I sometime would like to have sex twice a week.<BR>I have to beg her for even once a week.<BR>I get frustrated when I can not get enough.<BR>We had some difficult in marriage last year. But, I think things are improving. She tells me once a month is good enough. <BR>I do not know that she is avoiding because there is somekind of emotional problem or simply she just does not like to have sex.

Need more info. How long have you been married? Have your needs always been different from hers, or have things changed? "Other problems" can definitely get in the way of intimacy. Maybe with more info more folks will respond to you. Take care...

Yes, we have went through a very difficult time. We have been married for more than 7 years. In somewhat, her parent forced her to marry me. So, initially she was not very happy (this is my guess). She never really express her feeling so I am not quite sure what she has in mind. We have one son and I thought things were doing well. But, she got hooked with internet chat and found somebody. She totally denies any relationship but she probably felt more comfortable with the guys on the chat line. Through mediation of many family member, we decided to reconcile. But, after this, I found that she was engaged in telephone sex. I bought Dr. H's book and try to control my emotion and meet her desire. I thought things were improving but she never really says she loves me or have desire to have sex with me. I thought part of this is her character. Since I posted this that things got worse because I can not control my anger and frustration because I can get what I want, which is kindness, respect, and sex. I am tired. I want to be happy but I really want my wife and my son to be more happy. Becuase I feel happiness from their happiness. I am too tired. I would really like to retreat.

Dear HHH,<BR>Here is some advise I know will have your<BR>wife wanting you all over again. I have been<BR>on the other end of this equation. My H and<BR>I are now having a very difficult time. I have depleted my H bank.When was the last<BR>time you just sat down and gave your wife your undivided attention? Told her she looked<BR>good,or smelled great.Women want to be desired not mauled.How much time do you spend<BR>with the kids,if any? How much do you help<BR>around the house or is everything left up to<BR>her.I don't know your situation very well,but<BR>I do know that if you meet her needs she will<BR>be more than happy to meet yours.<BR>good luck.<BR>GS<P>------------------<BR>