I need all of your prayers. I am also posted under Dodger. I have one month until my divorce is final, It was delayed because of a parenting class. I found out yesterday that my wife had been talking for a month and a half to some guy on the phone almost every day. Sometimes late at night. She says that they are not having an affair. It could be EA. She said that he is a Christian as are we. She said that he is in love with his ex-wife and wants to get back with her. I talked to him and he said the same thing except that he is dating 3 differnt women right now while he is waiting to get back with his ex. I told him it wasn't the Christian thing to do to be talking with my wife while we are separated. We are still married. Please pray for restoration of my marriage. I want it, my children (17 and 8) want it. My wife doesn't. What am I to do. I have been praying constantly. The Lord has granted me this 30 days extension. I need his help and yours. I am begging for my marriage to be saved. We have been married for almost 22 years. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Rtron....Join our prayer group. We pray and fast for one another every wednesday. We would love to add your name to the list of prayer warriors.

Love in Christ
cajunky

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Thank you I will join. Here is the latest:
Yes I go to church. I was saved in June. I just talked with my wife 30 minutes ago and she gave me some ground rules. She said that we are still going to get the divorce. She is going to date a little, but does not want a relationship with anybody. She said that she is not going to date the guy she has been calling. She said if I ever want to start dating her again, I need to stop pursuing her and quit being so obsessed with her. She said that I have been showing her more attention since we separated than I ever did before. That could be true. I have changed since our separation. Giving her space and time even if it means a divorce. Is that the way to proceed? I don't really have a choice except that if I pursue her, she'll go away for good. [[Frown]] Also I have been praying constantly and folks in my church, and my sister's church are lending their support. Bless you all. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Cajunky and Natasha, Thank you thank you thank you. Prayers are greatest gift we can give another. Natasha, thank you for your sweet words of wisdom.

And you are indeed right...He is listening to the kind of lies, only SATAN tells. The ones where even a Christian could use to justify an affair. In LMBT, it talks about how even a christian or a good person rationalizes a divorce or an affair. He is so lost right now.

Cry2much: One of my closest relatives is a surgeon who's specialty is the kind you will be using..His advice to those undergoing this is it's gonna hurt and be sore. Make a room in your coziest room in the house for a bed. Could be a sofa in the den. But somewhere in close proximity to refrigerator, medication, telephone, entertainment. For convenience and safety. He says to take your pain meds regularly and if they say to go to PT, then do it as it will help aches and pains go away. Keep a heating pad/ice pack nearby too. And get your comfiest robe and slippers and a few clean comfy big t shirts or gowns so you won't have to do laundry. Try to do as much housework as you can before so you can just relax and recuuperate. Pretend it is kind of a retreat thing. He says you will be fine in a few days but to relax, find some good books to read, movies to rent and order in. Actually that is the best prescription I've ever heard of. Oh and I will be praying for you.

Thanks so much to you all for praying for my wH. BUT THERE IS ONE PRAISE TODAY. He did say he was sorry whether I believed him or not. AND THAT HE AND MS. MONKEY ARE FOR SURE BROKEN UP...This was her FOURTH married man and the SECOND divorce she has precipitated. She must be the Mark McGwire of Adulteresses...But funny, she can make plenty of home runs after going through each base with each married man, but cannot ever seem to slide into home plate and get one to marry her.

Dodger,

Please read LMBT. Dobson even gives a diagram to show you how your pursuing your W makes her further apart. Funny, but Austin only seems to come around when the B is in effect or when he thinks someone else, a guy, may be (and it would not be true) coming around. I am friends with a male doc and he and I goof around, but we are just friends. He respects me and knows my beliefs and doesn't push anything except being a friend. Line clearly drawn.

