Just an update on the air conditioner thingy....

Repairman said it was just "low on freon." Seems it was JUST low enough to freeze up! A little less low (strange, huh?), or a little MORE low (STLL strange concept!!) and that wouldn't have happened.

He pumped up the freon, and it seems to be working fine now!

Too weird. Oh, well. THANK YOU, Lord!!!

I hope there are other s out here with positive results from prayer.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=8;t=012480

If this link doesn't work I posted as "I'm the first string QB again".

Thanks everyone for your prayers.

S&C

lupolady, freon could be low because of a leak. When your freon freezes the pipes, turn the a/c off immediately, and let it thaw out, by turning the thermostate to fan only. Don't want to damage the motor or anything else with freezing. If you have a leak is costly, have to take the freon out, put a dye in, and watch where it oozes out. Fix the leak, and take dye out, and put freon back in. All depends on how old the a/c unit is. If it is small enough, just to fill it once a year, go with that. Otherwise if too old, get a new one, more efficient, and you get a warranty.

This is a great thread. Thank you cajunky.

This morning I had an unusual peace come over me. Husband was kind and patient while discussing our issues
We met with a pastor last night that is going to work with us. Prayed for you all today. Keep praying for healing in our marriage. Still have a long way to go-I've developed some resentments.

God Bless you all!

What a great first day!!!!! I have prayed for you all too and I have had such a peace about me today. Stead fast.....I am crying right now because I know how it must feel to be the first sting QB again. I want so bad to be there and I know I will be again. I had something come up too that only God could do. I can not tell it yet but in do time I will share it with you.
It felt so good this morning knowing so many would be praying for my marriage!!

Love in Christ
Cajunky

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Hi All,
Cajunky... it appears that the Lord has touched your heart after finishing with your prayer.
May the Lord bless us all this fine day.
I was most moved after finishing with my prayer today... for all that are on the list as well as others who are on these boards as well.
Stay Strong!
Wallace

CaJunky,

Couldn't find a direct e-mail, but could you please change my wife's name to April? Wouldn't want to irritate God with the appearance of infidelity!

Thank you.
-David

This is the subject my daily devotional was on today and I thought I would share it. It was really uplifting to me.

Spiritual Optimism - The scripture used was 1 Samuel 17:45-45

A pessimist focuses on the problems, concentrating on the reasons why something cannot be done. The optimist sees those same problems, but he sees them from the perspective of Gods presence.

David saw that Goliath was a giant. David did not barge into battle unprepared to fight. David was prepared for God to grant him victory with the first stone he hurled at the giant or the fifth. David was ready to accept Gods victory, whether it came easily or with much effort.

Optimist do not ignore the difficulties, they are keenly aware of them. But the knowledge of God's presence prevents them from becoming discouraged or giving up.

The account of David and Goliath vividly pictures the source of the Christians faith- not our own size, strength, or resources, but the power of almighty God. If we focus on our opposition and problems, they will seem gigantic. But if we focus on God, we will see our situation in the proper perspective and be assured that all things are possible with God (Phil 4:13)

Love in Christ
cajunky

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I am praying for your restoration and all here, but want to let you know CJ that I am praying for the truth to be revealed for your W.

Please, it has been verified when I asked anonymously my last patient today, ironically a trial attorney who has dealt with spousal abuse QUITE A LOT that you should CHECK THE RECORDS OF PLACES HE HAS LIVED IN THE PAST FIVE YEARS.

Also, the statue of limitations for abuse is 7 years. If he has hurt her or any kid, seven years is the leeway.

See God is revealing new things each day. This lawyer told me to tell my friend (you) that this statue is pretty much in all 50 states the same. So what are you waiting for? March to that courthouse and if you have to, call the other places or visit them..

And YOU SHOULDN'T GO TO HIS SUPERIORS IN THE ARMY WITH THIS NEWS UNLESS AND THE LAWYER MADE THIS VERY CLEAR--UNLESS YOU HAVE VALID LEGAL PROOF THIS MAN HAS DONE THIS OR HE COULD FILE A LAWSUIT AGAINST YOU AND WIN... Very important. Attorney said that you have to cross the t's and dot all the i's here.

Keep praying but row like mad to the shore my friend.

Praying and touching the screen now for all you guys.

This is for Weds. Oct. 9.

