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#705 08/09/99 03:34 PM
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-male<BR>-36<BR>-married 13+ years<BR>-betrayed (8 known times)<BR>-two sons (12 & 10)<BR>-first affair began with old friend nearly 6 years ago over the phone that became physical when she went home for the summer and ended almost 2 years after it began, second affair occurred while she was still having the first, don't remember the details of the others until the last one with what she claims to be a friend<BR>-in all cases I found out about the affairs because of her behavior and tone of voice when she would talk to OM on phone<P>------------------<BR>God Bless,<BR>Rob<P><BR><p>[This message has been edited by professorg (edited August 09, 1999).]

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Female<BR>39 years old<BR>Betrayed<BR>Married 14 years<BR>Two children, ages 6 and 1<P>Husband became withdrawn, angry and emotionally abusive right after our baby girl was born in July 98. Refused to help with baby, wouldn't let me bring the baby into his office, refused to go on vacation with us, disappeared every night and every Saturday. Got fed-up and tossed him out of the house in September '98. Found out (for sure) about affair in December. Entered Plan B in January. Husband had no contact with baby for five months and saw 6 yo son (who he had adored) only twice a month with no in-between phone calls. Husband became depressed and gained extreme amount of weight. Left Plan B around June 1. Husband will not communicate about the affair. I know virtually nothing about the OW but believe it is still going on. Husband met with Steve Harley in June and said he wanted to work things out. The actions haven't supported the words.

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Female<BR>41<BR>betrayed<BR>married 20 years, together 23<BR>OW was co-worker that he "feel in love with". He wanted to end our marriage then, but now wants to save it.<BR>Not his first,.<BR>Legally separated (state requirement before the big "d"), but in the same household<BR>I found out when they drove up the drive way in April.<BR>Ended: well, maybe in May, but who knows the truth, not I.<BR>

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Male<BR>36 -- 37 next month<BR>betrayed<BR>married 4-1/2 years when she left. Almost 5yrs when physical affair happend, 5-1/4 years when internet affairs happened.

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Female<BR>Age 30<BR>Betrayed<BR>Married 10 years<BR>3 children <BR>Affair started in Jan '99 found out in March '99 and it ended in July '99. H had affair with co-worker at his new job in new state, said he loved her at first, but has now come to realize he did not and he was just very depressed.<BR>

#710 08/09/99 05:03 PM
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Female<BR>betrayed<BR>45 yrs old (his second wife)<BR>married 12 yrs<BR>have 11 yr old daughter together.<BR>h 52 yrs old <BR>(1rst wife, had son, now 26 yrs old, which was also a 12 yr marriage).<BR>h left me nov 98, thanks giving day!!<BR>h met up with old high school female freind, last june, 98, who is still married, (we all became freinds and went out as couples, a few times) but OW is unhappy w/marriage also, so in time, they (I guess) plan on being together, for their retirment yrs. OW is 52 yrs old, also. (nick name, perdue!)<BR>OW has two grown kids, one engaged daughter, getting married in june of 2000. probably waiting until then, to leave.

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Male<BR>-Age 40<BR>-Betrayed<BR>-Married 17 years<BR>-4 kids: (13, 10, 8, 5)<BR>-Married 16 years when W fell for OM. Found out 3 months after it started, it continued for another 4 months. I neglected her for quite sometime prior to this. W is currently in w/d and we are struggling to rebuild. W still very emotionally distant.<p>[This message has been edited by Sir Hurts Alot (edited August 10, 1999).]

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Female<BR>betrayed<BR>28 years old<BR>married 8 1/2 years when H had affair with 18 year old he met over the internet<BR>was 7 months pregnant with second child<BR>Questioning whether to stay or not

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Female<BR>28 years old<BR>betrayer<BR>married 4 1/2 years when I had physical affair (only slept with OM once)<BR>married just over 5 years when had internet affairs (lasted about a month)<BR>One daughter 6 years old now<BR>H found out about internet affair before physical affair.

#714 08/09/99 05:33 PM
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Female<BR>Age 33<BR>Together 12 years, married 7.<BR>5 year old and 4 month old.<BR>Betrayed.<BR>H affair w/ coworker started on a business trip in Dec 98 when I was 6 months pregnant. I figured it out 1 month later due to angry, hostile, distant behavior and lots of clues. H moved out in Jan 99. Baby was born in March 99. In May 99 he ended it w/ OW and said he wanted to 'see' if we could work things out, but with no commitment (or effort) on his part. He sees her every day at work. For awhile things seemed to be getting better. Then in July he suddenly took a trip to 'get some space' and came home and said he wants a divorce. More mixed messages after that, but I'm done with plan A. Unless he makes a radical change with some serious commitment and effort, we will get divorced.

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Female<BR>29 <BR>2 children <BR>-Married HS sweetheart <BR>-H cheated after almost 4 years marriage<BR>-His affair started while I was pregnant<BR>with our first child, ended 9 mos later<BR>when he was found out. Our child was 7 mos old by then.<BR>-We didn't get help after his affair;<BR>our marriage has been RoCkY to say the least.<BR>-I've resented the hell out of him<BR>-H lives 3 hours away 6 days each week<BR>-H has not trustworthy; possibility of other affairs! <BR>-Had 10 year anniversary last Oct'98<BR>-I started emotional affair last Mar'98<BR>-Emotional affair turned physical<BR>-I ended the affair a few months ago on<BR>my own when H made an effort toward me, our marriage and our family.<BR> <P>------------------<BR>For I know the thoughts I think<BR>toward you, saith the Lord,<BR>thoughts of peace, not of evil,<BR>to give you an expected end.<BR>Jeremiah 29:11<BR><p>[This message has been edited by Kyra (edited August 09, 1999).]

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Male age 43, <BR>married for 15+ yrs. <BR>2 children, 12 & 8<BR>discovered w affair in mid may<BR>she moved out 4th of july weekend to hotel om paid for. moved into apartment following week with om following week later.they already have joint checking account.<BR>should be hearing from her lawyer this week.<BR>

#717 08/09/99 06:14 PM
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Female<BR>Age 37<BR>Married 16 yrs, mostly together 20<BR>Two children 6 and 9<BR>Betrayed<BR>H's affair with co worker started last June and was disvovered the first week. Didn't end on discovery, rather went on and off until September. Heavy withdrawl anytime it was off during that time. Ended completly in October, no special withdrawl symptons then. Recovery since then, that really felt much better in December. Things are great now, and we intend to work as hard as it takes on our marriage to keep them that way. <P>Kat

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-Male<BR>-Age 31<BR>-Married 5 years this month<BR>-W had a One night stand on July 19 with a friend who she still talks to<BR>-Seperated Since she told me the morning of July 20<BR>-Currently she wants nothing to do with me.. or him she says..<P>------------------<BR>Rutger......One day at a time.<P>

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-Male<BR>-38 years old, Wife 37.<BR>-Betrayed<BR>-Married 19 years, 2 daughters, 13 & 8.<BR>-Found out Christmas night Wife had affair 10 years ago.<BR>-Found out 26 Dec she had an affair Aug-Dec.<BR>-She went on vacation 1-9 Feb & visited OM<BR>-Wife moved across US with wankboy on 17 Feb.<BR>No divorce or reconciliation in sight yet.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html</A>

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female<BR>age 43<BR>Married to DuncanMac 21 yrs, together 24<BR>2 boys aged 6 & 11<BR>betrayer - 6+ yrs. into marriage. Long, intense affair. Depression.<BR>betrayed - Aug-Oct '98. H met OW on internet.<BR>Big wake-up call for us both. I think we're finally getting it right! We've had counseling on & off since '85 (my affair got us in there).

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<BR> Male<BR> Age 46<BR> Betrayed<BR> Married 22 yrs<BR> W had an"office affair"last summer with man 11 yrs younger than her.Decided she was in love with him,and moved out.Changed her whole personality.I have'nt seen or talked to her in months-plan B?Probably will get a divorce.I feel the need to move on.

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OK I'll bite,<P> Male, 39<P> Small business owner. I put the company first and above my second marriage and loving wife. Worked long hours and the like. <P> First marriage, Betrayer. First worst mistake I ever made. Was a real [censored]. I will never take this path again. EVER!<P> Second marriage, Betrayed. Second worst mistake I ever made. Was a real [censored].<BR>See above. I put the ambulance service before my wife and personal life. Was a real [censored]. Alcoholism enters picture for me. A little too much stress. More that I bargained for. Business is doing great, big whoop, I have no one special to share it with. The kids are too young to appreciate the success, not to exclude them, they will get it some day.<P> Married for over four years at her start of emotional affair, or so I'm told. We've been together since she graduated high school, ten years ago. She was a virgin.<P> Two great boys I couldn't be more proud of, ages 18 and 14 from first marriage. Current W can't have kids because of Tetrology of Fallot. Bad heart problems would probably not survive delivery.<P> Had the American dream of being secure in old age. I did not realize that I would be alone sitting on Virgina Beach because of my behavior.<P> Finding out too late in life that I was the problem and not the solution.<P> Medic<P> A line from Animal House comes to mind. "Hey ya f*****d up...You trusted us ...Try to make the best of it".<P> Sorry, just feeling very down right now. I miss my Valerie.

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-Female<BR>-46<BR>-Betrayed<BR>-married 25 years<BR>-Affair revealed to me April 99, H moved out May 99, I moved to another state July 99. H wants divorce and is probably working on that now. I don't know if he's still involved or not, my guess is yes. H calls our daughter to ask how I'm doing. I've only had 1 conversation with him since July 8th. I'm hanging in there but hurting alot.

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Male<BR>-age 29<BR>-betrayed<BR>-married 4 years next month<BR>-married 3 1/2 years (together 7 1/2 years) when she cheated<P>She broke it off immediately or I would have left. Sometimes still can't believe it really happened.<BR><P>------------------<BR>/// Lone Star * ///<P><BR>

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