My husband and I have been married for 6 months, and he wants a divorce.

Married 10-1/2 years before d-day. Affairs started four years into the marriage? I have heard sooner but he won't budge on the timeline. Filing for D this month. <P>Snow

We were married one month short of eleven years when he moved out, but we had been together fourteen years at that point. We were both 38yo.<P>I think part of it was a MLC, and part was that our son turned 13yo, and his dad died when he was 13yo. I think it was significant for him to "get passed" the age with our son when his own father had died.<P>However, what I did not know until this year was that all throughout our marriage, he had been having affairs of differing intensity (some PA, some EA). He had an affair at his first big job promotion, a "drinking buddy" when he was demoted to assistant manager, a really big affair when our daughter was born two months early, a "she's just a friend" and we talked all night when he got promoted to director, an affair with a lady who worked for us in our business, a crush on one of our customers--and she had a crush back, an internet affair, an affair while he was traveling for work--a regular place he had to travel to for one of our customers, and then the woman for whom he eventually left me and moved in with her. <P>It seems to me that every time there was a stress or a success in his life, he turned to another woman. When it was stress, he probably turned for emotional support and an ego boost, and when it was a success, he probably wanted more of the "country club wife". <P>CJ<P>------------------<BR>Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.