THL,<P>Yeah.....I know......maybe....like I said,just taking each day as it comes.<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Hmmmm, why older men, seems like you need a younger one to keep up with you?<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>LMAO.........Ha,Ok...this is my thinking,I tend to believe that an older man is settled in his Job/is more confident in him self.Knows what he wants from life and has dreams and goals!Is in my opinion much wiser,and I would think has more experience in relationships.I could go on for days.LOL<P>Yes.........I would need a younger one per say to "Keep up w/me"......LOL......but I have no doubt in my mind that there is a Man out there that wouldn't have a problem w/that. .....LOL<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>And older guys get grey hair sooner? is grey a good color?<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>OOOOOh.......you are right they do,but just an FYI, grey hair in my book is a very very attractive color to have!.....I am attracted to men w/grey hair so no biggie for me.<BR>I even think that sometimes it is a turn on.... :.(man,I am giving away all of my secrets.....) .........LMAO,<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>they also kick the bucket earlier in your lifetime, so you thinking about collecting insurance and living the good life in retirement?<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Yeah.....I do supose that you are right about that.........BUT......what is the point of having all of the money when you don't have the love of your life to share it w/??!!!!....I for one would not like to have that happen and would hope that he would try to keep him self fit and healthy.<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Oh, I get it, you were only trying to make murph feel good, so he would be considered a candidate!<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>SSSSSSSSSHHHHHHHHHHhhhhhh!.....yeah,but you don't need to tell him that...now who has the big mouth!!!!.. <P>Gina <P><BR><P>------------------<BR>"If we deny love that is given to us,if we refuse to give love because we fear pain or loss,then our lives will be empty,our loss greater!"-----Anonymous----

OK, Gina,<P>You may have fooled the others, but, I know what you really mean here. <P>"I would think [he] has more experience in relationships.I could go on for days"<P>You naughty girl <P>Zippy

Hey Medic!!!<P>It is good to hear from you.......... <P>Why..........I don't know what you are<BR>talking about! ......(I'm blonde remember)<P>So,have you thought about coming out and meting in Nashville.......I am getting my tickets TOMORROW!!........YIPPEE!<P>Gina <P><P>------------------<BR>"If we deny love that is given to us,if we refuse to give love because we fear pain or loss,then our lives will be empty,our loss greater!"-----Anonymous----

Hey Gina,<P>I would love to come out and meet all our friends. Too early for a def answer yet for me.<P>It was great meeting Bill. I felt like I knew him forever.<P>Hope you weren't offened by the previous post, some things just hit me funny. Yep, I'm a perv by nature. I fell down the cellar steps as a child [remember ]<P>Have to crash, the old man is getting tired.<P>I tried to call my dispatcher friend, but couldn't find the damned eleven button on the phone. I'll have to look again in the morning. I think the phone downstairs has that button. <P>The Zipman

Hey Zippy,<P>LOL.......It is ok.......when the time gets closer maybe you will know more.....the more the merrier and we do need more Men!!....LOL <P><BR>Oh,......no not at all........It is ok,I think that I am pretty warped my self! <BR>I have a crazy sence of humor.....I am the one that keeps everybody at work on there toes!...LOL<P>Yeah.....I do know what you mean.....now w/summer over.....and having to go back to work I am having to go to bed earlier!<P>OOOh.....you have a downstairs??....Ok,so now Murph has a basement and you have a downstairs......I am soooo jealous!<P>Get some sleep.........and take it easy!<P>Gina <P><BR><P>------------------<BR>"If we deny love that is given to us,if we refuse to give love because we fear pain or loss,then our lives will be empty,our loss greater!"-----Anonymous----

Yeah, grey hair, I have some of that damn stuff, it gets blown back by the wind as we head down the other side of the HILL!<P>the only goals i have in life come from putting the soccer ball in the back of the net! still trying to get it in there.<P><B> remember, book your flights now, and get the best rates you can before the huge jump in fuel prices this winter! </B><P>thl<P>