Highlight of chapter 2 "Her Spirit".

Your wifes spirit is the gas in her car. Without the daily infilling of the Holy Spirit, we all run on empty. If a woman doesn't spend enough time every day with the Lord in prayer, worship, and the Word of God, she will lose ground , and the enemy of her soul will run her down. Your wifes relationship with God will affect her relationship with you more than anything else.

In Stormie Omartians (author if the book) survey of women, the number-one area in which women most wanted their husbands to pray for them is their spiritual walk. Because women feel pulled in so many directions, they need prayer for patience, love, peace, and all the other fruits of the spirit to be manifested in their lives.

Another good reason to pray for your wife's spiritual walk is that it is far better if both of you are putting your expectations in God

This is the prayer at the end of chapter. You can use it or use your own or use a combination of both.

PRAYER

LORD, as much as I love my wife, I know You love her more. I realize that I cannot meet her every need and expectation, but You can. I pray that you will give (wifes name) the fulfillment of knowing You in a deeper and richer way than she ever has before. Help her to be diligent and steadfast in her walk with You, never doubting or wavering. Make her strong in spirit and give her an ever increasing faith that always believes that You will answer her prayers.

Help her to carve out time every day to spend with You in Your Word and in prayer and praise. May Your Words abide in her, so that when she prays You will give her the desires of her heart(John 15:7). Help her to increase her knowledge of You. May she turn to You first for everything as You beome her constant companion. Give her discernment and revelation and enable her to hear Your voice instructing her. Help her to stay focused on You, no matter how great the storm is around her, so that she never strays off the path You have for her. Keep me aware of when she needs a fresh filling of Your Spirit so that I will be prompted to pray.

It is the desire of her heart to be a godly example to her friends and family, so give her patience with everyone she encounters. Help her to be so filled with Your Spirit that people sense Your presence when they are in her presence. I know she wants to serve You, but help her to understand when to say no if she is being asked to do more than she should. May she glorify You in all she does.

Your Word says that whoever finds You finds life and obtains Your favor(proverbs 8:35), so I pray that (wifes name) will find new life in You today and enjoy Your blessings poured out upon her. Guide her in everything she does, so that she becomes the dynamic, mighty, woman of God You want her to be. Give her knowledge of Your will and enable her to stay in the center of it. Help her to trust You with all her heart and not depend on her own understanding. May she acknowledge You in all her ways(Proverbs 3:5,6)

Scriptures- John 15:7 Matthew 17:20

Remember to pray for everyones marriage and your own.

Love in Christ
cajunky

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HUGE THANK YOU TO ALL PRAYING FOR ME.

Not sure what it means, as I am in B and still praying and rowing to shore, but here goes. TWO PRAISES. And I hope with all my heart they are honest on his part.

Son was not feeling well this morning. He has fought a virus all week. He coughed and sneezed all night and had another kind of gastric disturbance that I will not discuss here as it is not pretty..If you have kids you will understand.

Anyway, wH Austin calls and I think it is about son or something. Calls about noon. We didn't go to church b/c of son being ill. Austin tells me that HE HAS JUST LEFT CHURCH SERVICE AT CHURCH SON AND I REGULARLY VISIT AND ARE CONTEMPLATING BECOMING MEMBERS OF AND WANTS US TO GO TO LUNCH WITH HIM TODAY. And on Saturday night as I was e'ing here on MB, he sent me an email saying that he wished us a good weekend and that our son was so wonderful.

About today, I told him that we weren't at church b/c of son feeling not too good, which he fully understood. He said HE KEPT LOOKING AROUND WONDERING IF WE WERE THERE IN THE SAME SANCTUARY.

Please keep praying. I am so worried that this is nothing but false hope. He has done so many awful things over the last two years, and until now has shunned my even speaking about God to him. Just blocked it out and got mad at me if I tried to do so.

I am just trying to be cool here. Not getting too worked up about it, but did praise God a whole lot for God getting him into church to just listen. Just listening to God is movement away from the fog. But he is still way in the fog.

Need more prayers for us. I am always in prayer for you guys every night and am getting ready to do so as usual before bed.

