What enlightened from Feb 25 at 12:16 posted was exactly what lead to the final straw for me, except we were married for 3 1/2 years (together for 9), and I was feeling as she did for over a year. <p>The actual final straw came when he pushed me around, luckily the worst that came of it physically was a bruise on my arm. It has been some weeks of separation, and I have worked through my emotions and listened to him, and nothing was changing. I lost what hope I had on that day.