Well ya like the new topic molly?<BR>here is the link for downloading ICQ its easy, free and only takes 15 min or so to download on a slow day.<P>http://www.icq.com/download/<P>well need to go pick up my junk at the cleaners I'll be on again some time today<P>LMS<P>------------------<BR>maybe someday

Great Topic! You know, I do consider you all my friends....I would love to download the ICQ, but am leary of it, since I mainly access this while at work.....but after this weekend, I'm gonna see about fixing the "ol'thang" at my bro's house. <BR>Loved your jokes....I still can't get the smiley's to work!!!! One more try.... :+)<BR>

Hi Guys,<BR>Yes I like your new topic name. COOL! <BR>I'm Going to download IRQ after writing this. ldlb wrote earlier she can't use instant mess. Maybe she can get her bro's browser updated. Yo Angela, Are you going to try to get on? And when are you going to fess up and tell us where you live. Just the state.<BR>Ahh, Beautiful Baja, CA. No kidding is it really nice there? Never been to CA, but lived in Washington State and visited Oregon.<BR>Both are beautiful. I originally come from New England, Massachusetts. We lived in Maine for 12 years and have lived in Florida, on an island for ten years. It's quite a shock going from Maine to Florida. Big time winter to no winter and lots of heat.<BR>LMS, I don't want to go back to the other thread to look this up, Where did you say your parents ranch is? Missouri? I can't remember. Anyway, you have a house there? How are you getting from Alaska to whereever that is? What about H?<BR>YOU LIKE Scarey movies!!!!!!<BR>Good greif NOT Me. I'm telling you, girls, I have nightmares if I see previews!!!! To this day I have not watched the Wizard of Oz all the way through. The monkey people scared the hell out of me when I was a kid.<BR>I'm a coward of the worst sort when it comes to those things. LOL <BR>I have not heard from Husband since I saw him at the club. I wonder if he got my answer to his filing yet. I keep praying God will help him get rid of the anger he's carrying around and maybe someday he'll trust enough to give us another chance. Well maybe not another chance but a new start. We should never go back, so I hope he will someday be able to see that there is a way back from here.<BR>I can't beleive this is the first time you,ve gone out. I know it's hard with babies but you need to make time. It doesn't have to be expensive either. Even if you go for a walk. Get out, do something, a hobby? anything. Beleive me it helps. You don't feel as needy so often. It doesn't help anyone to think constantly about THIS. The nights are hard enough, when use up the whole day? I even sleep with the TV on all night. I can't dwell on THIS when the TV's on so... Do what works! Think of something that helps you not to think about him, and start thinking about what you can do without him to make you happy. Sometimes I think thats really the key here. We need to like ourselves first. Make us happy. We can't begin to make them happy (We've all tried that!) until we too are happy. <BR>You would be amazed at the reactions I getting at work. Several people have come up and told me how much different I seem. That's because I am different. INSIDE I different. I smile now almost all the time. I can talk about him without crying all the time. And best of all I think he's noticing the difference too. He a might confused.<BR>You all know that after even a short marriage the spouse knows ALL your buttons. He knows exactly which one to push that pisses you off, he knows the cry buttons, the hurt buttons, the guilt buttons, etc...<BR>But I learned you don't have to react.<BR>MIX THOSE BUTTONS UP. If he presses the mad button--stay calm and calmly tell him that hurt you. He pushes the hurt button and you don't let him see the hurt--if you have to go home and cry but don't let him know. Amazingly after reacting totally different several times, not only do you get his attention but YOU feel better. More in control of not him, but you. And it becomes habit really quickly to think before you react. Each day it gets easier and easier to stay in control. <BR>I'm so glad I found all you guys on here, I wish I had of done it years ago.<BR>Hey now, Smile on Maybe what I describe above is my version of skipping, because every time I confuse him and he takes one tiny babystep in my direction and I also feel better about myself then I can't be sad and not smile. SEE Skipping in your mind.<BR>Take note Angela, Those bad guys are still out there<BR>Will check later for replies<BR>Love MOLLY<P>ldlb<BR>Do you find Michelle? Let me know, And come back here<BR>MOLLY

ldlb<BR>Smiley Faces<P> = : then ) = Happy<BR> = : then D = Really Happy<BR> = ; then ) = Wink, (When you embarrass Molly talking about Psst. SEX)<BR> = : then ( = Frown (Pissed off at H) When you would rather kick him..)<BR> = : then o = Embarrassed (Ditto the SEX part)<BR>Love Molly<p>[This message has been edited by MLC (edited July 28, 1999).]