Gina:<BR> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>I know that you are only joking around.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Awwwwww Man!!!!!!!! I always was transparent around the really hot babes. <P>I’m glad to see that you’re packing good marital skills. Now you’re set for the relationship of your dreams. <P>Things are great with W and I. Thanks for asking.<P><P>------------------<BR>Scott

THL,<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>]Yeah, grey hair, I have some of that damn stuff, it gets blown back by the wind as we head down the other side of the HILL!<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Hey,why is it that you guys have some a big problem w/the grey hair issue???<BR>My stbx was always complaining about it,how he just hated it.....I told him that I love it,would run my fingers through his hair.<P>You men need to learn to take a compliment,and if she is running her fingers through your hair and is brushing up against you then you need to take that compliment and RUN w/it!!!! <P>Hey.....as I see it.......going down the other side of that hill could be fun!!<BR>WHEEEE!!!!...... <P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>the only goals i have in life come from putting the soccer ball in the back of the net! still trying to get it in there.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>LOL.....Well,now let's be honest here Thl,it is kinda hard to get the ball in the net when your oogling the Hot Soccer Babes!!!!!....LOL<BR> <P><BR>Yep.....your right,I am going to order them today!!!.....Even if this all happens to fall through.....I am still going!!!....LOL<P>Gina needs a vacation away from being mommy!!<P>Take it easy!<P>Gina <BR><P>------------------<BR>"If we deny love that is given to us,if we refuse to give love because we fear pain or loss,then our lives will be empty,our loss greater!"-----Anonymous----

Hey Gina:<P>I'm joining in way late but I agree with the others to have fun but take it slow. Of course, I am the last person who should be giving that advice. I am having fun but definitely did not take it slow. <P>Isn't it nice to feel attractive again? I was so surprised when men started asking me out. What a great feeling. I had given up on myself a long time ago. Do you think if our spouses had kept up with the compliments over the years things would have been different? Of course, that goes both ways. But, I digress.<P>By the way Murph, even after 18 years with my x, he did still open my car door and bring me flowers. But the buck stopped there, unfortunately.

Hey Jen,<P>It is ok.......better late then never right?<BR>LOL. <P>OMG......it is wonderful!.........for the longest time,I felt like "Mommy".(I had lost all of my Sexuality as a Women and I was just boring Mom.)I feel as tho I have a part of me back that was lost after having my children.(at least 8 or 9 years worth.)<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Do you think if our spouses had kept up with the compliments over the years things would have been different?<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Ok......so this brings up a very good point.I have thought about this.<P>This is my take........when 2 people met and then start to date.....what is it that the Man does that makes the women feel good?(not that you guys!!!....LOL)<P>They Smooth Talk them.......even if they are sincere or not.....that is what they do,they go on and on how wonderful you are and how beautiful and so on........it is fantastic feeling to know that you are desired and found attractive!<P>So........when this happens the women naturally wants to be "Close" to her man.<BR>She wants to show him back that she feels the same way and I do think that it is shown in that fashion.<P>Now........after they have been together for so long.......he doesn't tell her these things any more.....(she may have gained some weight,or doesn't dress as nice.)But should that really matter.......To me if he is wanting to be intimate w/her than he needs to tell her that he still finds her very much attractive,wants and desires her!<P>Then when he is getting what he "wants".....she starts to feel used and sees her self as a peice of meat.All of the hurt,anger and bitterness comes in to play and then he wonders why he aint "getting any".<P>I for one ........think that if 2 people can treat each day as if it was there first than you wouldn't have a lot of the problems that go on.(I know mind you,you will still have problems,no one is perfect.)<P>When you are dating you don't ever take that person forgranted!!!(that to me is the key!)<P><BR>Just my 2 cents worth.......LOL<BR>(actually might not be even worth that but oh,well!!!)<P>Take it easy.....and see ya in Nashville!<P>Gina <P><P>------------------<BR>"If we deny love that is given to us,if we refuse to give love because we fear pain or loss,then our lives will be empty,our loss greater!"-----Anonymous----

Well Gina:<P>I agree with you completely.<P>How is it going now with the cute guy!<P>Sounds like he is lucky to get a date with you.

