Jayhawk93,<BR>Yes, it's true. I'm Jewish. And after years of hearing it, my mind immediately finishes that sentence in the same way. <P>When I pray for folks here on the forum, I use my "Jewish" format because it is the way I pray..that and I thought writing it in Hebrew would just confuse people (haha). I happen to be a Reform Jew, and I thought in this day and age of interfaith marriages and English in the services, it would make sense to pray using a "Jewish" style but English words. Plus, to be honest, I find it easier to pray to the Creator of the Universe in the language in which I talk. <P>Nick,<BR>How are you? I miss you! I miss your wisdom on the Emotional Needs forum. You still have emotional needs, right? <P>Please give us an update if you have a minute. You are still in my constant thoughts and prayers, and I am still praying that your wife will OPEN HER EYES and see the man that you are becoming.<P>{{{{{{{{{{Nick}}}}}}}}}}<P>You are in my prayers,<P> CJ

CJ,<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>I happen to be a Reform Jew, and I thought in this day and age of interfaith marriages <HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>I am also a Reform Jew, my wife is Methodist and we had a Baptist minister perform our wedding ceremony. How's that for a combination <P>------------------<BR>JH93

Hi CJ & Jayhawk,<P>She's basically given up and doesn't want to pursue counselling or working together. There is pretty strong evidence of someone else in her life, but the 2 instances I brought it up, she became very defensive. In fact, when we talked about why she didn't want to try anymore, my suspicion of the other guy was one of the reasons she gave.<P>I've told her that I've not given up, but am letting her go. I truly believer that it's over, but if she were to come back in a reasonable amount of time and ask to try to work on us, I would with try all my heart. My feelings of value and self worth having taken a major hit. I feel pretty unattractive and undesirable right now, and pretty much of a failure in my relationship with her, so it's not going to take me very long to not feel anything for her.<P>CJ, <P>It was 67 days from the time she told me she wasn't in love with me til she said she was giving up. Her mind has been made up for a long time and I'm sure it will be long after I've given up, that she realizes what a big mistake she's made.<P>Jayhawk,<P>It's tough, but I have to move on as though she is gone. She is a very strong willed and determined person. This is what she thinks she wants & she is going to get it. I am working on my life now. She doesn't show any interest in spending any time together right now and that makes it impossible to do anything. I'm making sure to plan A every chance I get, though. My door is open, unfortunately I don't see her ever walking back through it.<P><P>------------------<BR>nick<P>it's only time that heals the pain and makes the sun come out again