LMS<BR>I downloaded ICQ. I didn't find a place to give my name except under "nickname" I put MOLLY there. Let me know if you can find me or tell me how to find you.<BR> By the way this may prove to be interesting. I can't type for sh*t. It may be faster this way. LOL <BR>MOLLY

Hey Kiddies<BR>I'm making one last check of this post. It's 10:55 and I have to get some sleep. Lately I haven't been able to stay up as late as I used too. AGE? Nah! Wish he was here with me, then I probably would have gone to bed a while ago. This is your fault ldlb, now I'm thinking about stuff!!! I wonder how the little guy would take it if I jumped his bones the next time I see him!! Probably faint dead away. That would definitly not be like me, but alas alot of things have changed. If I ever get him back in bed I ain't never letting him go again.<BR>Oh ya, Did I mention he looks like Tom Seleck. No Sh*t! He really does. Has that same devil's grin too. My gosh I do love that man! This was not a good idea! <BR>Just kidding <BR>Well good night all. Sleep tight and I'll let you know if I hear any exciting infomercials in my sleep. Subliminal Suggestions? Maybe thats why I find myself craving GINSU KNIVES & Keep hearing 900 numbers repeat over and over in my head Hmmm. Guess I'll put on the discover channel or something, can"t get in trouble there. <BR>Alright lets figure out time differences here.<BR>Molly--Florida 10:00pm<BR>LMS--- Alaska ?<BR>ldlb--- Oklahoma Mountain time? 8:00 pm?<BR>Angela --? <BR>Lots of love MOLLY<BR>Bye All SEE YA<BR>zip adee doo da---zip adee yaa<BR>Yep really tired!

Hey Girls, Got this off another board. I thought it was wonderful and it made me cry and smile at the same time <BR>Thought you would like it to. Wanted to share it with you all!<BR>IF TOMORROW NEVER COMES.....<BR>> <BR>> <BR>> <BR>> IF I KNEW IT WOULD BE THE LAST TIME THAT I'D SEE YOU FALL ASLEEP,<BR>> I WOULD TUCK YOU IN MORE TIGHTLY<BR>> AND PRAY THE LORD, YOUR SOUL TO KEEP.<BR>> <BR>> IF I KNEW IT WOULD BE THE LAST TIME THAT I SEE YOU WALK OUT THE DOOR,<BR>> I WOULD GIVE YOU A HUG AND KISS<BR>> AND CALL YOU BACK FOR ONE MORE.<BR>> <BR>> IF I KNEW IT WOULD BE THE LAST TIME I'D HEAR YOUR VOICE LIFTED UP IN<BR>> PRAISE,<BR>> I WOULD VIDEO TAPE EACH ACTION AND WORD,<BR>> SO I COULD PLAY THEM BACK DAY AFTER DAY.<BR>> <BR>> IF I KNEW IT WOULD BE THE LAST TIME I WOULD BE THERE TO SHARE YOUR DAY,<BR>> WELL I'M SURE YOU'LL HAVE SO MANY MORE,<BR>> SO I'll JUST LET JUST THIS ONE SLIP AWAY.<BR>> <BR>> FOR SURELY THERE'S ALWAYS TOMORROW TO MAKE UP FOR AN OVERSIGHT<BR>> AND WE ALWAYS GET A SECOND CHANCE TO MAKE EVERYTHING RIGHT.<BR>> <BR>> THERE WILL ALWAYS BE ANOTHER DAY TO SAY OUR "I LOVE YOU'S"<BR>> AND CERTAINLY THERE'S ANOTHER CHANCE TO SAY OUR "ANYTHING I CAN DO'S?"<BR>> BUT JUST IN CASE I MIGHT ME WRONG AND TODAY IS ALL I GET,<BR>> I'D LIKE TO SAY HOW MUCH I LOVE YOU AND I HOPE WE NEVER FORGET:<BR>> <BR>> "TOMORROW IS NOT PROMISED TO ANYONE,<BR>> YOUNG OR OLD ALIKE,<BR>> AND TODAY MAY BE THE LAST CHANCE YOU GET<BR>> TO HOLD YOUR LOVED ONE TIGHT"<BR>> <BR>> SO IF YOU'RE WAITING FOR TOMORROW, WHY NOT DO IT TODAY?<BR>> FOR IF TOMORROW NEVER COMES, YOU'LL SURELY REGRET THE DAY,<BR>> THAT YOU DIDN'T TAKE THAT EXTRA TIME FOR A SMILE, A HUG, OR A KISS<BR>> AND YOU WERE TOO BUSY TO GRANT SOMEONE,<BR>> WHAT TURNED OUT TO BE THEIR ONE LAST WISH.<BR>> <BR>> SO HOLD YOUR LOVED ONES CLOSE TODAY, WHISPER IN THEIR EAR,<BR>> TELL THEM HOW MUCH YOU LOVE THEM AND THAT YOU'LL ALWAYS HOLD THEM DEAR,<BR>> TAKE TIME TO SAY I'M SORRY, " PLEASE FORGIVE ME," "THANK YOU" OR "IT'S<BR>> OKAY".<BR>> <BR>> AND IF TOMORROW NEVER COMES, YOU'LL HAVE NO REGRETS ABOUT TODAY<BR> <BR>Love MOLLY (Sniff)

