Every Wed. we are to pray and fast for one another. Every Weds we can check in and let everyone know we have prayed for the group. Prayer does mighty things and group prayer is even better.

Right now we are doing "POWER of a Praying Husband" for the men and "Power of a Praying Wife" for the ladies. You can use this as your prayer or have your own or combine them.

I think it will be great to see how God works in our lives and heals our marriages and us.

If you want to pray with us I will be more than happy to add your name to the list below.

Prayer Warriors who are praying and being prayed for: cajunky,Ezra, Willgetthruthis, Godisincontrol, Natasha79, JohnC, c++_guy, Wallace, relady, steadfast and committed, morriggs,lupolady, stillwaiting, Broken Hearted, PasDeDeux, hopeful_person,GinnyF, Not peachy in Ga, cry2much,SNL,LostAgain(Dave&April), Dodger, gloriachu, LoveNcare,JMF,WEN, NiteHawk, Absurd, LetSTry,AgainsttheWind,cemmerson, getting better,kellidiane,Terrified, BeeLee,idostylin, Resilient, thiscantbehappening, day by day, Jloves, broken x3, Sue with Hope, sunrise1

Prayers Answered: Lupolady(air conditioner),Steadfast(first string again),cry2much(sucessful surgery), Movingonwithlife(Wife coming home),WGTT(accepted into mentor program), betrayed and desparate (sucessful cancer surgery),Againstthewind(Got job), Free ( Marriage Restoration begun )

Love in Christ
Cajunky

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I got this in my e-mail today. For those of you that don't know his story he was sttod for his marriage for eight years(I think). He got remarried and was with his wife through some sickness that eventually took her life but this is where God wanted him. He now works for rejoice ministries and has a pretty good book about why you should stand for your marriage.

THE LORD’S PLANS

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the Lord, 'plans
to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a
future.'"
Jeremiah 29:11

Late in the summer of 1999, I sat in a traffic jam on the way to meet
with the doctors caring for my wife. A four-day hospital stay was now
over four months long. I knew that this special meeting with the doc-
tors could only mean that my wife’s condition was becoming grave. Ul-
timately, it would claim her life.

During my wife’s long hospital stay, God had given me scripture after
scripture saying that He was going to heal Therese of her illness.
Right from the beginning of my wife’s illness, I would pray with
Charlyne Steinkamp every morning at 6:30 AM for the healing of my wife.
God comforted me with His Word. I believed God for that miracle.

As I sat in that traffic jam, late for my meeting with the doctors, I
was slowly passed on my left by a large, plain white tractor-trailer
rig. Inscribed on the back doors of the trailer were the words to
Jeremiah 29:11 above. I felt God’s peace about my wife’s medical con-
dition in a new way. I knew that God was in control of the situation
and that He would provide for my wife’s healing as He had promised me
so many times during the last several months.

Only a few days after this incident in traffic, my wife’s illness re-
sulted in her death at the early age of 43. God had kept His promise
but in a much different way than I expected. God cannot lie. It was in
my understanding of God’s Word to me that I failed to see His mercy.
God had given my wife her ultimate healing in Jesus Christ.

A little over three years earlier than this, a wife was moving her
family, consisting of two young adopted children and a husband con-
fined to a wheel chair with MS, to a new city and an a new job. During
the trip, in a motel room far from home, the husband of this courag-
eous woman lost his battle with this dreadful disease. Alone, dis-
traught and far from family and friends, this saint of a woman cried
out to God in her grief. Pouring over her Bible for something to ease
the pain, God gave her Jeremiah 29:11 to show His love and concern for
her and now fatherless children. God had a plan amidst all the suffer-
ing and pain.

Earlier this year, God brought Rose Krizewicz into my life. I immed-
iately was drawn to this courageous woman who married a man confined
to a wheel chair. Their inability to have children together led her to
an orphanage in Siberia, Russia in 1993 to rescue two precious little
ones from despicable living conditions. Although separated by over 600
miles, nightly marathon phone calls were the beginnings of a budding
relationship.

Today, I join my life to Rose’s in the sacrament of Holy Matrimony.
God’s promise to us both in Jeremiah 29:11 has come to fruition. On
that fateful day in 1999, God’s gift to me of this scripture was not
directed towards the healing of my first wife, but pointed towards the
blessings He would bestow on me in the future. God indeed had a plan
and a future filled with hope. I thank Him daily for bringing this
beautiful woman into my life.