And this "Christian" guy...Sounds LIKE HE HAS BEEN CONSUMING LOTS OF ANGEL FOOD CAKE TO ME. He is dating several women and is himself still married and still wants to pursue his x wife? DO YOU WONDER WHY HE EVEN HAS AN EX WIFE NOW? I went to a separation/divorce support group several months ago. In a group of over a hundred, we took anonymous poll of how many people felt ADULTERY WAS MAIN CAUSE OF DIVORCE/SEPARATION. A whopping 85% did. Case rests. Your w has already committed adultery in her heart by being friends with this guy and wanting to date around. Become very familiar with MB and especially A and B. Learn what happens to the WS when fog hits. Your w is in early stages of fog. It is an acute illness, trust me. But one God can cure. But YOU NEED TO BE WORKING ON YOU RIGHT NOW..KEEP PRAYING, BUT DO A AND THEN SWITCH TO B.

I am still way sad today folks. All of this has gone on in my family and he still hasn't chosen the path of reconciliation. He said today that "we could become really good friends and then one day in the future we could..."It kills me inside. He lost everything and for what? A short term shallow affair? His dream girl, his soul mate abandoned him and he is alone. But I don't think he will be alone for long. He has too much, in his mind, to offer just one woman.

Natasha - Peachy - yes I know I am a good person. The church I am attending is wonderful, and I have them to pray with also. SNL doesn't know what he is losing, but maybe one day he will wake up and see that I was a wonderful woman.

I saw the Dr. today for pre-op. They have a new plan for pain. I guess the pain is pretty severe after surgery. So he gets you prepped. Gives you the meds in IV that makes you sleepy. Then they block your shoulder and arm with meds. Then they put you to sleep. After the 1 1/2 hour surgery, when I am out of recovery, the Dr. said that you will have a 'noodle' of a arm. Won't feel anything, it will hang for 16-20 hours. Arm will be in a sling with a big bandage. I will have antibiotics through IV, and as soon as I get home I take the pain pills, and anti-inflammatory pills on a regular basis. Also, they have a compression pack with ice that I will wear 24 hrs a day for 2 weeks. He said this has helped the healing process tremendously, and I am to faithfully wear it for 2 weeks. I see the Dr. next week on Tuesday, and then the following week to have stitches removed. Then the physical therapy will start.

At least, it will be over with, and I can get myself on the road to recovery.

I talked today to the Dr. about the feelings of not wanting to wake up during anesthesia. I told him I am still depressed, and wanting to not be here. We talked awhile, and said maybe I should do the things that you suggested, don't do anything around the house for a few days. He said, you won't feel like it, and just take it easy. Read books, listen to tapes, and watch movies. Some good chic flicks. Sleep and take it easy. Let SNL come over and buy food for you to eat. Let him take care of you.

SNL is going to the hospital with me. I already had his mother planned to go to the hospital, but he said he wanted to go. Asked him why, and he said he wanted to go. I don't know why, he said he didn't feel in the past it was necessary to go. He had more important things to do, like make money. But I guess he wants to go. It sent messages to me of hope, but it also scared me too. I have no hope for us, but it felt good for the short time.

Anyways, thanks for the prayers. Will post some tomorrow, and then move on to surgery. Just needing some comfort, am scared, and don't like the pain I suffer everyday. All I know is it was a long haul after my R arm surgery, and being in a cast for 3 months. Then all the physical therapy, and more surgery. Now on the same arm I have to have shoulder surgery, and not looking forward to the pain. I guess women deal with pain more then men do. I AM SCARED, and really do wish to leave this world during anesthesia. I know that I am a good person, but you know what I am scared & tired of dealing with all this!!!! Can't express it to anyone else. My mother is down and dealing with the loss of her husband, SNL's mother is so depressed, and I can't express to my kids about my uneasiness. I am suppose to be here for them, and I will be there, and try to manage the emotions I have. Guess, I am stressed out to the max, and just wanting to go peacefully. Thanks all for your prayers, I am saying goodnight, and have to make lunch for our youngest son in high school.

Please pray for me and my family again, and I'll be praying for you all. It makes such a differance when poeple pray-have been so grateful this week. God is so good! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Please count me in and pray for me.
My husband is an alcoholic....and he has affair also.I filed the divore yesterday. Feel very down and sad....