Molly, if I didnt find you, could you be on here at let me see...maybe four thirty your time tomorrow and have your ICQ on and I'll try to find you? if not tell me when you can.<BR>I am four hours behind you Molly so if its ten there its six here. oklahoma is in central time and is three hours ahead of me, so that one hour behind you.<BR>and I know what you mean about jumpin your H's bones I got cought lookin at mine like he was on the menu today , I couldnt help it.<BR>No molly he is staying here he is in the air force and has no choice in the matter.<BR>well its eight thirty and my little ones are still up so I need to put them in bed.<P>LMS<P>[This message has been edited by LMS (edited July 28, 1999).]<p>[This message has been edited by LMS (edited July 28, 1999).]

HEY GIRLS!<BR>I had a really rough night last night. Had a talk w/H....remember how positive and optimistic I was over our conversation last Friday? He took all that and THREW IT AWAY <BR>He told me that if we wouldn't have rushed the marriage that we wouldn't be going through the D cuz he wouldn't have married me knowing how I am. Can you believe the gall? I am convinced, on the other hand, that we would possibly be planning a wedding (together this time w/out me doing all the work) because I would never fallen into my depression that caused the problem in the first place. i.e. moving into a sh*t-hole trailor, giving up my house, having NO friends in this new town, etc.<BR>He did admit that the love we felt in the beginning was real, but in the end, he realizes that although my good qualities out-weigh my faults, they don't compliment his well enough. We don't fit together well enough to have a satisfying marriage. He agrees that neither one of us have been ourselves, but won't give that a chance to happen. <BR>I'm SO SAD........my brother, bless his heart , tried SO hard to cheer me up last night when we got off the phone. By the way, he has the D papers, and won't have me served, he wants me to sign a waiver. I promise I'm NOT doing that until I see the money he promised.<BR>Anyway, yes, I'm in Central time, 1 hour behind Molly. I am gonna check w/brother's wife when she gets back in town this weekend about downloading ICQ on their 'puter.<BR>Maybe I'll be in a better mood later today, I'll check in later this afternoon.<BR>

LMS, I just looked at your profile and realized to what degree we have things in common......July 13 was the SAME day my H told me he wanted a D. I can't believe it's already been over two weeks. Anyway, just wanted to point that out. <BR>I'm trying to pull myself out of that bad mood I've been in today. I have to cuz H is coming by work today to give me my mail. Any words of advice? Please post by 5:00 Central if you possibly can! thanks, ldlb <P><p>[This message has been edited by ldlb (edited August 04, 1999).]

ldlb,<BR> woah that is a bit werid. <BR>But truly sweety the best revenge is for him to see you make it and being happy while doing it, so....when he comes by work today make it a point to be either busy talking with a a friend or working, when he hands you your mail, look ta him say thank you (nicely while smiling) and go back to what you were doing. <BR>Just be happy and you will see the diffrance in you and him! but the best feeling is when YOU se that you are happy and smilein, and do like Molly said "Skip" do it from the parking lot into the building today and let me know how it works for you it did wonders for me I laughed out loud at myself.<P>and I'll be back on here tonight it wont be untill 2:30 your time but I got to work till 11:00 my time tonight.<BR>if you need me just yell!!!!!!!<P>LMS

