Well Nellie, <P>No fog here - I was the BS, my husband is sick - he has a repetative pattern of treating people who care for him like dirt - a long habit and one he has chosen to not try and change. He is also a sex addict - and doesn't seem to mind much that his hobbies/habits hurt people. He feels no guilt or remorses - the counselors call him an emotional anorexic. It appears - he is content with that.<P>The only fog I was in was that if I loved him enough - he would eventually love me unconditionally, as I did him - wrong! I worked to make it work for 19 years - I'm just plain tired and he has said he will not change - so there is my choice - stay in the situation or move on.....I elected to move on and am very happy - we are both ok with our decisions. We tried very hard, but didn't make it.<P>It just didn't work - means just that - sometimes it doesn't work out - no matter how hard you try. It's rerally hard to make a relationship betweeen two people work when only one wants it.<P>Keri - again I am sorry for your sadness - especially at this time of year - take care and you are in my prayers. <P>J