Randy, you would be looking at my posts for the rest of your life...basically mine is the same story everyone else has here..separated, H is fog, he had 2 affairs that I know of for sure and three more where circumstancial evidence now outweighs his denials. He is working in South Africa, I came home with the kids to Australia. He waffles, dithers and cannot be honest with me and I'm at the end of my rope. There, that's a summary of about 1500 posts. Not bad, huh? I was never good at summarising at school, so maybe I should send this to my English teacher.<P>Guess what, I've never been to Ayres Rock either!!!<P>We decided to see the rest of the world first, you see, we can go to those places anytime...well we can, just separately now. <BR>

Jacky,<P><BR>Is being in two whole diffenent Continents a good or bad thing? <P>I know you said before that you were pregnant....how many babies do you have and what ages?<P>I did read in another post of yours about your husbands A's<P>Do you interact at all anymore or is that in the past?<P>See, I'm nosey too. <P>Take good care of yourself Hurricane.<P>Randy<P>PS Hey look this thread is flaming....I wonder why?? <p>[This message has been edited by Randy0220 (edited October 04, 2001).]

Randy...I'm not pregnant!!! I'd have to have had an A for that to happen, he had the snip about four years ago.<P>I have an 8 yr old son, a 5 yr old daughter, and a 4 yr old daughter.<P>Being in different continents sucks, big time, but it had to be that way...he is in SA, and in December he goes on to Mozambique. I couldn't stay in SA as we were there on his work visa, and i was NOT going to follow him to Moz while we were separated, and just wait for him to come home. So, you see, in a lot of ways, this decision to come home was inevitable. I came home earlier than planned cos he took my kids out for the day eith OW, let the kids tell me about it, not him. I just saw red. He said, you know, she's just a friend "I'm seeing her..." GGGGGGGGRRRRRRRRR <P>I LB'd big time at him, and i said that was it, he would never get the chance to do that to my kids or me again, and I was going home...well he didn't stop me.<P>We don't really communicate, Randy, and that is so hard for me. It's like he put a Plan B on me...doesn't call me at all except for kids or business . Also I am not supposed to contact him because it is a LB....but you know I'm just getting a bit sick of all this stuff going HIS way all the damn time. I have been sitting here thinking about writing him a really nasty flaming letter to tell him I have darn well had enough of this sh**, and to make a damn decision and spare me the pain. I feel like such a wimp not doing that...I'm not sticking up for myself, and I have always done that. I feel like I'm just laying down and dying while I do Plan A.<P>Woah, you got me started on this...it is eating me up the past few days.<P>Sorry for venting here.<P>Where DID the original topic for this thread GO????<P>Love and light,<P>Jacky