Hey guys,<BR>I have a problem here. I just got home from work and I got a reply to my petition answering husbands request for a divorce.<BR>I said in the petition that I did not agree to a desolution of the marriage and asked the judge to order counciling and would not consider seperating assets of a marriage I concider savable. My lawyer advised me to put in Temporary alimony. That word ALIMONY, I just knew would really piss him off. Anyway the lawyer said even if I didn't put it in there the judge would order it for such a long marriage. I did tell hubby twice what I had done. Don't think he listened.<BR> Well today I heard from his lawyer. They sent me a letter that states the next step is mediation. MEDIATION!!! Who the hell wants mediation? I'm not fighting for anything except the marriage! What the hell are we going to do cut the man in half and go to the judge and say "OH, JUDGY, We've come to an agreement here!" My friend says this is a way of advancing this, if I agree to mediation then I'll have to discuss assets not marriage. I'm not sure what to do here.<BR>Really bumming today <BR>Smiles are hard to find.<BR>I feel like I'm losing him Guys and I really really wish somehow things were different and God would please answer my prayers.<BR>Sorry so sad.... I'll try to perk up<BR>Anybody got any advice on what to do here?<BR>Love MOLLY <p>[This message has been edited by MLC (edited July 29, 1999).]

Hey All my Friends,<BR>Feeling better now <BR>I'm not going to work tomorrow so I'll be on Puter at 12:00pm my time Eastern standard time. Hope that's not too early for LMS.<BR>I'll put on icq too. I'm not sure how it works but will try.<BR>I'm really wrung out here and am going to bed. I DO NOT want to think anymore tonight.<BR>I'm starting a research search on divorce in my state tomorrow.<BR>LMS.....You skipped I love it. Bet you laughed! I can even visualize doing it and make myself smile Great therapy.. if you need a smile SKIP! Ever wonder why little kids do it? IT's FUN!<BR>Hey, thanks for being here when I need you guys. Take care.<BR>Later<BR>Love Molly

Molly, glad to see you smilein again hun, missed it even if it was just untill the next letter <BR>I may not be out of the bed that early but I'll try. if not heres what to do,...on the lower right tool bar there should be a little flowermay be red or green, or a yellow box that says ICQ on it just double click on it and then click on where it says disconnected and chose available/connect, you are on when the little flower turns green,if you have nothing there go to start, programs, ICQ and it will start up then. and then on your ICQ window there will be a # put that # on here and I will find you. hope you got all that I'm not a good teacher unless I can show someone how.<BR>well I need to go get in the bed I'll talk to everyone tomorrow nite nite<P>LMS

HEY GUYS!<BR>Molly, I wanted SO BAD to reply to your post last night, but you know the story about that. <BR>Anyway, about your prayers...I learned something (from my Mother-in-law, of all people) that it's not always best to ask for a specific thing. The secret is to ask for God to show you what the best thing is for you. Sometimes, we pray and ask for things, then he gives them to us to teach us a lesson.......because we don't always know what the BEST thing is for us. We THINK we do, but the truly best thing for us is to accept His will. I know that's hard to digest, and I wish I had quick enough fingers to type the full explanation. I have been praying for God to show me whether I'm better w/ or w/out my H. Anyway, enough of that...hope my words can somehow bring you comfort.<BR>LMS, I didn't have the chance to be "happy" in front of H yesterday. He called from the cell phone to say he was in the parking lot. I went out and he handed me an envelope which contained the divorce papers w/2 copies of a waiver for me to sign. The settlement we agreed upon was not in the papers anywhere, so I said I wouldn't sign the waiver until I had the CASH in hand. (or a money order...FYI-Cashier's checks CAN be STOPPED...didn't know that until my bro (attorney) told me so. I didn't know you could put a stop payment on a Cashier's check. Anyway, he said when we come to a definite agreement on the amount, he will give it to me and I can sign the waiver, then all he has to do is present it before a judge by himself and it is granted. It's so ironic and FRUSTRATING to me that they state that we have reached such a state of complete imcompatibility that our intentions for the marriage are no longer feasible. SUCKS, huh? He is the only one that sees it that way. Even his family agrees that our problems are negotiable and that we can be happy together IF ONLY HE WOULD LET GO OF THE PAST---not like the things that happened are all that horrible!<BR>Anyway, I'm becoming more and more convinced that he will NEVER have a satisfying relationship w/any woman. I am starting to truly believe that this problems stem is the sexual aspect. (Molly knows about this...LMS, if you don't you can look at my topic in the EN forum) I don't think the man will ever be strong enough to seek help in that area.<BR>Well, it's FRIDAY! I will be out of town tonight, will try to get back w/you all tomorrow afternoon. Hopefully Sunday, we can do the upgrades at my bro's house! <BR>By the way, I am going to visit a friend today that has a 2 week old girl. Hope I stay strong enough not to let it depress me too bad. I want SO MUCH to be a Mother, I know I'd be so good at it! That's the main thing that upsets me about my marriage ending. I didn't even meet my H until I was 28, now 29 and still don't have the chance for children anytime soon. I'm SO bummed <BR>Well, better start the work day. I will try to post a more upbeat msg later in the day.<BR>Take care, everyone.<BR>

