CJ-<P>Count me in for the reunion in Denver. I might be able to check into some facilities at Univ. of Denver. God I'd love to get up to Copper Mountain or Steamboat to ski!<P>Ok...Bull n' Bush? Ok..what about the Lift and the Starboard Tack...can you say Mr. G's and what was the Topless bar on Colorado Blvd and...was it Alameda or was it Cherry Creek Drive North? First McDonald's in the state was on Colorado and Mississippi near the Leaning Tower of Pizza...and last but not least...the Cooper Theater...Home of Cinerama!<P>Back to the thread...I was unfortunately in the WithOut For Years Club. I've read much on the subject and...the two very good writings on Sexuality and Loving Your Partner are from MB - The Emotional Needs Questioinaire - Sexual Fullfillment and Dr. Phil McGraw who points out..."Most people have a sensual and sexual need to feel desired, flaws, fallacies and warts and all, and if those relationships that it is a strain, can many times cause feelings of rejection and resentment. If you have a good sexual relationship, it registers about 10% on the "importance scale" - meaning it makes up about 10% of what's important in the relationship. But if you do not have a good sexual relationship, that registers about 90% on the importance scale. A good sexual relationship can make you feel more relaxed, accepted and more involved and linked with your partner...but if your life together is devoid of sensual caring and sex, then the issue becomes a gigantic focus of the relationship!<P>What does everyone else think?<P>mr rlk

Hey, can anyone join this thread? I read it on Thursday night before I left, and just had a chance to catch up... I was wondering how long it would take before someone mentioned batteries... Mitzi & I are trying to work out a truckload deal .<P>First, I'm only about 5 or 6 hours south of Denver. <P>I guess I miss sex in the evenings... not that we had sex in the evenings much, but that's when I think about it. And about 2 am. Definately on Sunday mornings too. <P>It's not just the physical part of sex that I miss, but the mental part... the connection of body, mind and spirit. Feeling charished and loved.<P>*Sigh* I think I need to go take a cold shower.... <P>Smooches,<BR>Butterfly

Butterfly,<P>Oh sure! When you mention my name, make sure you mention batteries! LOL LOL<P>Mitzi

I was wondering how long it was going to take before you two showed up <P>Welcome aboard, and please feel free to post any of your sex topics as well. I shouldn't be getting all of the attention here!

Hey Mitzi-<P>Long time...how are you? You are looking mighty fine from some of your latest threads.<BR>I recall the other Mitzi back in December, of last year and January of this year...that was a sad and confused Mitzi! You have really made your trip and grown along the way...I can feel it {{{Mitzi}}}<P>CJ is trying to possibly give you competition for a road trip /reunion to Denver.<P>mr rlk<p>[This message has been edited by mrrlk (edited October 25, 2000).]

Butterfly-<P>Is Mr. Chows Restaurant still open in L.A.? Near Rodeo drive?<P>Yes...I remember like you say...I could not tell where I ended and she began...we felt like we were one and could take on the world!<P>mr rlk

I miss it when I'm awake! No seriously right now I would rather have a real kiss from my wife than and hour of hot and heavy with a barely known.<BR>The kiss touches my soul.<BR>

Daniel,<P>I agree 100%

Jayhawk,<P>I've been keeping up with this thread. (Of course! It's about sex! LOL) Just hadn't posted yet! <P>When do I miss sex? Hmmmmmm...when I'm awake and when I'm asleep. I think that about covers it! LOL<P>mrrlk,<P>I noticed you had been posting again. How are you??<P>I'm doing a lot better than last year. My God! It's been almost a year! Doesn't seem like it's been that long!<P>I go to court tomorrow. It should be our final hearing and the divorce should be final tomorrow too. I'm really looking forward to it! Weird, huh? About 9 months ago, I was a mess. But now, I'm so much stronger and so much happier!! I don't think life could get much better!<P>When's the trip to Denver?? Don't forget...there is a trip to Nashville in January!! I will definately be there!!!!<P>Mitzi

I disappear for the evening and look what happens... I have to get caught up all over again! Geez!<P>Reunion... Sure, I'll bring the coffee, but it may be spiked with something! Just giving you all the prewarning....<P>Mitzi... I swore batteries were mentioned before, but I will try and make sure that they are brought up more often to get you in on the conversation. You know... Duracell wrote me a letter of thanks for being such a loyal customer. I think that they want me to stay this way for their profits!! (HA!) <P>Take care of yourselves, and thanks guys... the smiles the past few days that I have gotten from here have been much needed and greatly appericiated!!<P>-Java

