Every Wed. we are to pray and fast for one another. Every Weds we can check in and let everyone know we have prayed for the group. Prayer does mighty things and group prayer is even better.

Right now we are doing "POWER of a Praying Husband" for the men and "Power of a Praying Wife" for the ladies. You can use this as your prayer or have your own or combine them.

I think it will be great to see how God works in our lives and heals our marriages and us.

If you want to pray with us I will be more than happy to add your name to the list below.

Prayer Warriors who are praying and being prayed for: cajunky,Ezra, Willgetthruthis, Godisincontrol, Natasha79, JohnC, c++_guy, Wallace, relady, steadfast and committed, morriggs,lupolady, stillwaiting, Broken Hearted, PasDeDeux, hopeful_person,GinnyF, Not peachy in Ga, cry2much,SNL,LostAgain(Dave&April), Dodger, gloriachu, LoveNcare,JMF,WEN, NiteHawk, Absurd, LetSTry,AgainsttheWind,cemmerson

Prayers Answered: Lupolady(air conditioner),Steadfast(first string again),cry2much(sucessful surgery)

Love in Christ
Cajunky

<small>[ October 30, 2002, 01:14 PM: Message edited by: cajunky ]</small>

A special prayer request -

Please pray for guidance, wisdom, strength, courage and discernment for me this week. I will most likely go ahead & file for a DV. This isn't what I want, but WH is into cocaine (he denies of of course) and OW is very much a part of that. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

My emotions are all over the board, one minute feeling peaceful and calm and the next I'm in tears. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Cajunky, thanks for posting the prayers each week, your efforts are very much apprciated.
God Bless,

D.

WGTT....Like I told you before we have to pray for your husband to get control of his addiction before the marriage will ever work. My addiction controlled my life and it wasn't until I got help and admitted I was an addict that I truelly started recovery and changed my life forever. I now feel so free from the double life I was leading and so great that I will not return to the same life again.

You are in our prayers as I know how hard it must be to watch your husband destroy his life with his addiction. I know it is hard to hold on but keep praying for him and God will move him. Just remember that he is the one that has to change his habits and face himself.

Love in Christ
cajunky

Please pray for me and my family. For restoration of my marriage, and same for OW family. It looks impossible in human terms, but I know all things are possible with God. Also for complete peace, no matter what the outcome. Thanks.
P.S.Thanks Cajunky for keeping this going!

{{{WGTT}}}
I understand the pain you're in. My H and OW are into heroin, "speed," alcohol, and marijuana. I have had to file for DV to protect myself and our business. I also had to file for a restraining order, install an alarm system, and change my phone number, cell number, and e-mail address.

Even though there's been no contact for about 6 months (the nasty phone and e-mail messages have stopped since I changed the numbers and address), I still feel like I'm on an emotional rollercoaster - sad, angry, fearful, numb, and sometimes grateful he's gone.

Have you tried Al-Anon? It's been extremely helpful for me. I agree with cajunky that your H is being controlled by his addictions (including OW). I know that some MBers have restored their marriages despite addictions (BrambleRose comes to mind), but my H has thrown away everything in his life, not only our 20 year relationship, but our business, his reputation, his relationships with members of his family, our "dream house," most of his old friends, his health, his driver's license, possibly his professional license (which is under investigation). He has charges pending against him for violating the restraining order. Neither he or OW has worked in 2 years - I'm still sending him a check for his ownership in the business.

I also need to pray for my H, for God's will for him and for his sobriety because without it, he may not survive. It's terribly painful to watch an addict destroy himself, knowing that anything we try to do to help will only make things worse.

Oct.30

HER MOODS

First of all, you must keep in mind that there is a process always going on in a woman's mind and soul, unbeknownest to her unsuspecting husband. What is happening is that all her thoughts, fears, hormones, responsibilities, memories of past offenses, the amount of sleep she got last nite, the devils plans for her life, her entire past, and how her hair is behaving that day, are simultaneously competing for her attention. When all these things converge at one moment in time, it can be unbearable.

