lonesomeheart - have a safe and wonderful trip to whereever you are going. Will wait to hear from you later - happy trails to you!
Nellie1 - The assualt of the torn rotator cuff, the police sited me in the wrong. And the police person on the site wrote a report of nothing. Anyways, my lawyer has everything written down with my statements, and also the 2nd physical attack on me, police report was written.
He has not been put on line for responsibility of his actions, cause if you reread back to when it happened, (April2002) the first real physical altercation that caused injury, he is not being truthful.
But, SNL has other things to go through the judge anyway. He has done so much in digging his hole. That is what happens when one does not follow rules.
SNL finds glory in defacing me on other boards and here so let him be. If this gives him power, or fulfills his controlling manipulation, let him do it. It hurts, but I will not respond to his bashing any more. There are more important things in life, and one is to know that I am a very compassionate, loving, caring, empath person, and I know it and God knows it.
Nellie1 - there is so much going on here, and I feel overwhelmed by all. Wish SNL would cooperate with the lawyers, and do things requested by the lawyers. He is a very disorganized man, and I think he is finding all this paperwork overwhelming for him. Yes, I would like to get back to doing the paperwork, but he has taken all checks and won't let me write any checks for bills, etc. Says, he needs to know where all the money is going. We here are suffering the consequences, phones got disconnected and reinstated, got long distance cancelled, wholesalers are calling for payment on invoices, veterinarian bills not getting paid, medical insurance ends next week, life insurance cancelled by SNL, so many things he is doing behind my back and the lawyers back. SNL keeps saying we don't need lawyers, just a mediator. Heck, I don't know what else SNL has done to sabotage the family. So many things that he is doing is wrong, totally uncaring, and unlovingly wrong. I feel sorry for SNL, I pray for him that he finds the heart to be a kind, caring, thoughtful, truthful person. What he is now is not of Gods liking, I feel. God only knows, but we are all hurting in the process.
Going to counseling with Step One, for battered wifes. Getting legal questions answered by a lawyer there. Have a date set for conseling with a lawyer for free in Oct. Getting emotional help from Step ONe. Getting myself back to who I am and knowing that I am a good person.
Was given a sheet on Controlling personalities - and is very good for those of us who have a controller. I posted on Divorcebusting.com the list that was given to me.
It is odd, how you look back and see little fragments here and there of actions that were a sign of a controller. I pray for SNL, he is a good man, but in a major MidLifeCrisis. Please pray for him, he needs professsional help, but he says he is fine the way he is. He needs medical treatment and professional counseling.
Moving on in life is hard. Don't know where I and the kids will live, don't have any idea where I will get money from. Don't know how to feed the three kids living with me, am not getting childsupport or alimony. SNL went ballistic, cause I wouldn't take the money in cash, but my lawyer told me not to take in cash, counselor told me the same, and also another lawyer I talked through with Step One told me the same. I could get into deep trouble by taking the money. So I follow the rules, and SNL didn't care, just went ballistic, wanted to call my lawyer and talk to him, and I said go ahead. He backed off, and eventually left. He goes ballistic so easily, we all are affected by this behavior.
Anyways, pray for him and I have him on a prayer list at church, and friends. He is a wonderful man, but who he is now, is not the man I married.
Well, have to go, today cleaning the house, and getting ready for a dinner tomorrow. Oldest daughter is coming home, celebrate her birthday and sons birthday, SNL is invited. God Blessings to you.
