hey bill,
i am so sorry to see what you're going though and i do have an opinion.
(remember this is only my opinion)...a person that drops a 13 y/o girls draws to spank her has some type of sexual disorder (malfunction). at 13 a girls body is starting to develop and it is just plain humiliating to put her in this situation. my d just turned 15 on sunday, and as much as she needs an a** beatin, i wouldn't do it... she does get disciplined but i don't spank her. she is just too old for that. stopped spanking both children around 11 or 12...
i am 100% for spanking as a style of discipline, but humiliation is not discipline. it is a lack of love, respect and true concern for a childs emotional well being. that type of humiliation can cause issues with a child that will stay with them way into adulthood.
second. the only agency you need to contact is child protective services. as someone has already said. an action may not be taken the 1st time, but it will go on record and it will be referred to if this continues, or any type of abuse is ever reported. i have been on both ends. i have been reported and i have reported.
my kids can be very bad and my son was a rebellious little heathen. he once went to school and told his teacher he was abused. the social worker came. once his dad broke my s thumb when he was spankning him. he was failing around and got his thumb caught and it got a hairline fracture. we took him to the hospital and the doctor reported us. the police came with a lady from the agency that was gung ho to take both our children right then and there. thank God for the police that were on our side and knew our son... now you figure it, the police knew our son and he was only 11 or so...
now, i had a neighbor who did let her h beat his step son. he screamed all the time. i reported them. i had a neighbor who was on crack and severly neglecting her 5/6 month old baby. i aided in reporting her. she eventually lost full custody of her children and they live in Florida with thier dad. and she only has visitation. so i know both sides.
we never abused our children and we never had them taken from us. it was never ruled that there was any abuse in our home, but it did go on record and that is why the second time the lady was ready to take both children. thank god for the police that were on our side.
i said all that to say, child protective services will do something even if at first it only involves taking a report and putting it on record. believe me that is not the type of case file any "loving" parent wants...
you are in my prayers
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