Try to understand that as a man you have simple, clearly defined needs, such as food, sex,success, appreciation, and recreation. Your wife is a complex being. Her needs are so intricate that even she is at a loss for words to explain them to you. Only GOD, her Creator, can fathom it all.

It is best to first pray " LORD, reveal to me what is happening in my wife and show me what I can do about it"

Then say to your wife, " Tell me what is going on in that pretty head of yours."

She may not be able to articulate an answer that is remotely understandable to you, but the important thing is that she sees you are listening.

Here are a few lines to say that can help you navigate these waters successfully. Say them to your wife in any order, and then pray for her.

1. " I LOVE YOU"
2. "You are the greatest woman in the world to me."
3. "your beautiful when you are upset."
4. "Tell me what is on your mind, and I promise not to get upset."
5. "How have I let you down."
6. "How can I make it up to you."
7. "Have you been getting enough sleep."
8. "What would make you happy right now?"
9. "I don't have all the answers. But God does."
10. "Do you want to pray about this together."

PRAYER

LORD, I pray for (wifes name) and ask that You would calm her spirit, soothe her soul, and give her peace today. Drown out the voice of the enemy, who seeks to entrap her with lies. Help her to take every thought captive so she is not led astray (2 Corinthians 10:5). Where there is error in her thinking, I pray You would reveal it to her and set her back on course. Help her to hear Your voice only. Fill her afresh with Your Holy Spirit and wash away anything in her that is not of You.

Balance her body perfectly so that she is not carried up and down like a roller coaster. Give her inner tranquility that prevails no matter what is going on around her. Enable her to see things from Your perspective so that she can fully appreciate all the good that is in her life. Keep her from being blinded by fears and doubts. Show her the bigger picture, and teach her to distinguish the valuable from the unimportant. Help her to recognize the answers to her own prayers. Show me how to convince her that I love her, and help me to demonstrate it in ways she can perceive.

LORD, I know that You have "called us to peace"(1 corinthians 7:15). Help us both to hear that call and live in the peace that passes all understanding. I say to my wife, "Let the peace of GOD rule" in your heart, and "be thankful"(colossian 3:15)

Remember to pray for your marriage as well as everyone elses.

Love in Christ
cajunky

<small>[ October 25, 2002, 01:07 AM: Message edited by: cajunky ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Show me how to convince her that I love her, and help me to demonstrate it in ways she can perceive.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">This one line in the prayer is what I pray just about everyday along with my other prayers for my wife and our relationship.

Love in Christ
cajunky

<small>[ October 25, 2002, 01:10 AM: Message edited by: cajunky ]</small>

Firstly, I would like to thank and praise God for being with me whilst I was negotiating the c/s claim and dv settlement with my adv and H adv. I went there without any expectations and only with prayers. My thanks also goes out to all my fellow MB friends who kept me in their prayers.

Our prayers were answered in the following manner.

1. Business kept WH extra days in NY so his atty had to request another court date which will only be available 2nd week in November.

2. Dv settlement could not be reached by advocates as the information and actual documentation that I gave them, was not the same as what H declared. Even an expense that was on his own salary slip differed to what he stated on the affidavit which was taken under oath. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

3. Advocates and atty's reached unanimous agreement that I am entitled to child support, also based on actual and scheduled documention that I gave them. 1st payment must be made with immediate effect as soon as his atty informs him. My amount requested was overuled and they increased the amount.

4. Division of assets will entitle me to keep the house with WH responsible for the mortgage repayments.

5. Because of irregular payments of c/s previously and H deciding randomly which accounts to stop paying and pass the buck to me, a court order will be taken out against him to protect me financially.

After these hearings yesterday I can tell everybody, believe in God. Let him take control, then it will not be my will but his will.

As H is not aware of the above and this will in all probability anger him I am praying for his deliverance,his mind and for God to bless him wherever he is.