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Nina too:<BR>[B]Randy...I'm not pregnant!!! I'd have to have had an A for that to happen, he had the snip about four years ago.<P><BR>Jacky, I knew you wernt preg. I was only refering to you post when you mentioned that you were. <P>Perhaps your husband should have a bit more snipped off (ouch!) <P><BR>"I have an 8 yr old son, a 5 yr old daughter, and a 4 yr old daughter."<P>Jacky, today this is where you should go for happiness. <P><BR>"Being in different continents sucks, big time, but it had to be that way...he is in SA, and in December he goes on to Mozambique. I couldn't stay in SA as we were there on his work visa, and i was NOT going to follow him to Moz while we were separated, and just wait for him to come home. So, you see, in a lot of ways, this decision to come home was inevitable. I came home earlier than planned cos he took my kids out for the day eith OW, let the kids tell me about it, not him. I just saw red. He said, you know, she's just a friend "I'm seeing her..." GGGGGGGGRRRRRRRRR "<P>This fool has never heard about getting between a mother and her cubs yet has he?<P>"I LB'd big time at him, and i said that was it, he would never get the chance to do that to my kids or me again, and I was going home...well he didn't stop me."<P><BR>Well I dont suppose he could have stoped you could he?<P><BR>"We don't really communicate, Randy, and that is so hard for me. It's like he put a Plan B on me...doesn't call me at all except for kids or business . Also I am not supposed to contact him because it is a LB...."<P><BR>Who says its a LB for you to call him??? Not Dr. Harley Im sure..???<P>What does your husband do that he has to travel and live in these different countrys?<P>"but you know I'm just getting a bit sick of all this stuff going HIS way all the damn time. I have been sitting here thinking about writing him a really nasty flaming letter to tell him I have darn well had enough of this sh**, and to make a damn decision and spare me the pain. I feel like such a wimp not doing that...I'm not sticking up for myself, and I have always done that. I feel like I'm just laying down and dying while I do Plan A."<P>Why dont you write out that letter Jacky...dont send it just yet but certainly write your feelings down. And check it over after about a week and make changes if you feel the need...then hold it for a bit longer and recheck that letter to see if you feel the same. <P>Then send it. Tell him what you want to see and when you need to see it by.<P>Yes he certainly needs to get off the pot soon it is the only fair thing to do.<P><BR>"Woah, you got me started on this...it is eating me up the past few days."<P><BR>I am a very famous trouble maker Jacky...just ask Anna... <P>"Sorry for venting here."<P>Please vent to me anytime and often. As the hurricane wind of MB I would expect it of you. And that is just fine with me.<P><BR>"Where DID the original topic for this thread GO????"<P>That is not important... I am also quite famous for taking a thread into strange new worlds. And if someone doesnt like it.....well they can just bite me! (I like saying bite me and I rarely get to do so) thanks for providing the opportunity. <P>"Love and light,"<P><BR>I love that "love and light" closure of yours Jacky. It just sounds so nice. :_:_<P>I hope every day from this point on gets better for you dear Nina too. Plan A yourself today....heck Plan A yourself every day!<P>Take very good care of yourself Jacky.<P>Randy<P>

Thanks again, Randy,<P>Well HE said it was bad for me to contact him. He didn't want it...so that makes it a LB. THEY define the LB's not me, nor Harley.<P>He is an electrical engineer, and if you want the WHOLE sorry mess of our time OS, I have it, and I can send it to you on email if you post your addy. It is LONG, though, and will probably dampen your very high spirits.<P>As for taking the kids out with OW, it was HER idea, as he later admitted, and regretted, no doubt because I was taking the kids back to Oz because he pushed me too far. <P>And yes he COULD have stopped me, by just asking me not to go...I told him it didn't have to happen, even on the day we left, but he didn't say anything. Sucks huh? <P>Gee I am on a roll tonight, they don't call me hurricane for nuthin'!

"Well HE said it was bad for me to contact him. He didn't want it...so that makes it a LB. THEY define the LB's not me, nor Harley."<P><BR>Yes, but come on now..that is what I call a lawyerly line (used by a lawyer). Contact him with an expensive support order....as long as its gonna be a LB...might just as well make it worthwhile.<P>Note to self-- You are gonna get kicked off this board Randy if you dont stop giving this revengful advice <P>"He is an electrical engineer, and if you want the WHOLE sorry mess of our time OS, I have it, and I can send it to you on email if you post your addy. It is LONG, though, and will probably dampen your very high spirits."<P><BR>randy19348@yahoo.com<P><BR>"As for taking the kids out with OW, it was HER idea, as he later admitted, and regretted, no doubt because I was taking the kids back to Oz because he pushed me too far."<P><BR>He pushed me to far is an understatement! <P>"And yes he COULD have stopped me, by just asking me not to go...I told him it didn't have to happen, even on the day we left, but he didn't say anything. Sucks huh?'<P><BR>That is sad Jacky. <P>But that would answer all of my questions were I your shoes. But I am not and so that is perhaps unfair for me to say. <P><BR>"Gee I am on a roll tonight, they don't call me hurricane for nuthin'![/B][/QUOTE]"<P><BR>Please roll by anytime.<P>Take care now.<P>Randy<P>