Please pray for a hedge of protection around my WH and for his deliverance from evil. We will be going to court soon as he stopped paying c/s in June 02. I had to do this to protect my family from the destructive path my H is on.

Today, I am feeling sick, I have bronchitis, I miss my WH so much as he was such a caring person esp when I was sick.

I have been praying for the restoration of our marriages and families.

God Bless

Figured I get this off before I go to bed. Cause many of you are just getting up to start your day.

Heavenly Father,

Forgive us of the sins that keep us separated from you Lord. Show us those things that prevent us from drawing close to you and show us how to recognize the enemy’s weapons that are used against us. Help us to call on your name Lord when we feel down and hopeless. Help us to understand what it means to let go and let you work. There is such peace when we finally realize that we don’t need to carry the burden of fixing our marriage. That we just need to seek you and you will restore us. Help us have faith in you.

Lord you cannot help but give each and every one of us your undivided attention. You know all we go through. You know all we endure. You know our deepest darkest secrets and you still love us. That is the love many of us feel for our spouses. You know that because you put that love in us. It is because of that love you gave your Son for us when we were the WS and you the BS. Because you loved us during our life in the fog, we are able to endure. You show us your example of what real love is.

Each of the people here in this forum are at different stages of repair, rebuilding or reflecting on their marriages. Some are being just finding out about an A. Some are being restored. Some are being rebellious. Everyone is struggling with something here. Many are healing together, many are healing separately. But Lord you are in the mist of them all. For those that are recovering we ask that you be invited into the recovery. For those that will end in divorce, we ask that your hand be on them to comfort them and to heal their hurt and give them your peace. We have all found that we are one Family, one Ohana. Each of us feels the hurt of the others and want to reach out to help and to heal. We pray that our experiences not only help us reach for you, but also allow us to become a source of comfort and inspiration for others. Help us give words of comfort and healing to each other.

Lord we bind the enemy as he would try to subvert your will for our marriages. Place a hedge of protection around those that are in the fog. Give encouragement to those that seek their return. I also ask that you protect those that will be praying for all the marriages here.

Father we ask this because you are our Abba Daddy. You care for us beyond measure and we are precious to you.

Lord I lift up these requests and those praying in agreement with me today, for we are mighty numbers when we come in your name. We will not be defeated while you go before us in battle.

I ask these things in you Son’s mighty name. Amen.

Everyone have a blessed day in the Lord.

S&C

During and after my prayer time for our marriages I had such a peace about me again. God is going to answer some of our prayers today whether it be big or small.

Reflect on the last week and think of the blessings he has done for you. I know we have had some heart ache but God has also blessed us more than we know. If your like me I pray that he will bless my wife. I pray everyday that God will put his arms around my wife and hold her and tell her that I Love her.

Love in Christ
cajunky

Starting tomorrow I will start a new thread every week. It will be called Restoration of Marriages Prayer Group (and I will put date here). We can do prayer request every week and tell of answered prayers. I will still keep up with whose names we need to add to prayer warrior group and answered prayers.

Love in Christ
cajunky

Cajunky - you are a ANGEL! God bless you and your wife! Lord give us all the peace today as we start our day. Jesus came to die so we'd be reconciled, He came to rise to show His pow'r and might, and that's why we praise HIM. Amen

Just thought I would share this. I get these through my e-mail.

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fname: morgue

state: IN, United States

Praise Report: I want to give a praise report. My husband
left me and divorced me after 26 years of marriage. It was
a very costly and bitter divorce. I was in a state of shock.
It was over another woman. The woman was my friends sister.

Praise God, he came back home 2 months ago.

Although we are not married anymore. He is home. He swore
that he would never ever come home. We are now going to
court because the other woman is stalking me and has a gun.
Please pray a hedge of protection around our family. Some
time in the near future, I hope to marry my husband again.
Satan set out to destroy my marriage and my family.

This is one family and marriage that God has the upper hand.
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Love in Christ
cajunky