misst, all I can say is that you are a stronger person than I! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>
How did you ever put up with that?

Here's another - the getting somewhere issue.<p>H HATED the way I read maps...I turned them around, upside down etc(and before any males jump in here, I don't care how I read the maps, I get to where I am going [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] ), to make sure to tell HIM the driver, the right way to go on a journey. Invariable he would not listen to me, take a 'short-cut' and get us lost. THEN blame me for my poor map reading skills [img]images/icons/rolleyes.gif" border="0[/img] .<p>And I always thought, hey if HE'S driving, he should have looked at the map before he gets in the car!!!!!!!! [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img] <p>So today, I had to drive to his sister's house, which I have not approached from this side of town before, and I wrote down the directions on a piece of paper after looking at the map; R turn here, L turn there etc. I got there and back again without a hitch. What could be so hard about that? A little forethought goes a long way....<p>No, I don't miss that either!!!!!!!!!!

Virtually nothing.<p>Even things that bothered me, like his sudden bursts of anger, are far worse now, and now they are directed at me. It was easier to take when he was mostly angry at the computer or his boss. <p>And even while carrying on the affair and lying all the time, he wasn't treating the kids with disrespect and being sneaky and underhanded in matters to do with the kids or in financial matters.

and im looking forward to<p>* things tossed everywhere
* stones and pebbles he finds pretty , not 2 karat diamonds
* sometning he makes by hand for me , even if its not the most beautiful but made by his hands for me, making them FLAWLESS and irreplacable
* laughing at weirdness
*teaming up on projects and sharing goals
* honesty
*honesty
*honesty
wild flowers he finds to be pretty not store bought bouquets
* words of love and commitment every day'
*the "look"
* the "touch"
*yes the dream if possible
*talking
*talking
*talking
* respect for different likes and dislikes
* space to be US together
* time theres NEVEr enuff
* kids OURS <his> and OURS
* skid marks i mean after all this is UNDERWEAR MAN!!!!!!
* his cooking , i expect it to very different than mine , should be a cool team sport [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]
* being dipped [censored] first a few times hahahahahah
<toilet seat, well IM not perfect>
* BO ..well i happen to think he smells liks ambrosia sweaty
* swallowing? OMG YESSSSSSSSSSSSSS hes the MOST tasty treat <sorry religious peeps>
* just being together thru thick and thin? YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS<p>did it wrong once , think i have the info i need to be happy this time and if WE get another chance OMG YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS<p>
please throw the clothes down as long as sweet heart you dont expect to be picked up after [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>thats where the maid comes in so WE can be US [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>GOD I LOVE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!

so just to be different...the things i look forward to doing again [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]
i miss the intmacy but am NOT lonley<p>i WANT him to toss clothes and shoes for me to trip over ..how minor is that to be happy? <p>small price methinks ...and he wears 13-1/2 size shoes LOL<p>all i want is the love WE shre ...the details can be worked out<p>ya think?

That was nice!<p>After all this time, I've been looking at this thread and trying to decided what to say about what I DO NOT miss.<p>* I do not miss the man who went to bed, turned his back to me, and wrapped his head in his pillow - almost every night for the last few years.<p>* The "Dictator" voice he often used when he spoke to me.<p>* The condescending voice he used other times.<p>* Never being told I had done anything well, looked nice, smelled good - NEVER being affirmed in any way<p>* I don't miss him.

That stranger that slept on my couch for 5 years...the emasculating way she treated me in front of our children (there is a social rant in there somewhere about discipline, and our social example, but that is a whole different thread!)...the endless hoops with no reward...just all of it really...but mostly, I don't miss the woman the killed my wife ten years ago, and moved in while I wasn't able to see.

[*] I don't miss the tangled web of lies.<p>[*] I don't miss the high maintenace woman she became over the years.<p>Once in a while I do miss her, but my aim is improving. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

Oh my GGOOSSHHH!! Medic!<p>You kill me. I'm sitting here getting very emotional over all these posts and the pain coming from them... and then I look in here and I swear you kill me. I laughed out loud and my kids wanted to know what was so funny.<p>Thanks for that.

LOL, me too, <p>I quoted medic today when I wss talking to my IM buddies.....we all cracked up!!!!!!!!!!!!<p>I started this thread as a positive one, but some of the posts are really sad, and I am sorry for that. Some have even said that this thread is SOOOOO depressing. But I truly posted to get us thinking of the lighter side.<p>What else don't I miss?<p>I can eat ALL the chocolate by MYSELF! He ate it like potato chips, I like to let it melt in my nouth......so he always got more than me. NOW I have POWER!<p>Also there is nowhere near as much housekeeping as there was. I actually have time on my hands. My counsellor does call him my fourth child, though, and I guess that makes a lot of sense now [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] . Let OW pick up for the lazy slob. See if she can last 17 years. <p>NOT!!!!!!!! Hehe!!

I have come back to this thread at least a dozen times... I had a pretty long list, believe it or not, and I had some things that I do miss too... but I have come to a decision... I will write the ONE THING, bar NONE, that I DO NOT miss about my ex:<p>His cell phone ringing with Beethovan's "Ode to Joy" ...<p>Talk about ruining a beautiful song!!<p>I was talking to my son the other day, and I could hear his dad's cell phone ringing and my HEART DROPPED just as it did when I was with him... it was ALWAYS the OW calling, it seemed. <p>Beethovan - a trigger? Sheesh!! [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img]

NYNEVE,<p>I can relate.....unfortunately my H's is the nokia tone, which no-one has bothered to change here in Oz.