Thanks again. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Hi guy and girls.....I noticed on another thread that Nina Too might have some good news. God laid it on my heart to ask all of us to pray for her situation. It looks like God may be fixing to heal another marriage.

Love in Christ
cajunky

Once more a request from me!
My surgery has been postponed for few days cause of some "physiological" reasons so I ask you once more to remember me.
I also saw Nina's post so my hope has grown to the sky, especially when I talk with YD who tells me about OW who is often out of the house (with a baby or even without), daddy cooking lunch, taking care of her....everything what he never had to do before.
Maybe, maybe he thinks sometimes of the life WE had. My biggest wish is for him to think of our happy days and to come back to renew these days and even make OUR life better.
Maybe I am stupid after 3 whole yrs passed and still thinking like that but I can't help.
I see I can live without him but that's not real life. I see life now only as "time-out" before we are together again as a family we used to be.

Thank you all
D

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by cajunky:
<strong>Every Wed. we are to pray and fast for one another. Every Weds we can check in and let everyone know we have prayed for the group. Prayer does mighty things and group prayer is even better.

I think it will be great to see how God works in our lives and heals our marriages and us.

If you want to pray with us I will be more than happy to add your name to the list below.

Prayer Warriors who are praying and being prayed for: cajunky,Ezra, Willgetthruthis, Godisincontrol, Natasha79, JohnC, c++_guy, Wallace, relady, steadfast and committed, morriggs,lupolady, stillwaiting, Broken Hearted, PasDeDeux, hopeful_person,GinnyF, Not peachy in Ga, cry2much,SNL,LostAgain(Dave&April), Dodger, gloriachu, LoveNcare,JMF,WEN, NiteHawk, Absurd, LetSTry,AgainsttheWind

Prayers Answered: Lupolady(air conditioner),Steadfast(first string again),cry2much(sucessful surgery)

Love in Christ
Cajunky</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">

Please add me to the group prayer list. My husband and I separated 8 months ago. Two months ago I told him I still love him and want to make it work. There has been much hurt caused on both sides since; and God has work to do yet! He said he couldn't give me an answer then since he didn't know where his head was. I fully understood. On Oct. 18th he called on my birthday to say H.B.! Oct. 23, I gave him a letter listing things I love about him and another list of things I need to do to improve our marriage. Please pray for Divine Intervention

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His Affection:
"Many people, even Godly men and women, live in marriages that are dead because there is no affection. And women endure it because their H's are good in other ways, or they don't feel worthy enough to ask for affection. But this is not the way God designed the marital relationship. "Let the H render to his W the affection due her, and likewise the W to her H." (I Cor. 7:3) There is a "time to embrace." (Eccl. 3:5). When you're married, it's definitely the time. Affection isn't at the top of a man's priority list becuase men often see sex and affection as being the same. A woman's greatest need is for affection. If you are in a marriage that lacks it, pray for the Holy Spirit's transformation.

<strong>PRAYER:
Lord,
I pray for open physical affection between my H and me. Enable each of us to lay aside self consciousness or apathy and be effective in our display of love. Help us to determine how much we care for and value each other. Remind us throughout each day to affectionately touch one another in some way. Help us to not be cold, undemonstrative, uninterested, or remote. Enable us to be warm, tender, compassionate, loving, and adoring. Break through any hardheadedness on our part that refuses to change and grow. If one of us is less affectionate to the other's detriment, bring us into balance.
Where any lack of affection has planted a negative view of marriage in our children, or taught them an incorrect way of relating to a marriage partner, help us to model the right way so that they can observe it. Show us how to openly confess our errors to show and demonstrate our commitment to live differently.
Change our habits of indifference or busyness. May we not so take each other for granted that we don't make the effort to reach out and touch one another with affection. Help us not to weaken the marriage through neglect of this vital means of communication. I pray that we always "greet one another with a kiss of love" (I Peter 5:14). I know that only the transforming power of the Holy Spirit can make change that last. I trust You to transform us and make us the husband and wife You called us to be.
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Scripture:
Phillipians 2:1,2
Ephesians 5: 28,29

I have a praise. It may be little but it just shows how God can work things out. My daughter has a gymnastics competition this coming Sat. and I was not going to be able to attend because I have to work and I have taken all my vacation. My family is very important to me so I was upset that I couldn't go. Just out of the blue one of my co-workers needed some time off early in the week and he offered to switch some time if I could work for him. Of course I said sure. Only after I had done this did I realize God had done this for me.