This story is about being obedient to God no matter what the circum-
stances or how difficult things are. God blesses the obedient. Be
faithful to somebody in your life. You never know how such faithful-
ness will be rewarded. God has a plan for your life. He cares for you
and your spouse. Honor Him through your obedience to your marriage
vows. Being obedient to God is always the right choice. He loves you
dearly and has a plan for your life. Be comforted in His loving care
for you. He will NOT fail you!

"He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from
the Lord."
Proverbs 18:22

Hold on to this promise. Do not lose hope. God is in control and will
work things out for you in due time. Trust in Him and He will do this
for you.

May the Lord bless you, giving you the desires of your heart! Your
cares and concerns will be on our hearts today and in our prayers. May
you find hope and comfort in the arms of our blessed Savior. Peace and
blessings are yours in Jesus Christ.

Dennis Wingfield
dennis@rejoiceministries.org

We had a marriage restoration begun. I have copied it from last weeks thread and posted it here. God is great isn't he!!!!

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HI all,
I just wanted everyone here to know there is always hope and miracles do happen. I have been struggling with getting brave enough to file for DV for some time now. I had had it and had my mind made up that this is what I had to do. I never thought I would ever change my mind and want to work on my marriage, it was too painful and I had come to far out of it to ever return or even want to. I did keep the mind set that I was open to God changing my mind if this was HIs will. I also kept hearing the same answer when praying about my marriage. Get out. I don't think I heard wrong at all. I think this was God's way of dealing with H and probably myself. Not until I told him of my plans did things start to change. When I told him I was going to file, I felt no emotion initially and was pretty hard hearted about it. He asked if it would be before Christmas or after and I gave him the option of whenever he wanted. He said he never wanted it to begin with. I said sorry, you could have fooled me. He then proceeded to tell me how I have a problem with perception and he sees the facts as they are. This conversaiton took place for probably an hour. The entire time he was telling me how I'm wrong and he's right. I could see this was getting no where, although this was a civil conversation, no yelling etc. He was very emotional the remainder of the day and I almost gave in and asked him if he wanted to try again but I have done this so many times and at this time I did not want to try again. I asked God to let him come to me if I was supposed to keep trying. He did, that night. He asked "what" did he have to do to be able to stay and work this out. I told him what it would take for me to work on it and not to expect too much from me as I don't know if my feelings are just locked up or gone. We went to C together and I stated again that I have a lot of expectations from him yet I don't want him to have any of me at this time. This may sound selfish and cruel to feel this way but the C told him that basically the ball was in my court and he could do it or leave. I have since let him know that I am not going to throw him out the first times he makes a mistake and that I am trying to be realistic about him trying to change. So far things are working great. I will continue to rely on God for guidance and not make any decisions without consulting Him in prayer. I feel like this can and will work and be good.

My feelings for him have softened considerably and he is being very kind and considerate. I told him that I cannot pick up where we left off, I basically need to start over, learning to be friends again and rediscover each other, building a new relationship instead of trying to fix the old one. We will be dealing with the issues of the past in counseling and imagine we will cross some tough subjects. I do believe we can do this and survive and at this point this is my desire.

I said all along it would take a miracle, God changing my heart, for me to even give this another chance. My heart is softening and my feelings are changing. We are starting over, not totally disregarding the past, but trying to keep things where they belong.
Formerly Free Indeed

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cajunky

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Way Cool!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> It's so great to see what God can do.

S&C

I have a prayer request please..... The owners of the gym where I belong (2 brothers actually) are life long friends of mine. Rogers wife Christy found out today that her mom has colon cancer. I saw her crying when I got there today and asked her if she was OK and she shared with me. After we talked for a minute Rogers mom came in and I asked if we could pray about it and we did, right there in the gym. I don't think Christy is a christian(at least thats what the family thinks) so I feel God put me there at that moment for a purpose. Please pray for Christys mom and the family because they are going through some tough times right now. And pray that if Christy isn't saved that maybe this will be used to help her.

Love in Christ
cajunky

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Hi,

Please pray for restoration of my marriage. H left 11/01/2002, for mutual reasons. Mostly we did not agree on anything past year, he became distant starting going out all the time, we had a big blow out 1 week before he left and he said he was leaving, neither one of us attempted to stop our separation. Now that we have separated for over 1 month now, I have been trying to talk with him to try and save our marriage. He treated me bad, I treated him bad, but he blames me for mostly everything. I keep apolizing for my part in the break-up but he does not think he did anything.

He is enjoying his freedom right now and tells me he just wants peace. Does not seem like he wants to reconcile.

