Hi Cooker,<P>That was the best I could come up with and just off the top of my head. A big warning sign to me are people (men or women) or need a relationship (friendship or otherwise) more than they want to get to know me. It is not something I can put into words, it is just a feeling that something just isn't right. What they are saying and doing just doesn't jibe, and it applies to any circumstance. <P>

Thanks TS for the bravo. I surprised quite a few of my family and friends with my ability to set boundaries this time. My support group said they have seen a tremendous change in me over the last few months. One of my sisters (I have 4)was thrilled to see that I was now making decisions on my own and not being so dependent on the approval of others before I made my final decisions. She was also glad that I finally stood up to my other sister and told her that she needed to stop parenting me. I know I have only been on my own for a little while but I have found it very helpful. I feel so much stronger and know that I can be on my own.<P>As to the lines, I have heard "I think I'm falling in love with you", "I am a little smitten with you", "Watch out, I'm falling fast". It sounds good when you hear it but I am now seeing through that. I know it's not possible to win someone's heart that easy and that fast.<P>As to the man I was dating, he is a pretty good guy and I have met his friends and they were very nice. He is a member of a large church in my area and we have had many lengthy discussions about religion and relationships. Probably too many at this juncture. I have differing views on religion. I am much more liberal than he is. He had invited me to a wine tasting several weeks ago and I said I would still go to that next week. I would like to still see him if we can just take this slow. He is somebody that I think could be a great friend and maybe more some day. But, right now, I'm not so sure. Since neither of us handled the boundary situation last week in the best way, I hate to rule him out by his reaction. I do believe in second chances. So, we will see what happens next week. If I find that he is still pressuring for me for more, than I will have to call if quits.<P>Nick - When you're ready to get out there, I think you are going to be a great catch. You sound so together. <P>Jen<P>[This message has been edited by 711 (edited February 03, 2001).]<p>[This message has been edited by 711 (edited February 03, 2001).]