God is Good!!!!!

Love in Christ
cajunky

<small>[ October 28, 2002, 01:13 AM: Message edited by: cajunky ]</small>

It wasn't a little thing. God knows it was important to you. Isn't it great that the Creator of the Universe takes the time to make us feel special?

S&C

I got this from a marriage restoration site. I think it was marriagehealing.com.

Do we have this kind of faith?

Praise Report: THE FAITH OF A CHILD- My praise report comes
from my son, who is 10 years old. God tells us to have child
like faith and my son surely has the faith that no matter
what it looks like he believes God is bringing his daddy
home.

My husband returned home in April after being gone for
almost four years. He just left again and is living with yet
another woman. To say the least I have been devastated and
really wrestling with God and my stand. Last night my son
and I were driving and I said, "Would you be mad at mommy if
she gave up and moved on from daddy" and he said, "No, but I
don't want you to" I said, "You really believe daddy is
coming back home don't you?" and he said, "Ya, I do" and I
said, "Well even though daddy says he is not coming back and
he has moved in with the OW" and he said,

"Mommy, daddy wants to come home...deep down he wants to
come home but the enemy has his so bound up and wound up
with the things of the world that he can not see his way
home. That is why I pray for his spiritual eyes and ears to
be open, so that he can see his way home and he can hear
from God telling him to go home." I just kind of sat there
with my ! mouth open...I guess he told me...I pray for that
kind of faith, that no matter what his daddy does or what
the circumstances look like he knows God is in control and
that God will bring his daddy home. The other day my
husband got into a fight with the OW and moved all his stuff
back home while I was at work...my son helped him. But by
the time I got home it was all gone, I guess they made up. I
was upset by this because he had our son help him and our
son wants him home as much as I do.

I thought it was complete disregard for my son's feelings.
He was all excited when I got home and told me daddys stuff
was in the house but when we went in he had moved it all
back. That night in prayer my son told me, "hey mom we had a
sign today from God that he is working on daddy by him
moving his stuff back, ya he left with it again, but God is
working on him. There is a battle going on over him and we
can't give up on him" THIS IS A 10 YEAR OLD! I pray for all
of us to have! his kind of faith...The faith of a child.

Love in Christ
cajunky

No we don't, at least a good % of us don't. I know I don't have it, talked with a good friend, and seems I have given up most of my hope.

Your message about the boy age 10 was so dear to my heart. I pray for God to show me this little boys strength. To show God and my WH that I am a loving person, and a good wife.

Seems I am so down lately, really down.

This was posted on Oct.23 week by accident but what an awesome idea. It will be just for this week that we change to thursday.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Stillwaiting
Member
Member # 18556

posted October 28, 2002 11:04 PM
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Attention all standers! Thursday Oct 31, 2002 is a world wide day of fast and prayer for our WS and prodigals across the world. Covenant Keepers is the initiator in this, and I think it is a wonderful idea, lets change for this week our day of fasting to Thursday, instead of Wed. what do you think? What an awesome thought all of us praying for each other with each other!
God Bless, I can't wait to see the results of many WS's going home to their S's, Haleluhia!
God Bless~!

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Married June 1992 no children
H Left Nov 1995 not divorced
WH living with OW 6years
Keeping my vows til death do we part!
Waiting on the Lord for restoration

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</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Love in Christ
cajunky

<small>[ October 29, 2002, 07:45 AM: Message edited by: cajunky ]</small>