Please pray for reconcilation of this marriage, we have a 2year old D together, and my 3 D's from a previous marriage.

I have prayed myself and have put it in Gods hands. I try not to bother him (H) or call him if possible, he will goe days without calling to check on the baby, this separation is very hard on me, I am now raising four girls, working full-time (at night) paying all the bills (he payed half of everything) and trying to take care of the house.

I am so inpatient and trying to fix this myself. Please help if you can.

Thank-you
Laydeepoo <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Hi again,
Just wanted to say something more about being obedient to God. Sometimes when He tells us to do something, He may have a different plan or outcome than what we see at the time. I always felt like God was telling me to leave this marriage and I struggled with it because it did not line up totaly with God's word and I was sure it was his voice I was hearing. When I was finally willing to leave the marriage, and believe me I was ready to leave and had no plans of working it out, he was able to reach my H in a way I had never been able to. He has also changed my heart and direction. It remeinds me of several instances when God has asked us to be obedient but the obvious outcome was not what he intended at all. Kind of like Abraham being asked to sacrifice his son. I don't know if it is a test of our faith or teaching us to hear his voice or both. I'm learning, however slow I may be. We have to be able to distinguish His voice and be obedient to Him, no matter how far fetched it seems at the time. His ways are not our ways.

I am allowing God to work in me whether I understand it at the time or not and look so forward to having a good marriage. This is not to say I think everything is going to be perfect and I face new obstacles daily. I just know where my strength comes from and pray I never loose sight of that and that I will always be able to recognize His voice so I can continue to be obedient to Him.
It's strange how clearly we understand how God works, after there is evidence of what He was doing. I hope I can have more faith now and in the future and believe in the things not yet seen.

Cajunky, I just have to tell you how much the Lord used you to speak to me these last few months. Everytime I read how remorseful you are and how much you loved your wife and wanted to restore your relationship and how much you had changed, I thought, "What if this is how my H feels". I just had to hang on a little longer because I could not bear to end it if this was how he felt. Don't get me wrong, he didn't act like he was remorseful or sorry or changed or had any intention of changing at the time. I really didn't even think he wanted me around at all the way he acted. Since we have cleared the air and started over he has said many of the things you have said. I came very close to blowing it althogether, and I just want you to know, my heart aches for you in your sorrow, but you have no idea how instrumental you have been in turning my thinking around. God is going to bless you in a huge way, I'm sure. In His time, you will reap what you are sowing. God Bless You for allowing God to use you this way. I hope I will someday be able to help someone the way you have helped so many of us.
Free

Free,

My life is practically a carbon of CAJ's. He went before me and has become a template by which I work. I have had such a walk with the Lord the past 2 months that I can't help but feel righteous in God through Jesus Christ! I go to SLA group, I have 2 accountability partners, I was baptized into Christ Jesus (2nd baptism) on this past Thursday...I share this not to proclaim any false righteousness, rather I share this as an outward expression of my renewed intimacy with my Lord and savior Jesus Christ <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ...all to him!

Background: Several EA's via phone and/or internet. Have gone so far as to engage in PA's on 2 occasions (1 internet and 1 co-worker). ALL WW behavior as of Nov. '01 although much of that recovery came from my own weak will somehow I knew God was working in me. AS I look back I see the people and things placed before me and know it was the work of the Lord...enough of that, because it's this moment that counts most, this moment of being holy and righteous in HIM!

W is filing for dv (uncontested and so we're working it without representation)...in fact Friday the 13th she was to have turned Summons and Affidavit of Plaintiff over to me so that I could file with County Clerk. She didn't nor did she ever call me. Not sure if this is her attempt of trying to make shakey ground for me or not but I continue to pray for her with greatest love and respect and remain on solid ground. Until Firday the dv process was amicable and we were working together well...

Received a phone call and was distracted...didn't complete my thought which is pivotal to my walk. Here GOES:

"ALL WW behavior as of Nov. '01 "ceased" and although much of that recovery came from my own weak will somehow I knew God was working in me and not until Oct '02 for the first time in my life did I "feel" him (too much to go into, suffice it to say I "felt" his presence) working in me."

CAJ please keep Lady K in your prayer list: guard, guide and protect her. Giving her strength to continue her loving ways with children.

Free: I pray for restoration of your marriage. For your marriage to be the model for Almighty God to reveal you as one, husband and wife, with ALL who are surrounded by you. ....let your h's sinful past become a testimony to other brothers and sisters! Share your pain so that others may live in JOY! Read Romans 8:28...Let it ALL work to the good of YOU who love GOD (paraphrased)!

