<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by terri:<BR><B>Mrs. O, I know you truly believe you never would and never will, and you may be 100% correct. But recently I have had the occasion to feel a very strong attraction to a married coworker and at times caught myself in thoughts that essentially were aimed at justifying my own little fantasy. I have worked through that and believe that there is no chance that I would participate in the betrayal of someone else's spouse, but the experience of feeling so strongly for this person and just KNOWING that I MIGHT have been capable of it at that time has been and still is extremely humbling to me.</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>I agree! I <B>DID</B> say that I was capable of it. And I <B>DID</B> say that I helped lay the groundwork for the downfall of the marriage. And I too <B>HAVE</B> been tempted by other guys during this separation time...one of them being married.<P>But while I am not DEAD yet, I am pretty sure I would never do it. So, I'm the exception to the rule....okay, I'll accept that. I was the exception to the rule when I got married at 31 and was still a virgin. I can accept that.<P>I have <B>NEVER</B> said I was blameless. My blame is very clear to me and is ever before me. I wish with all my heart I would never have acted and said things that I did. I see <B>NOW</B> that I didn't meet some of his needs. <P>I also think, in my case, I don't really know all the reasons my H left....neither does he, according to him. He is an alcoholic; he keeps his feelings all bottled up inside; he avoids discussions that have anything to do with the relationship; etc. <P>He blames it all on the alcohol and doesn't really KNOW (by his own words) why he threw the marriage away.<P>So, I will continue to believe that he made his choice. And while he was not happy with the relationship as it was, he didn't have to make that choice. He always had another choice open to him.<P>Aloha,<BR>Mrs.O<P><BR>