hi medic,<BR>come down?! Yikes, I will have to come up to get to nville. Not committing at this time, just wondered abt the dates, just in case. Saw a couple different ones posted on another thread, so wanted some clarification. I wander over to this forum occ to check up on some of you, but have been on/off mb for the summer mos while moving. Still hang out at recovery and working on things. Read my post on this forum 'to d or not to d'. As always I value your opinion. <BR>Ahhh, you knew I just wanted to meet you Zippy! Yep indeedy sir! <BR>How are u doing? Saw the d is final? Right? And?????? <BR>((((hugs)))) cl<P>

Hey CL,<P>Sorry, dopey me! I was holding the map upside down, duh! But, that's me, bass ackwards.<P>How am I doing? I couldn't be better!! Having a great time being me again. Val suppressed the Village Idiot and I hated it!<P>The D should have been done and over with last month. I still run to the mailbox everyday waiting for the final paperwork and the tee shirt! What is taking so long?<P>My D present should be here very shortly. A new shiney "arrest me" red Trans Am, of course with the vanity plate of "XWS LOSS"!<P>Hope you are doing well also.<P>Zippy

Zippy - how ya' doin'? I've missed hearing from you. So, you are coming to the hot tub party? Yeah? I thought so. <P>thl - Thanks. I appreciate the reassurance. The other boards are a lot more serious than this one. I do forget that till I go there. BTW - think I could find the book at the library? I want to know just why you don't think you could participate in our orgy. Is it because d won't be final yet?:P You've been around long enough and you've been vocal enough. I could probably get you a ticket.<P>SO - if there's anyone out there I have insulted lately, get a grip. This is the bulk of my adult conversation somedays. And if I haven't insulted you and you want me to, e-mail me and let me know. I can probably find something that will work? <BR>

Cinderella,<P>sorry about the work address, i thought since she couldn't get you at home, I would use both addresses. otherwise, i wouldn't use your work address.<P> as far as the hot tub goes, i've only been in one once or twice, so i don't want to show my inexperience at hot tubbing! <P>thl<p>[This message has been edited by WhenIfindthetime (edited October 12, 2000).]

thl - The work address was no crisis. I think you'll figure out how to behave at the hottub. Mostly you sit there and talk. But with this group, you never know.

Hi all,<BR>I decided not to go after all. No, I'm not offended by anyone (honest). I just happen to believe that although the STATED intent is to just meet people and hang out, the IMPLIED intent is "whatever happens, happens".<P>We're all adults, no biggie. Just not up to a swingin' weekend, or being third wheel amongst those maybe, kinda, sorta wanting to hook up with someone. Sorry.<P>A bunch of (probably) drunk people, who haven't had sex in a long time, sitting in a hot tub sounds like trouble to me, but ya'll have fun. I really mean that!

TS,<P>bummer, I think you take Cinderella too seriously, and I have booked a single, no roommates, so I want to be able to see the city, have some fun away from home by myself,<BR>with some friends who have helped me makes sense of my life, and have helped me know that I am not the only one. You have made some good points, and some not so agreeable points, as I have also. <P>But I would like to meet my MB, not cyber, friends, and i would like to see Zippy and Gina to put on a happy skit! <P>Hope you change your mind. I am not going with any intentions of anything other than bashing the X in person, seeing a new city, playing lazer tag, have never done it, eating some native cooking, and drinking with some friends.<P>Although I said I would not room with Bill, and made a comment, that was never because I didn't like him, but because he was a guy in jest. I would just rather have my own room, be by my self.<P>So think about joining us, and have your own room. I really don't think our imagination is reality. There are better things to do in nashville, since it will be my first time.<P>take care<P>thl

WIFTT,<BR>It's not about you or Cinderella, or anyone else. Honest. I was kind of having cold feet about it, which is why I had only committed to one night. I'm honestly forcing myself to avoid situations where I could become attached to anyone. I've got big plans for the next couple of years (finishing my PhD), and it is starting to feel good not to have that yearning feeling anymore. I'm actually starting to forget what sex was like. It has been over a year and a half now.<P>So, I should change the wording to...<P>ME with too much to drink, sitting in a hot tub half-naked would be trouble.

TS,<P>I wish you would reconsider, it is not going to be an orgy! Don't you want to meet some of us? Put faces to the names?<P>Obviously some of us have made some special connections with others on the boards, Me not being the exception. It's going to happen, give me a break! I found that someone else thinks like me, that's a scarey thought!!! I scare myself sometimes!!! That doesn't mean that I am going to Nville just to throw one in her, I'm not like that. If all I wanted was sex my first X is more than willing.<P>If the hot tub and drinking is a problem, just avoid it, seems simple enough to me, but I am the village idiot so....<P>Still hoping you will do a fly by.<P>The Zipman

"If the hot tub and drinking is a problem, just avoid it, seems simple enough to me, but I am the village idiot so...."<P>That is what I'm doing. A three hour drive away is a safe distance, don't cha think? <P>Actually, it would be really nice to see some MB people get together. You all deserve to be happy again, and who better than other MB'ers who have gone through the same things and have some good concepts to live by. If going to Nashville is an opportunity (either looked for or not) for that to happen, then more power to ya! I just know that the best thing for me right now is stay nice and safe in my little "monastery". Thanks for thinking of me though!!<BR>

Cinderella, not sure i felt insulted by your comments previously, just felt it was rather cool and not the normal friendly mb bunch i am used to. No biggie-i have no idea what you are going thru and am not real quick to judge. I ignored the quite inaccurate response from wiftt? thl. Being neither a newbie (10/98) or an overly sensitive person, he must have been referring to some entity unknown to me.<BR>The net is great but sometimes things get lost in the translation-no body mechanics to see, no expressions to feel, etc. <BR>Student.....where are you now? Still in GA? One of these days I am going to take you up on that sailing lesson! If you decide to go to nashville, let me know! <BR>aloha, cl