In Christ's Name I speak!
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Bad news all. My X did NOT come home again. She is still with the OM. Now she says she's going to consider moving out of his house for a month. Time to be a little selfish. I could use some prayers for me. I thought I had hit rock bottom, but a very perceptive friend of mine told me I have farther to fall. I've been a mess already and I don't know how I will react if it gets anyworse. I think I'll be forced to run or fight. I'm not the type to run.

Not sure what to do. I could use some strength and guidance.

C2
You never know when God is going to use you to help someone else and vice versa. This is another reason obedience is so important. Another thing I would like to add is surrender. I had a very hard time surrendering my marriage completly to the Lord. Yes I prayed about it ...but not until I gave up completly and gave it all to God and felt like I had nothing to loose, did he give it back. It is so hard when we are trying to save something, we have the natural urge to hold on to it while asking for help. I don't know if this stands true for all situations, but is was in mine. I had to relinquish it completly to get it back. I don't know, if in some way, as much as I hoped and prayed, I was allowing it to stand between me and God. I know my H claims to be born again, his actions don't show this most of the time. He may or may not be. It's not up to me to decide that. Maybe he is, but has things standing in his way also. I don't know. I just don't want to be the obstacle between anyone and God. It was as tho God spoke to me and told me to do what I was sent here to do...Love, and he will take care of the rest. I don't feel like we have to be passive about our relationships, we still have to work on it. But for me, I have to give God the opportunity to work. I just hope to hear His voice, be obedient and continue to surrender all to him. I'm sorry to say I still struggle most of the time and fail miserably, but I will keep trying. My nerves fray at times and I get very impaitent.

My biggest thorn at the time is getting any time to myself, like now. Between my kids and H, I cannot use the computer without an interruption about evry 3 minutes. It's frustrating, trying to keep your train of thought with this going on. Then I say something to them and everyone gts their feelings hurt.

It seems like everybody wants or needs me for something all the time, especially at this moment.

I just want to commend you and Cajunky and everybody else who has made these changes in their ife. No matter what the outcome, we are all growing closer to God and that's what is really important. I truely believe when we are in obedience to Him, he will give us the desire of our heart, or change the desire. I don't want anything He dos not want for me. I might think I do, but there is no peace in it. Pain can be overcome, but living with no peace is not living.
Free

Please add me to the prayer list-

I pray daily that my H says he loves me, I also pray that if I am correct in my suspicions of his A, that it is over, he tells me with radical honesty, and I also ask that our M survives and moves forward to a happier more fullfilled Marriage.

Thank you.

I've never been part of a prayer group. Do I check in and say a prayer for everyone individualy here, or do I just say it and acknowledged that I prayed for them?

One more thing - very selfish, but I pray that I retain all the information I am studying, that I am able to take this information and apply it correctly to the test questions and pass finals Mon 12/16 and Wed 12/18

Thank you

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Welcome, Sue:

DOn't know that there's really a protocol....just pray as you are led for everyone listed.

Your best course of action is to move closer to the Lord, and then you will surely hear His Voice with direction as to how to pray for your WH and others.

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As this triangle illustrates, we move toward God, each on our course, W on one vertex, H on one, and God at the top. If we keep pace, H and W move closer to each other with each step closer to Him. If we only try to be close to each other and leave God out, we are at the bottom of the triangle, and are the farthest from God and each other that is possible.

Hope this is helpful for someone.

God Bless,

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HIS PROTECTION

How many times have we heard stories about men who were on the battlefield and at the very moment when they were in the greatest danger, they experienced miraculous deliverance, only to learn later that someone back home was praying at that same moment? our H's are on the battlefield every day.

Pray regularly for our H's to be safe in planes, cars, the workplacem or walking down the street. We don't even have to think of all the specific dangers, we just ask the Lord to protect them from harm. God promises to "give His angels charge over you, to keep you in all your ways. In their hands they shall bear you up, lest you dash your foot against a stone" (Psalm 91:11-12). But accidents do happen, even to godly people, and when they do, they are sudden and unexpected. That's why prayer for your H's protection needs to be frequent and ongoing. You never know when it might be needed in the battlefield. And if something happens, you'll have the comfort of knowing you've invited God's presence and power into the midst of it.