Hey you guys!<BR> Smiley today, but busy. LMS, Will be on at 4pm my time. Hope that's better for you. My ICQ # is 45089291. I'll put it on when I go online.<BR>ldlb,<BR>Kid, I'm sorry your down. Will write long letter with cheerful stuff later, in the meantime SKip! In your mind...Skipping at the ripe old age of 29 is not dignified! Ahh hell, do it anyway! <BR>Did you figure out Smiles yet? I only saw frowns in your last post! Now I admit I was remiss in teaching you how to make um, but I could swear I showed you smiley FIRST! And I know for a fact I Taught you to Skip long before that!<BR>I don't have much time here but this gave me a chuckle.<P>It was the first day of school<BR>and the Kindergaten teacher told her brand new class of 5 year olds.<BR>"Now children, your in kindergarten now, and we're grown up Big boys and girls."<BR>"From now on Children, we will not speak in babytalk. We'll use grownup words."<P>" Now children, Who wants to tell what they did over this last summer before coming to school?"<P>In the front of the class little Sarah shyly raises her hand.<BR>"Yes, Sarah?" Teacher calls out<BR>Little Sarah proudly says:<BR>""I got to go to my nana"s house"<BR>Teacher frown's "Sarah???"<BR>Sarah repeats proudly, "I got to go to my Grandmother's house, Teacher"<P>"Very Good, Sarah" Teacher smiles<P>Little Joey raises his hand and teacher calls on him.<BR>Joey says "I.. rode on a choo choo."<P>"Oops, I mean I.. got to ride on a great big Train!"<P>Teacher smiles away. " Very good!"<P>In the back of the class Little Johnny waves his hand frantically.<P>"OK, Johnny, What did you do this summer?" Teacher asked.<BR>Little Johnny puffed up proudly and blurted.<P>"I... got to go the movies," he told her proudly<P>Teacher smiled. "Good, Johnny, And what did you see?"<P>Johnny thought for a minute, then smiled brightly.<BR>"I went to the movies and saw.. Winnie the SH*T!"<P>LOL<BR>Love Molly<BR> <BR><p>[This message has been edited by MLC (edited July 30, 1999).]

Sorry about edit. I spelled out the word Sh*t and it came up ****. That wouldn't do, kind of ruined the punchline. LOL<BR>I guess there really are times when cussing is important. <BR>Love Molly

MLC,<P>That poem you wrote is so sweet. I hope all you gals and guys have a lovely weekend. Hope to speak to you all soon. You are all strong, you just don't realise. We are all survivors on this site and we have alot of support from each other.<P>Take care<P>Theressa

theressa, Thanks<BR>Glad to see you reading our posts. We're trying to be strong <BR>You stay strong too. Keep smiling!<BR>Molly

LMS<BR>Hi there,<BR>Two questions right off the bat. <BR>1. How do you change your name? People know me as Molly not initials and I keep forgetting to type in MLC. I need directions here. <P>2. Where the heck are you? <BR> I have my ICQ on. HELLO HELLO? Any body out there?<P>Will wait a while to see if you find me. Help, I'm lost. (giggle giggle)<BR>Love Molly