Man I am pissed Y'All!! I had a reply to each of you and ZAPP it gets lost in cyber-space!!<P>Just know I thank each of you very much for the sentiments...<P>To those I corrispond with outside of the forum...You know me better than I know myself in many ways and I thank you for blessing me with your friendships... <P>Tonight was kinda rough...I went to friends house for dinner, we roomed together the 4 of us before our perspective marriges, we stood up in each others weddings, our D's are the samer age...Tonight was the first time I actually spent good time with them in a year....It was strange being there with only Abbey and no Ex...I miss these friends and the companionship we had lots of good times as couples together...Developing a new type of relationship is going to be difficult, but I need to they are great folks and I love them dearly...<P>I really hate my reply got lost...UUURRRGGGHHH<P>Oh well...<P>I love you all very much...<P>Oh BTW, Bonnet...easy on the kisses...I've been without affection for too long LOL LOL LOL<P>Bill

{{{{{{{Bill}}}}}}<P>Sorry for the late reply on your thread, I'm not here a lot any more. <P>You gave it your best, just like Jim and many other great guys here on the board. You deserve better and you'll have it one day. I believe we all will. <P>No matter how bad this all is, and it gets pretty bad and bad for the kids as well, I can't help but believe, and really hope that this is all for some reason and one day, we'll have a better life out of it in some small way. If I didn't believe that, I'd become bitter so thats all I can do.<P>I remember the day I got my d papers, 3 days before my anniversary. My lawyer cleverly stalled mailing ex's for a few days and his arrived on our anniversary. I'll never forget how mad he was. But I was numb. Didn't feel much of anything. I think its not only a weight lifted, because in a way it is, but its also a shock. <P>You'll still have some bad days, hopefully not as many, and I still have plenty. <P>I hope you'll stick around and offer your support to those that follow behind us, Hugs, Dana<BR>

{{{{{{{{{{{{{Bill}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}<P>Hang in there bud.... it does get better. I know I've said it before, but I just passed my 1 year "anniversary" of the D, and things are good.<P>Take care of you and Abbey!<P>Love & Smooches,<BR>Dawnetta<P>------------------<BR>There are deep sorrows and killing cares in life, but the encouragement and love of friends were given us to make all difficulties bearable. <BR>-- John Oliver Holmes<P>The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference.<BR>-- Elie Wiesel<P><BR>

William,<BR>I'm still here - Still with you. You have grown so much<BR>through this unfortunate experience. It is as said: we gain<BR>tremendous strength and wisdom through our most agonizing<BR>experiences.<BR>I for one do not like the sound nor existance of divorce as<BR>we have come to utilize it in America today. Our ease of<BR>execution of divorce makes marriage little more than a <BR>purchased commodity with a no-time-limit return receipt<BR>attached.<P>I truly don't believe that love dies, but only gets buried<BR>sometimes so deeply that one does not recognize it's still<BR>there. Even so, past love is a very potent fertilizer for<BR>the growth of a remarkably healthy future love - one which<BR>you too shall experience.<P>I'm very proud of you.<P>SamH

SamH - well said.<P>