Gina,<P>Ok here is my take on this question....<P>Should one or shouldn't one date a co-worker???<P>Conventional wisdom says don't dip your quill in company ink...<P>However...The work place may be a decent place to get to know someone...<P>For me where I work is too small of a company to date a co-worker, even though pickings are pretty good. 2 guys to 14 women.<P>I say get to know him...then decide...you just never know...<P>I'm a little slow...What's the deal with Nashville??? Are all of my cyber buddies meeting??? Can I come???<P>Right now I am sitting at Soulloss's computor, way up here in Canada. I visited Medic and we had a great dinner. Like he sais it felt like I knew him all my life. My visit with Dylan and Deut is the same. I hate I have to leave in the am 16 hr drive home <P>Well that's MHO.<P>Bill

Jen,<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>How is it going now with the cute guy!<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Oh........Jen,cute is not the word to even come close to discribing this guy! <P>He is down right gorgeous!! I found out that he has done a little modeling.We were in the computer lab and sitting looking at our e-mails..... he was talking w/the other PE teacher that he works w/ showing her the pictures that he has.He than kinda leans over to me and says......."Gina would you like to see them?"......I just sat there w/a blank look on my face!(on the inside I was screaming YES,YES,YES....I would!)So,as camly as I could I said,"Well,sure if you would like to show me."<P>OMG!!!!!!.......just black and white pictures that I can't even disgribe!<P>I have NEVER EVER been into the looks of a Man,..........I honestly don't know how I am going to get through the year!..........I can't even stand by him,w/out my palms sweating and my knees going weak.LOL.... <P>I have never even been affected this way before either.........OMG,I feel like this giddy little school girl that has a crush on the captin of the football team!!!!...LMAO<P>[Quote]Sounds like he is lucky to get a date with you.QUOTE]<P>Thanks Jen..........who knows what will happen,I really think that I shouldn't "DATE" him.......maybe go out as a group and get to know him more that way.<P>Heck......I might change my mind on that!I don't really know!......LOL <P>Bill,<P>Hey there!.......<P>I do agree w/you!!<P>I am just taking each day as it comes and having fun at work........man is he a FLIRT,I still can't get over the fact that he is flirting w/me!!<P>Oh........and his smile!.....I have come to the conclusion that it is now a smile of a man that is soooooo attractive!!<P>YES we are meting up in NASHVILLE!!!<BR>Jan 26th 2001......YIPPEE!<BR>I got my confirmation # just yesturday and am ready to rock!<P>YES........you can come!!..........anybody and everybody that wants to come is more than welcome!..........<P>Take it easy.........<P>Gina <P><P>------------------<BR>"If we deny love that is given to us,if we refuse to give love because we fear pain or loss,then our lives will be empty,our loss greater!"-----Anonymous----

Gina: <P>Have fun girl! Can you post a picture of this guy on the site for us. Just kidding! I still have that diet coke commercial guy as my screensaver. Remember him? What a babe. Sounds like this guy can give him a run for the money. Oh, and before I get slammed by anyone, I know there is more to men than looks. But, still . . . <P>Sounds like you are trying to take this slow but it also sounds like it is going to take a lot to resist this man's charm. <P>You are a smart woman. Stick to your guns!<P>On a completely different subject, is anyone getting any grief from others regarding meeeting in Nashville with people from an internet site?<P>Jen

Jen,<P>I get grief all the time from my mom and dad about talking to people online! LOL They think that everyone's a stalker! LOL (Watch it, Murph! I'm onto you! LOL)<P>Yeah, there are some sick-o's but I'm hoping none of them are here! <P>Mitzi <P>

