My best advice is... talk to your priest or pastor (mine was really understanding, I was surprised since H had been to talk with him first) or maybe a counsellor. Maybe (I hope) if you just give him time he will come around. I do find it hard that he doesnt see his baby. This must be the hardest thing.<p>My situation is very confusing to me. I am two months from finishing University, so I have been applying for jobs. When my husband left, I don't know if I should be looking for jobs in this city (where I will stay if we get back together) or in other cities (because if we don't get back together, i dont want to stay here). So I have one interview here tomorrow. I don't know if I will take it since I don't know what is going to happen.<p>also, I need to give my landlord written notice 60 days before I move out. Since I will be done school December 15, and am looking for a job for January, if I am moving out I will have to move at the end of December, meaning I have to give my notice in two days!!!<p>If my H and I get back together, we would stay here. If not, I will move to whereever the job is.<p>So I have to decide: give notice to landlord or not? Find a job in my current city or not? It all depends on the future of my marriage.<p>BUT... I don't know what I want to do! Remember my earlier post about the five emotions! They are all still there! Do I try and give up and move on? I have not contacted my husband since Friday, the day he announced he was leaving. But I know I could probably get him back, but I do NOT know how permanent it would be. He might stay for a few more months, maybe years, then leave again. In which case, it might involve children this time. Can I survive him leaving me again? Do I *really* want him back?????<p>Should I take a job here, keep the appartment and wait? Or give notice, take a job somewhere else, and get used to the single life again? If only I didn't have to make all these decisions about moving and working!<p>I truly feel for your situation. Yours is much more difficult because of the child. <p>Talking to my priest helped me, I think I will make another appointment to see him. I think you should too. Best of luck and keep in touch! My best friend (who sadly has moved across the country - I am in Canada) said to me that it is important not to be isolated. Even if only a phone call or an email (or a forum).<p>Talk to you soon<p>A.