Peachy.....I am praying for you right now. Just remember what I told you. When the WS realizes what he gave up and gets help then it is a whole different ballgame. Church is the perfect place for him to be so his heart will be further convicted. To tell you the truth I think that is why he has been such an #$s lately. God is convicting his heart and he is trying to blame you. Remember to let God do his will on him and you just sit back and watch what God can do. Like you said it may be just another false hope but God is convicting him that is for sure.

Love in Christ
cajunky

Peachy,

Just wanted to let you know I'll keep you in my prayers as well. And your son. I'm glad to hear Austin attended your church. I'll also pray that God will speak to him BIG TIME; we would all so love to see a major miracle happen in your family. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I appreciate all your posts, you make a lot of sense to me. So many on these boards are an inspiration to me. I don't post a lot, but do lots of reading. It's good to see even a 'hint' of something good happening. God bless you and your son. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Good Morning !

Please - I need prayer covering for my kids. I am out of town for 25th College Reunion & won't be back till Tue PM.

Get this - WH is home (1st time since Feb 02) and kids said he is sleeping most of the time and when he's up trying to play Dad but he's not respectful. WH & OS got into a shouting match & ended up in a fist fight !!! OS has a black eye now.

16 YO D. doesn't even want to be at home when he is there. YS (12) said WH took him to his soccer game Sat, so WH did do something good.

Thanks for all your prayers.

God Bless,

D.

WGTT: Am praying

BIG UPDATE: FALSE EXPECTATIONS. MORE PRAYER NEEDED FOR WH.

None of this even mattered to H really. Yesterday he made so much ground. Today after work, he drives by and pulls in driveway. We had much rain and instead of leaving dog in yard to get wet, put in garage during work. Dog pooped in there and I raised garage up and was later on going to hose it off and clean it up a bit. Well wH drove up. Looked out window and saw him peering in garage at dog poop with nose turned up. He then puts my monthly support check on my winshield of my suv in the driveway. That inside isn't perfectly clean, either as I drive aboug 60 miles a day with commute to work and son's school.

I open the front door b/c he is snooping and I smile and say "we would have loved to join you for lunch yesterday". He smiles. I say then that Had to put dog in garage and just got in from work, which I did.

About 15 min. later, he calls to tell me "how nice the rental house I am is" and "How wonderful my subdivision is". All to make me feel "so good about the d". He then says that it was BEST WE DID NOT GO TO LUNCH TOGETHER UNDER THESE CIRCIMSTANCES". Then I gently ask him to e xplain. He goes bezerk. Starts yelling at me and cussing me out. Saying that my attorney is stupid and that nothing has been done on the divorce. I told him how I indeed contacted her both by phone and via email that she get a move on last week during his last verbal abuse episode. He then called me a "worthless piece of sh3t". Said I should be taking "better care of myself". I said that I do look good and that I am sorry that I am not surgically created as is his mistress. That real women who give birth and real women just do not look that way unless we've been sucked, tucked and injected everywhere with everything. I am crying so hard now. He then says that if something doesn't happen soon, and then THE MONEY FACTOR COMES IN. SAYS THAT HE IS NOT PAYING ME THE AMOUNT MY ATTORNEYS SAYS IS DUE ME BY AND ACCORDING TO LAW. Says he will take me to court soon if I don't light a fire and take charge for this divorce. He is so cruel and evil. This is why I am in B. This is why God knows I cannot endure any more from him. Why God even allows D is because of this.

I end by emailing him and saying that I am worthy. That could a worthless peice of crap save lives every day and listen to their patients with a kind work and empathy and even offer prayers with them when needed? That a worthless piece of crap , this one, is a wonderful mother and very involved in as much as possible where her son is concerned. That a worthles piece of crap is someone of a kind and tender heart with a soul that loves God? That a worthless
piece of crap could be elected by her peers to pres. of her state medical society because of her incompetence?

I am about hysterical at this point. Son is in other part of house playing so he is spared this , seeing mommy cry and cry. I go in my closet and hold a wet washcloth to my swollen face. Two hours later it is still swollen.

He did not LISTEN TO GOD. THERE WAS NO REPENTANCE YESTERDAY. He DID NOT ATTEMPT ANY RECONCILIATION. Instead today after cussing me out with no fair warning and for nothing, he says that he just wants to be divorced and get this==THAT HE IS A GOOD SINGLE FAHTER. THAT HE MAY BE A CRAPPY HUSBAND AND A LIAR AND CHEATER BUT HE IS A GOOD FATHER??? Then he says that just wants to be friends with me. Does a friend do that?

