Bumperii,<P>i think the HE cinderella was referring to is her X, not a six year old. She wants the best for a six year old, she is not angry at the six year old.<P>in my case, i also married a nut case, and even now, she agreed to a vacation schedule, but verbally abused me the first time i used it, and is again, telling the kids that i can't have my agreed to time, etc. unless you were the nutcase in your marriage, which one never really knows from posts, it is very difficult to deal with nut cases. <BR> <A HREF="http://www.personalitypage.com/ESFJ.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.personalitypage.com/ESFJ.html</A> <P>this is the explanation for mine, and read where the lack of good value system impacts their way of thinking,<BR>and she had admitted in the past that she is messed up and her family is messed up.<P>she is one of the ESFJ's gone bad, so to speak, even notice that the description includes FEELING danger where there is none. that's her, and its actually worse than that, but enough for now. in reality, she is trying to make me look bad in any way she can to the kids, and everyone else she can convince. <P>

Bumper - I think you misunderstood the issues I raised with this thread. I'm not mad at anyone except the lousy x and I have given him credit for eventually making a great decision in this matter. <P>At NO point have I blasted my son here. However, I am dealing with a MAN who admits one of his goals in life is to make my life hell. And he has so much as told me he wishes I were dead. This second comment he made in front of our children.<P>Like you, I struggle often with my anger. <BR>I usually go to my room when I am extremely angry. When I have calmed down, I come out. <P>I understand your concern for my son. And I appreciate it.<P>I would also appreciate it if you would cease your tirades against me.<P>Furthermore, I know it's time for me to go back and to deal with some issues and I have the appointment to begin this. Though not exactly my first choice but it beats living with some of the pain I have harbored for years - pain which does indeed originate with issues concerning my x's treatment of me.<P>I had thought, in the past, that you frequently added some wonderful things to this thread. <P>Let's end all these displays of anger and get back to supporting and helping each other.<p>[This message has been edited by cinderella (edited April 09, 2001).]

Agreed<P>Bumper