frequency of the GQ forum... so the community is a bit more tight... we'll read everyone's posts!<P><B>sandman</B>...<BR>Thank you for your kind words...<BR>"But i don't believe the story is over for you and your ex."...<BR>...I really feel like I said in my response to <B>Mitzi</B> (above)... that it will take quite a while... and who knows where God will lead me.<BR>BTW: to avoid the big "quotes" click on "Post a Reply".<P> <P>Jim

Hi NSR -<P>Checking in with you.....How's it going today? BIG HUGS......<P>I have a post for you to check out for your notables....TomH's thread to SHA - it's fabulous !!!!!<P>Take a gander and let me know what you think?<P>Just want to say Hi and give a HUG to RWD...I miss you, ya know!!!! <P>Good decision not to post so much if the depression seeps in or it keeps you dwelling...I have had to stay off quite a bit myself. I am feeling stronger now, though. I can feel detached enough for the moment anyway!!! <P>You know what is good too? Posting about "other" aspects in your life...not the old marriage junk!! Everyone can benefit from how we carry on!!! Like in your case - I love when you relate some funny or touching moments with the kids. I don't have them but I am sure that other Dads going through this see your stories as such a comfort....to know that the little things are so important!!!!<P>Love Ya!!<P>Hi RMA - I am very happy that you have found a refuge from the "what-if's and looking back's" that we get stuck in sometimes.....what a freeing feeling!!<P>If you want to talk about anything, like the resentments, etc....I am here for you!!! Just send and E or give a holler!!! I miss your beautiful posts and sense of humor!! So many of our friends are either quiet or spread all over the place here!!! <P>Thanks for asking about me - the job search is still ongoing, got a couple of leads - but finding part-time work with benefits is not easy!!! I'll get there though....never say die!!! LOL!!<P>I am going to do a thread soon (weekend - I hope!!) stick around for it - definite entertainment!!! I expect the Bellevue Bus to pull up at any minute!<P>Hey Jim....you know what we need? A good dose of Medic!!!! Where is that man.......He could just pop in here - it's not like he'd get cooties or something!!!! <P>BIG HUGS,<P>Sheba

Sheba,<P>I got that post on the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000013.html" TARGET=_blank>Notable Posts/Threads</A> post this afternoon...<BR>...and it keeps getting better!<P>Looking forward to your post...<BR>...hope to see it before I go on vacation.<P>I'm getting better on the divorce thing...<BR>I used "stbx" for the first time... (a little hard... but easier that "XW")<BR>The thought crossed my mind to take down wedding pictures... and knick-knacks...<BR>I'm getting there...<P> <P>Jim