Hi everyone,<P>I was asked today by my best friend who is contemplating a separation this question.."how can you make your marriage work if only one of the partners says they still love the other?" She says she still loves her husband (although not as passionately) but the husband has told her he no longer loves her, hasn't in many years, and is in fact "in love" with his "other woman.<P>So with all this information, how does one fix a marriage with only one partner making the effort?

Hi TL,<P>Based on my experience, you don't <P>But that doesn't mean she shouldn't try. The MB/DB principles seem very logical, but make sure she knows that it's gonna hurt, 'cause it really does. But, it can work...<P>Take care...<P>------------------<BR>nick<P>it's only time that heals the pain and makes the sun come out again

TL,<P>Nick said it...........You Don't!<P>It takes 2 dedicated partners committed to eachother to make a Marriage work,but only one person to end it.<P>My first thought was [when my X moved out for a "temporary" Seperation] was how can you "work" on a M when your not living together and never see eachother? Well,you don't. But I held on to the hope [ hence the name Won't Give Up Hope] that we would start to spend more time together,and he would fall back in love w/me and we would stay together.<P>That I do believe could work,but only if the SP is really committed to the M.<P>He showed me exactly thou what I knew deep down,the day he walked out,the M was over.<P>If she still loves him and wants to stay M,then she needs to continue to show him and let him know that.<P>Just my lil 2 cents.<P>Take Care! <P>Gina <P><P>------------------<BR>"If we deny love that is given to us,if we refuse to give love because we fear pain or loss,then our lives will be empty,our loss greater!"-----Anonymous----