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PRAYER:
LORD, I pray that You would protect (insert H's name) from any accidents, diseases, dangers, or evil influences. Keep him safe, especially in cars and planes. Hide him from violence and the plans of evil people. Wherever he walks, secure his steps. Keep him on Your path so that his feet don't slip (Psalm 17:5). If his foot does slip, hold him up by Your mercy (Psalm 94:18). Give him the wisdom and discretion that will help him walk safely and not fall into danger (Proverbs 3:21-23). Be his fortress, strength, shield, and stronghold (Psalm 18:2,3). Make him to dwell in the shadow of Your wings (Psalm 91:1-2). Be his rock, salvation, and defense, so that he will not be moved or shaken (Psalm 62:6). I pray that even though bad things may be happening all around him, they will not come near him (Psalm 91:7). Save him from any plans of the enemy that seek to destroy his life (Psalm 103:4). Preserve his going out and his coming in from this time forth and even forevermore (PSalm 121:8).
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SCripture:

Psalm 91:1-2
Psalm 27:5
Psalm 23:4
Psalm 17:7-8

Please add me to the prayer group.. I ahve already been praying for some on the list.

My H left 10-4-02. H has multiple addictions. He had things under control while kids were little and we were heavily involved with church. I dont believe H was ever truly saved and his church attendance/religion was another form of addiction

4 years ago H started with pain killers again (HEAVY ADDICTION) and 2 years into that atarted affair with co-worker. H went to detox but not rehab (1-01) and has struggled on and off oxycontins and alcohol since. DUI 10-01

H left to pursue relationshio w/OW and to "fight for his right to party" as his favorite song goes. Has completely turned his back on God.

H told me Wed nite that he is still not happy, problems with OW, mother, sister, our 4 kids dont want to be with him. Oldest 2 have completely shut him out. I said, maybe its time to look at your addictions as a source of your unhappiness.

As far as I know, it fell on deaf ears. Addiction denial is so strong.

Please pray for the whole messed up situation. I filed for divorce, but its not what I want. I was pushed into it.

Please keep me in your prayers on the 18th. It happens to be my birthday, and will be the first one in 29 years that I have not celebrated with my husband. Despite his actions, I still love him, the man he used to be, very much and want nothing more than the opportunity to seek counseling for him and for us together to try to work on the issues that he perceived to be insurmountable. I am still reeling from the confirmation of his 3 affairs, in correspondence I discovered from his latest OW, and his absolute disregard and disrespect for me. He communicates as little as possible and only via e-mail. That really is for the best and yet, I am having such a hard time coming to grips with reality. This small voice inside me persists in telling me that if I let him go, then he is truly lost. I've tried to talk to him, asked him to stop the D action and truly seek help for his internet porn addiction and for our marriage. He refuses and just pushes me further away. Please pray that I will have the strength to deal with this rationally, to make wise decisions and most importantly, to hear and obey God. Please pray that I be consistent in my prayers and spend the time with God that I need to. Please pray that I can discern if that small voice is my own desperate "clinging on", or if God is trying to tell me not to give up on him. It breaks my heart that he has pushed God away, and tried to justify his actions by saying that God would not want him to be unhappy. Thank you so much.

TRUST

Dec. 18

There are three extremely important areas in which a husband needs to be completely trustworthy. Failure in any one of these will cause his wife's trust to be weak in all others.

1. His absolute fidelity to his wife and his marriage.

There is nothing that violates trust like adultery. If a waman has been cheated on once, it changes her forever. She may forgive, but to forget, she would need a frontal lobotomy. Restoration takes time and requires a miraculous touch from God. Even if her husband has never actually done anything wrong, yet his actions around other woman make her feel insecure about his ability to stay faithful to her in the future, then his wife cannot trust him.

2. His responsibility to make a decent living and be wise with the family finances.

No matter how much a man loves his wife and how well he treats her, if he is irresponsible with money, it undermines her faith in him.

3. His consistent efforts to treat his wife and children with love and respect.

I know a number of woman who can't trust their husbands to treat them and their children well. She never knows when he is going to explode in anger.

When a husband is consistently trustworthy in these three imprtant areas, his wife finds it far easier to trust him in all the others. But trust must be mutual in a marriage. When one person can't or won't trust the other, neither of them can grow into all God has for them. "The heart of her husband safely trust her; so he will have no lack of gain". (Proverbs 31:11) The goal is to get to the point where both of you are so committed to the Lord that you can trust HIM as He works in your mate.

