Hello friends (and oldies!) [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I'm sorry it took so long to reply but college started again, and you know me! I can't get away for a minute.<p>First of all, I want to say to SCHURT, that when I went thru Plan A, it was the most demeaning, belittling experience of my life and at the time, I couldn't decide if I was doing it for the children, for myself (ex told me no one else would want a woman with 3 kids) and yet partially because I was in competition with OW. I know it sounds harsh, but in a way, I was.<p>I remember how hard it was, and I feel for anyone who is going through it. However, there are people who have gone before us and been in Plan A for a few years, and saved their marriage. At the very least, all that suffering, can save the children from many years of pain and turmoil. I wish you much luck with your choice.<p>As I read the updates, there were a lot of "oldies" and some "newbies" and the similarities are too close to mention in many cases. <p>I think that where the case of physical abuse, verbal abuse, or emotional abuse are involved, it is a much different process on the children. I also think the children who are subjected to the affairs seem to be more unsettled too.<p>I posted a link that I found earlier today and I hope there might be some useful information on there.<p>I have a brief update myself since my last posting, exH is upset over his $113 a week child support "bill" (as he calls it, I call it obligation at the very least, and he should be happy to support them).<p>He is threatening me and for the first time since this mess, I have filed a report against him and I'm going to follow through. I decided, 2 1/2 years is far too long to go through this, and he is also threatening to disown his children and sign away his rights. This upsets me the most, because our children are worth more than that, and I think that is a big slap in the face to them, after he left them on Christmas already.<p>To my friends who know all that my girls have gone through, please keep them in your prayers as I really hope they don't have to go through such a horrible thing. <p>Hugs, Dana