Gina,<P> This new guy is showing off his modeling pictures?<P> Oh,Brother!! <BR> Can you say"Narcissist"?<P> Let old Murph tell you all about those kinda guys.We got a guy like that down at work.You go in the bathroom,and there he is,posing in the mirror.Checking out the physique,from every angle.Gotta get the hair.....just right.<BR> Turns out he's gay! <P><BR> Jen,<BR> Ok,so I didn't open cardoors,my mistake.<BR> But I did bring her flowers,for 22 years.<BR>The buck didn't stop there,though.I was always spending money on her! <P><BR> Jodie,<BR> No stalkers here.But I did like what you were wearing yesterday out in your back yard!<P> ~~Murph/Sicko

Hi Gina,<P>I've been away, this was a nice post to check first. Got me giggling. Brought back some memories for me. And old rules.<P>In the olden days of dating, I learned: Never date a man who is prettier than I am, never date a man who wears more hairspray than I do, never date a man who spends more time at the gym than reading the newspaper. And I think I'll add one - never date a man who carries around 8 by 10 B/W glossies of himself...<P>I dated a very handsome bodybuilder for a short time. When I got past the insecurity of being imperfect, I noticed he would always check himself out when we would pass by a mirror, a plate glass window, a car window...anything with a reflection! But not the unobserved quick check women take, you know, like to make sure there is no lipstick on the teeth, but a long stare admiring how great he looked. Just like Murph said!<P>I think you'll have more fun with this one keeping him panting, and being the one hot babe he can't have... bet he isn't used to that!

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR> On a completely different subject, is anyone getting any grief from others regarding meeeting in Nashville with people from an internet site? <HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>they know I have been with the electronic age since it started. So my STBX who feels threatened by computers, like they make her feel stupid by just sitting there on the desk, thinks I am crazy saying that you are friends.<P>but hey, whats the difference between conversation with someone at the bar, or you meet out in real life, and someone you meet in the chat room, especially one as serious as this? the difference here is that you can't tell by the visual clues if the person is full of [censored] or not. <P>like he says he is rich on here, but when you meet him, he has no teeth, and a peg leg with a parrot on his shoulder!<P>the internet is dangerous for naieve people and addictive people, who get high without looking at what they are doing.<P>they can think I'm crazy, but hey, if I don't like it, I can always find something to do by myself, or just relax.<P>what will be wierd is the "imagined" picture we have of each other. I can't wait to see what a Butterfly, or a Cinderella looks like, I don't have any sense of image.<P>but I will be there, with or without anyone else.<P>thl

Murph:<P>I don't know how you do the quotes but<P>You said:<P>"Ok,so I didn't open cardoors,my mistake.<BR>But I did bring her flowers,for 22 years.<BR>The buck didn't stop there,though.I was always spending money on her! "<P>Too funny. Nice to have a comedian around during this time. I wish my x had always spent money on me. Unfortunately, he didn't have much bucks. But, we did have lots of credit cards. I wish we could divorce those! <P>Jen

Hi thl,<P>I too view this board as very different from the sleazy side of the internet - this is a legitimate way to "meet" people. My ex was (and is) addicted to the raunchiness of the net. Big difference. <P>I was raised as a pretty private person, we aren't open (e.g., house burned down, family in hospital, someone asks "how are you doing?" I would respond, "fine thankyou, and you?") I have mentioned this board a few times to my parents, but have not talked about it with any friends - it just hasn't come up. And to a certain extent, this seems private to me, like in the divorce groups, it was understood, what was said in that room stayed in that room.<P>When the time comes close to the Nashville weekend, and I let people know about it, I will treat it more like a divorce "seminar" type thing, to avoid having anyone worry about me - which is natural, with the reputation the net and chat rooms have.<P>My problem is not going to be telling lots of people, but telling my friend. I don't want him to think I'm keeping something from him, but this is something that is a private side of me - and if I thought I lost my anonymity, and had to write thinking, what if he saw this... well, it loses the therapeutic value of total honesty. So there is my moral dilemma. Any suggestions for me?