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Nina too -
I haven't been posting much as of late, but I did run across this and - well am in shock as are you.
It seems that you have gotten alot of womderful advice and I would only add to remind him - if it ever gets this far - that you'd want to follow the four rules of recovery as spelled out in MB.
It's hard for us to see the future, but I guess that the Harleys have really seen enough of this to give us the statistics of 6 mos. to 2 years for the end of the affair and for the fog to lift.
I know that you are not expecting any sudden moves on his part, so just take things one day at a time and see how you, he and the kids are doing.
My prayers are with you. K
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Nina too:
I would like to look at this from a slightly different perspective....tho not very different.
I certainly don't want to burst your bubble in any way, as has been stated, EVERY BS here (myself included) dream and PRAY for the day we hear something that sounds like this email!
However, I am wondering (after the email was put in proper perspective of your first email citing the "experts" regarding children and divorce/"blended families"), I wonder if H's post was simply (using this term loosely here) a reaction to all he's seeing/hearing about the reactions from son.
In other words, if he's not feeling some of this due to the reality of what damage his actions have had with his (older) children? So much of what the Harley's talk about: "reality" smacking them up-side the head...Your children WILL NOT be "one, big, happy family" w/ow and new half-sibling...which may have been part of his "dream" at one time. So this has helped "shake his awake?"
GOOD!!
I personally don't think you "owe" him a reply to this email. It's simply HIS thoughts/feelings being expressed. I don't really think there's anything you CAN say back to it. At least nothing positive. Maybe just an acknowledgement of recieving it?
And keep up the good work maintaining your balance.
God Bless,
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Ummmmm, I don't know what to say really. I simply came here to update on ya, wasn't expecting THIS???!!!
I am glad for him though, a little bit of humanity has shown through. What do you plan to do?
SH
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