Regarding the suggestion of anullment, perhaps someone more knowledgable than me can clarify this interesting point. Here is what I found when I looked into this:<p> 1) Our church doesn't recognize annullment, (I think it is primarily the Catholic church); it is my understanding that anullment for sexual abandonment doesn't apply if the marriage has been consummated and it continues to be consummated (even if it is months or years between intimacies).<p> 2) I think you have to have mutual agreement on this (which we certainly don't)...can anyone straighten me out on this?<p> 3) I don't think there is any scriptural basis for this, is there? <p> 4) Isn't this a divorce, for all practical reasons? Remember, I don't want to separate from my wife and I don't want to remarry.<p>I don't think anullment would help me but its an interesting concept I'd like to know more about.

Klamb, no my MOther wasn't sterilized...my FATHER LIED TO HER ABOUT BEING STERILIZED!!! He told her he'd had a vasectomy, and she believed him!!!!! So, no, she was NOT crazy!!!

Wait a minute Klamb...I just read your last post. If your wife has been this way since puberty, and has only gotten increasingly worse over time, then why did you marry her in the first place? You KNEW this about her beforehand, what went through your mind? THat somehow, marriage will make it better? Change her past and present problems? NO WAY. Marriage is not a band-aid solution to ANY of our problems. If anything, it serves to magnify them. Sounds to me that you had your choices way back then, but you chose HER with HER problems, and now you're whining because it just didn't turn out the way you hoped it would. Sounds like you didn't think this thing all the way through before you committed to this particular woman.

tommywife wrote: If your wife has been this way since puberty...then why did you marry her in the first place? <p> Simple answer: I had no idea of the problem...how could I have known? I guess I should have mentioned that we stayed virgins prior to marriage due to religious beliefs. I was hanging onto my virginity as a teen by my fingernails and was expecting immediate relief and satisfaction after I walked down the isle. Little did I know...