Cl,<BR>I thought I recognized you. I remember talking to you about my sailing stuff awhile back!<P>I'm still in Atlanta. I had the sailing membership for a year, and just recently dropped it. It was getting too expensive, and Lake Lanier sailing pretty much sucks. I prefer the ocean or "moving" water that is not totally filled up by "stink-boaters" and jet-skis. That is my sailing friend's not-so-nice name for power boaters <P>I did become a member of the GaTech sailing club, but would need about a weeks notice to go out. The other membership was nice because I could go out whenever I wanted. Ah well. You get what cha pay for!

TS,<P>You better show up in Nville! I've been honing my lazer tag skills! LOL LOL<P>Hey I won't be drinking, but I'll prolly soak in the hot tub.<P>I tell ya, I ve met 4 MB friends in person over the last 6 months, our resident self proclaimed "village idiot" LOL Zippy was one of them. In each instance it was like old home week, and as if we've known each other our whole lives!<P>So c'mon down and hoist a club soda with us!<P>Bill

OK - I feel totally flamed.<P>CL - When I replied as I did, I didn't recognize your user name and had no idea you'd been around in the past. I was wondering why someone who hadn't been here over the last few months would want to join us in January. I had waited for a day or so for someone else, who might know you, to reply and gave you a "whatever" sort of reply because I had so little info to go on and I hated to have you sitting out there waiting for a reply. It's fine with me if you come. Honestly.<P>Stu- I'd love to have you come even if for only one night. From your many posts, I'd say you've done some solid soul-searching and have some good stuff to share. However, I'd say you do have a tendency to jump on everyone who doesn't share your same views. Usually, though, your attacks don't bother me. This one did. <BR> <BR>I was just joking about the orgy. I have to say that I'd basically qualify for the title of "good girl" and would be the last one planning a real orgy. One of the advantages/disadvantages of setting this thing up with shared rooms is that it makes sex a little harder if that is your goal.<P>Get a grip, people. I'va apologized once and you can't get over it. What gives?<BR><p>[This message has been edited by cinderella (edited October 16, 2000).]

as other MBs will attest to,<P>orgy? <B> NOT IN THIS LIFETIME! </B><P>thl

Cinderella,<P>You must be talking about my posts on the "chemistry" thread. That was quite awhile ago. I'm pretty sure we aren't here to all agree with each other. That would be pretty boring. You have noticed (I hope) that I've stopped posting on the "dating" threads. Too controversial for me. Seems a few people around here aren't gonna let me "live that down". Like, everytime they post to me they've got to tell me how much they agree or disagree with post whatever from thread BFE. <P>so what "attack" are you referring to? Something on this thread? I did say - quote "I know you are just kidding" unquote. And I meant that. I also meant that my decision not to go to Nashville had nothing to do with you or anyone else. And I sincerely meant that too. Now you come back and accuse me of attacking you? What for? Cause I decided not to go to NV? <P>I really DO get the joke about the "orgy", and I really DO want you all to have a fun time! Sheesh. Did it ever occur to you that I'm not exactly in the mood to be the "token" betrayer there? Yea, what fun for me, listening to you guys bash your betraying ex's. I have a hard enough time getting through the day with my OWN guilt. Unlike you, I DO have something to prove. And that is that I'm not going to get swept off my feet again by a few kind words (like I did with the OM). Innocent or not. Whatever I have to do to make sure of that, is what *I* need to do right now. And I promise you, it has nothing to do with anything you've said or done. O-tay? O-tay.

O-tay.

Damn TS, I hate that you feel like the token betrayer around a bunch of ex bashers.<P>I don't think any of us label each other in that manner. I see a group of people that have been hurt, and have found solice at this web site. The how's and why's we were hurt don't mean ****! We all have a bond and that's the therapeutic help we've given each other.<P>Do reconcider....if anyone gets out of line I'll help you kick their [censored] LOL<P>Bill

Hi Bill,<BR>No, you guys don't do that to me. I do. Feeling bad about something isn't quite the same as never having done it, and that fact doesn't escape me when I come here. <P>Maybe I will have healed a little more before January. We'll see. I would like to get those pamphlets you mentioned though, in any case.<P>Cinderella,<BR>Something occurred to me the other day. So many of us lived in situations where our ex's never really said what they meant. There were so many lies, and half-truths, that we all have a hard time knowing which way is up. E-mail is tough. You can't see someone's expression. <P>Truth be told, my "dark" side wouldn't mind being in an orgy right about now. Before my self-imposed celibacy, I had sex every night for over 8 yrs with my ex, and before then, I'd say my longest "dry spell" was probably 6-8 months. Not that any of the MB guys would be going there to "throw one in" (as Medic says). Oh, I don't know. I think you can understand, can't cha?<P>

Stu- Yeah, I understand. It is tough without the expression, without inflection, without body language. I got a big grin out of you admitting that your dark side might like an orgy. And you are oh, so right, about the lies or half-truths. We're all recovering from being a bunch of "bloody messes" and I am really looking forward to January. Come if you can. I'm the party planner, I don't guess I have much choice. I wouldn't miss it, though.<P>I guess it would be inappropriate for me to say that everyone who wishes to participate in the orgy must bring recent proof from their physician that they are free of any and all STDs? Can anyone handle that joke? Oh, and we need someone to volunteer to host the orgy. That's out of my league.