Dana<P>I am so sorry that you are hurting so much right now. The thing of being betrayed is that it takes so much away from what we thought we had. We can't really look back in a good way and say at least there were good times, because we don't know what was really honest from their side. I am so sorry that he 'tricked' you. This is no fault of yours that you must remember. People can be very charming and deceitful and I don't know if any one can really tell when those 'charming' people are being deceitful. <P>There are all the cliches out there that we could quote but that will not take away your pain. Take it a little at a time and try to do something for you. That you have to go through this so soon after a divorce is awful. You sound like a great person capable of loving in a great way, and things will be ok.

DanaB,<P>One big lesson I've had to keep reminding myself is...don't take it personally.<P>Clearly, this guy has a hard time taking responsibility. He treats everyone that way I'll bet, not just you. <P>It must have been confusing for you to have him slip into date mode. HIS confusion is not your problem. All you need to do is worry about what you want and what you are doing. It's not a matter of waiting for him to "decide". YOU DECIDE. <P>JL mentioned this along time ago...You've been waiting for these guys to pick YOU. Why wait? You're not the booby prize. Go out and pick the guy YOU want--and the friends you want. Once you get to know a guy as friends, and are in a better position to see what he is really like, then you can decide if things should go to the next step. Till then, keep it light. <P>A decent guy won't be jumping on the first female that comes along either (IMO).