I think dr. Phils' idea on this is correct...for me, sex was not what I wanted unless other things in our relationship felt ok. Did I feel loved, was he holding up his end of the marriage, etc...and, unfortunately for me, I withheld sex if I did not feel good about it. Sex was a big EN for him. I think sex with anyone was an EN for him. Maybe that is why I did not want sex with him very often, I never felt special, never felt appreciated, I felt like his mom a lot of the time. <BR>So, he looked elsewhere. When I first found out, I tried to meet his need. But, I think it was too late by then. <BR>Now after coming out of the fog and trying to reconnect with another, sex is important for me, as well. But, I feel loved and I feel important in this new relationship. So, I am open to sex and am enjoying it like I haven't in a long while. <BR>I think that is a difference inmen and women. Men can let the day to day stuff roll off and enjoy sex. I think women tend to hold on to issues and let it effect how they feel sexually. Ladies, anyone think this??<P>------------------<BR>Susan

mrrkl, <BR>I don't know if Mr. Chow's is still there or not... I'll have to check it out the next time I'm out there (probably in December ~ keep your fingers crossed ). <P>I didn't get down to BH this time... stayed in the San Fernando Valley & Universal City mostly. <P>HI MITZI! I wasn't the first one to mention batteries, I promise! But, since the topic was there.... I had to jump it.... Umm, I mean jump on it.... errrrr... bite it.... well, I had to comment. <P>I'd just like to mention, as a stockholder in Duracell and Energizer (gottal love the bunny).... thank you all for the profits! <P>Susan, <BR>Yes, I agree... I know I need to feel affection, respect, and so many other things to really be able to enjoy sex.... unless alcohol is involved just kidding. <BR>My X always wanted to use sex to make up for a fight, but unless the issues were resolved, it just didn't work for me. <P>Type at ya'll later,<BR>B

Ok guys!<P>I guess since we can't HAVE sex, we can talk about it! <P>I'll have you all know, (BUTTERFLY!) that I ordered that truckload of batteries! Got a big discount too! I'm willing to share a few boxes! <P>I agree with the part about needing the emotions to go with the sex. It makes it so much nicer! But there are times when a good ole fling sounds pretty good! <P>Mitzi

I just know I'm going to regret this, but I can't keep it in.<P>Nobody's mentioned rechargeables. Does the lower output votage & consquently lower amperage (I remember a little of ohms law) result in a less satisfactory experience than the throw aways? (less amps = weaker vibes?) <P>I'm kind of environmental (ok, maybe just mental) but I have nightmares of landfills overflowing with alkaline D cells <P>Think green!<P>------------------<BR>nick<P>it's only time that heals the pain and makes the sun come out again<p>[This message has been edited by c00ker (edited October 25, 2000).]

If you have visited the "Weekend In Nashville" or"Booking Into Nashville" threads, you have discovered that group ash hauling is a definite possibility for the weekend. Read thread to get details of trip and to find out about requirements for ash hauling. Nothing is definite. Except the hot tub. I've seen it and it is big enough for a group. The orgy, however, is optional and may or may not take place as no one has volunteered to host it. As the church secretary, I feel that is inappropriate for me although making plans for spiritual edification and fellowship in and around a hot tub is ok.<p>[This message has been edited by cinderella (edited October 25, 2000).]

Batteries!? Sex!? Flings!?<P>Good Lord ladies, I've said it hundred times! Go easy on a guy!! <P>LOL LOL LOL<P>Hey Mitzi, A whole truckload of batteries? You must have a lot of flashlights! LOL LOL<P>Bill

Bill, we just want you to feel like you're gonna get what you requested.

I don't think the landfill around here would be over flowing with D batteries!....I only use C!!! <P>Bill,<P>Flashlights?? I don't think so! <P>Mitzi

Ok I had to bite on the ash hauling. It so happens I have a bucket with a lid at home specifically for the safe transportation of fire remains Not sure if it's UL approved or Air Shippable, but it does a good job between the wood stove and the trash can. Seems I've been hauling my own ashes longer than I thought <P>This place is a riot!!!<P>------------------<BR>nick<P>it's only time that heals the pain and makes the sun come out again<p>[This message has been edited by c00ker (edited October 25, 2000).]

You are so funny. Only you would have a receptical specially made for hauling ash.<P>I just checked onto the "Weekend in Nashville" thread--whoa! I didn't realize this was for real! Definately count me in! I love Nashville, and Memphis too, and since I am a world-traveler, I'll use any excuse to jet around. Regarding the orgy, is that toga or no toga (haha)? I'm open minded, but not yet that open!! Cinderella, will you be leading the Biblestudy at the hot tub? If not, I'm sure Jayhawk and I can answer all of your Jewish questions. Right Jayhawk?<P>Regarding batteries...well, I have one old faithfull AAA set, and two user-friendly AA and C sets, but since I like the real thing so much better, batteries don't quite cut it. Besides, living in Colorado, it just wouldn't be right to fill the pristine land with battery landfill. I'm a nature girl, and since I'm born on April 20th, I am also VERY patient--although some call it stubborn. <P>CJ<P>------------------<BR>Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.