Sheryl -- I am so very sad that it came to this. I always thought and hoped the best of outcomes for you and David. Unfortunately(as I am finding out) there are times when even those deeply in love have to part. You are a strong person and will get thru this. I understand the initial reaction of your children and also their re-affirmation once the shock had worn off.<P>You will find the peace that Sheba mentioned and you definitely deserve that at the very least.<P>Just remember that I, as well as a lot of people here love you and support you...<P>Lots and lots of those platonic(patented) hugs...<P>--DeWayne--

Ah DeWayne,<P>I love those patented hugs!! <P>Thank you, my friend, for dropping a line... and yes, we are all finding out how much this hurts... I'm so sorry for your pain too <P>

My dearest friend Sheryl,<P>Prayers and hugs to you. You know I support your decision and trust that you know what is best for you. You will get through this storm one way or another. <P>I'm here for you always. Like the others I wish you the peace that you deserve!!<P>Love Ya'<P>------------------<BR>"If you can learn from the mistakes of others, you won't have to make them youself."<P>lady_divine77@yahoo.com

Hello to the beautiful <B>Jamie-Lee</B>,<P>Thank you for dropping by, and thank you for the well wishes... yes, we all need peace. <P>I hope you're feeling better???? How's things with you? I haven't seen anything from you since you told us of your pregnancy... is everything okay??<P>Love you

Hi Sheryl,<BR>Making that decision is so difficult. I got as far as the papers served, but didn't file. Guard says he wants the marriage, but won't move home. I've been here so many times and don't truly know if he means anything different this time.<P>You've been through the time after time with the promises that come and go, and you've done some escaping, just as I have. But it still remains our life. You make the best decision you can at every point (and sometimes the decisions bite), and leave the results to God.<P>I think letting go must be the hardest part. And it doesn't really matter if you divorce or Plan A...it is all realizing the other person will do what they chose to do, just as we do and although we can influence our spouse, we can't make them do a blasted thing. <P>Marriage takes 2.<P>God bless<P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"Let love be genuine...hold fast to what is good; love one another." Rom 12:9-10

Hey <B>Lor</B>,<P>Yep, we've faught the good fight, doncha think??<P>I'm sorry you're here too.... and I so relate to your situation, as I know you do to mine... both our H's have posted, and *should* understand the concepts and be able to put forth a full-on effort... back and forth we go, huh?<P>Blech!! <P>But now we have to make the hard decisions to save our sanity, that's the way I see it... and we (you and I) will be fine!<P>God Bless you too Lor!!

Sheryl,<BR> Just stopped by.I don't come here everyday,now.Sorry things didn't work out for you.Sometimes you just have to let it go.I,too,have divorce papers drawn up,and will need to have W(what did she look like?)sign them.As far as I know she's giving me almost everything.Just wants her freedom.So I guess I can be thankful for that.<BR> Have you sat down,and made any plans for the future?Sometimes it helps to write down some goals.Perhaps some things you weren't able to do when you are married.I intend to do some traveling.Places I wanted to go,but W didn't.<BR> How long is your waiting period?Here in Washington,it's only 90 days.Short and sweet.<BR> Like you,I'll always remember the W for the woman she used to be.But that person is long gone,probably longer than I thought.So,all we can do is look ahead,not back.<BR> Take care of yourself,Sheryl,and have a good weekend. --Murph

Hey Murph,<P>Well, the waiting period is 6 months here in sunny CA. <P>Yes, it's good that your W is at least not socking it to you financially, and that you can travel. I do have some plans, but mostly just gonna work on getting through the next six months with some kind of grace and dignity. <P>Take care, and have a great weekend too!!