Pray as well that God will give you the wisdom to lead your family and make right decisions. Often your wife's hesistancy about following you is not because she doesn't trust you, but rather because she trust God more. She believes that only He knows certain things, and she wants to know you have sought Him for wisdom and will make decisions based on His will. Pray that your trust in God will be so evident that your wife can in turn trust God to have her best interest at heart as He works through you.
Be patient in praying about this. Trust is broken quickly but takes time to restore. "Let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart"(Galatians 6:9) GOD WILL ANSWER.

PRAYER

Lord, I pray that You would give (wife's name) the ability to trust me all things. Most of all, I want her to trust Your Holy Spirit working in and through me. Where I have been worthy of that trust and violated it, show mw, and I will confess that before You as sin. Help me not to conduct myself that way anymore. make me always be worthy of her trust. show me how to convince her that I am in partnership with You and will do all I can to be trustworthy.
Where she has lost trust in me unjustly, I pray You would help her to see the truth. If she doesn't trust me because of something someone else has done to her, help her to forgive that person so she can be free. I pray that she will not project thaose failures onto me and expect that I will do the same thing. Speifically I pray about (name any area where there is a lack of trust).

In any place where we have broken trust with one another, help us to reestablish it as strong. May we both trust You, Lord, working in each of us. Break any unholy bonds or soul ties between me ans any other woman in my past. Help us to fully repent of all relationships outside of our own that were not glorifying to You.

Lord I pray that You would deepen my trust of my wife. show me if there are places where I don't trust her judgement, her abilities, her loyalty, or her decisions. I pray that she will always be trustworthy a person and that I will be able to trust her completely.

Help me to be the kind of spiritual leader of our home and family that You want me to be. Increase our faith, for I know that You are a shield to those who put their trust in You ( proverbs 30:5). I say this day on behalf of my wife and me that you are or refuge and our fortress. You are our God, and in You will we trust (Psalm 91:2)

I have prayed this particular prayer many times over in the last year.

Remember to pray for your marriages as well as everyone elses.

Love in Christ
cajunky

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I have a praise report. The lady I asked for prayer about that looked like she had colon cancer has been declared cancer free. They went in and did surgery and the colon is really infected and they had to take some of it out but they found no cancer. She still has a cholostomy bag(temporary) but she is OK.

God is good.

Love in Christ
cajunky

<small>[ December 16, 2002, 12:06 AM: Message edited by: justtme ]</small>

Wow...what a busy weekend.

Laydeepoo.....we will pray for you as a group. We want all marriages to be restored some how.

Moving on with life.....Sorry for the set back. I still believe God is working on her and she will be back. Just keep your faith and try and persevere a little longer. She seems like she is trying to come back but it is just hard to take the first step.

Sue with hope.....Just pray with us sometime on Weds. You can pray your own prayer or Lupolady does a prayer from "Power of a Praying Wife" and I put one in from "Power of a Praying Husband". You can check in if you want to and tell us how God moved you or some thoughts you have but you can be sure that you have a lot of people praying for all our marriages.

Lupo....My wife and I have seen that several times in church. That is one of the reasons we are where we are today. It is so true though. The happiest time in our marriage was when we were the closest to God.

Free.....WOW....I cried when I read your post and did one of those fist in the air yahoo's.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Cajunky, I just have to tell you how much the Lord used you to speak to me these last few months. Everytime I read how remorseful you are and how much you loved your wife and wanted to restore your relationship and how much you had changed, I thought, "What if this is how my H feels". I just had to hang on a little longer because I could not bear to end it if this was how he felt. Don't get me wrong, he didn't act like he was remorseful or sorry or changed or had any intention of changing at the time. I really didn't even think he wanted me around at all the way he acted. Since we have cleared the air and started over he has said many of the things you have said. I came very close to blowing it althogether, and I just want you to know, my heart aches for you in your sorrow, but you have no idea how instrumental you have been in turning my thinking around. God is going to bless you in a huge way, I'm sure. In His time, you will reap what you are sowing. God Bless You for allowing God to use you this way. I hope I will someday be able to help someone the way you have helped so many of us.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">That is why I started this thread. I have always been taught as a Christian that you don't know who is watching or who you are influencing. You don't know how good it makes me feel that God used me and changed me so I could help someone else. It is so wild but we have just finished a big church wide study on wed. nites(40 Days of Purpose...Why am I Here) and one of the points was that God will use a circumstance that you have been in to change the life and help someone else. I can't take any of the credit though. God healed me of a lot of things and put me in this particular place to set an example.

You guys don't know how much your prayers and encouragement mean to me as well as all the others here.

Lets keep this prayer group going and watch God work some miracles.

Love in Christ
cajunky