At the end of email, I restate my and my why for the B plan. I tell him if he EVER FINDS GOD REALLY THEN HE WILL FIND HIS WAY TO HIS FAMILY. THAT UNTIL THE DAY HE TURNS FROM THIS AND AGREES UPON MB TERMS, THAT I WILL CHOOSE TO STAY AWAY FROM HIM. That it is the only way for me to be spared this horrible pain anymore.

PLEASE PRAY FOR HIM. For us. I CANNOT UNDERSTAND HOW YESTERDAY SOMEONE CAN GO TO CHURCH AND FOR ONE BRIEF MOMENT WANT TO SPEND TIME WITH THEIR FAMILY ONLY TO THROW IT ALL AWAY AND SPIT IN THE FACE OF FAITH AGAIN. I said, "do not know how you cannot walk away from the church you went to yesterday and feel peace knowing what you are allowing to go on in your family. IN YOUR FAMILY.

I cannot take this verbal abuse from him anymore. I cried over the phone yet I remained ladylike and just was sobbing. I kept my cool. My heart tells me I am not this piece of crap. But after hearing it so long and feeling so much after two years of adultery on his part and verbal assaults just as this, my brain is not so convinced. He kept on saying "tell me one thing you did for me". I was just crying. It is wrong. It was so unfair and I don't know how someone can live and have any peace whatsoever and even treat someone they totally loathed this way. Why does he hate me? I have to stay away for good. Unless he changes, it must stay this way and the D must go through for my sanity and for peace here.

Peachy,

WGTT: Am praying - Thanks !!!

Am praying for you too

D.

Just wanted to let you guys know I am praying for you too. I am sorry your husbands cannot see what they are throwing away yet. When they wake up they will see what made them truelly happy and it isn't a life without the person God gave you.

I admire you guys for sticking by your husbands through thick and thin. Only God can change their hearts though and when that happens it will be dramatic. I know I will never be the same person I was before I hit bottom and God took me in his arms and loved me and I began to grow into the person he wanted me to be all along.

Just know God is always there by our sides through these trials.

I love my wife dearly and I pray God will bless me with my family again.

Love in Christ
cajunky

Peachy -praying for you right now. This is so difficult, and God will help. We know he will help, you are a good person, yes you are.

Cajunky - would like to know if you could put a special prayer in for me. I was suppose to have surgery on Oct. 31. They called me today, to move it up to Thursday. I am having surgery on my right shoudler for rotator cuff tear, and bone spur. Thank you if you can. Would appreciate it. Thanks, nervous, yes, --- cry2much.

You got it...and you are on the wednsday list too.

Love in Christ
cajunky

Cry2much,

I'll pray for your surgery as well.

Peachy,

YOU ARE A GOOD WOMAN, YOU ARE A GOOD WOMAN, YOU ARE A GOOD WOMAN.... You are NOT crap! Your WH is obviously dealing with some incredibly powerful negative stuff in his life, (SATAN) and he's taking out his misery on you. IT'S ALL ABOUT HIM. NOT ABOUT YOU!! Try to remember that, and I would strongly advise you to have NO CONTACT with him whatsoever. Seems in HIS misery, he's intent on taking you down with him, or making you pay the price; you don't need that. Don't give him that power anymore. Talk to him strictly and ever ONLY about your son or business issues. For your own sanity, please don't listen to him anymore; hang up the phone, close the door on his face, do whatever you have to do to protect your sanity.

A dear friend of mine sent me some thoughts to reassure me through some rough waters yesterday, and I'd like to share them with you.

Quote "I know that your Heavenly Father is concerned about you. That He hurts for every tear that you cry, and that none of them are wasted. He doesn't magically sweep in and put things right, but He doesn't ignore your anquish. And because He is just, someone will have to answer for the way in which you are being hurt. That is up to Him. And that is reality - bizarre, odd, but real none the less. Hold onto that."

Part of her point to me was that Reality is only found where there is truth. Your WH doesn't have EVEN AN INKLING OF TRUTH IN HIM RIGHT NOW. All of our WS are wandering around in the fog; therefore we shouldn't even listen to their crap, and if we do, certainly not buy into it! That idea really spoke to me. I will continue to pray for you and your son, and your WH. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />