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I'm 37 and my husband is 39.We have been together for alittle over a year,and earlier this week I got into one of my childish moods.What I mean by childish is I'll get frustrated and throw things and yell and holler.When that happened my husband firmly said he wasn't going to tolerate that kind of behavior anymore and he then put me over his knee and spanked.It was a total shock to me,no one ever spanked me as a child why should they do it now that I am an adult.I was wondering if this is alright or not?
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This is a new one. I guess my question is<BR>how did you feel about it? Did he hurt you?<BR>How did you react? Did you discuss this with your husband? You were certainly acting like<BR>a child when you were throwing things but that does not justify this. Was it done playfully? What was the result?
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<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Bryanp:<BR><B>This is a new one. I guess my question is<BR>how did you feel about it? Did he hurt you?<BR>How did you react? Did you discuss this with your husband? You were certainly acting like<BR>a child when you were throwing things but that does not justify this. Was it done playfully? What was the result?</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>My husband believes in domestic discipline.He didn't hurt me when he spanked me but he shocked the hell out of me.And it was not done playfully.The result was me crying and apologizing for the way I acted and promising never to act like that again.We have discussed DD several times but,I didn't think he would actually go and spank me.
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I want to see if I get this right. He spanked<BR>you but he did not hurt you. You were crying and you promised not to do it again. I am sorry but I am not sure how you really feel about it. Clearly this is something that you would do to a child not to a marriage partner. Technically this is physical abuse if you perceived it this way and he could actually go to jail if you called the police.<BR>Again I do not know your true feelings but I do not think it is a good idea if you are against it since it leads to humiliation and a loss of self esteem. On the other hand, your message does not seem to convey this.<BR>What are your thoughts and feelings?
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