Opps sorry, Im new here and a bit confused...I will read more of people storied before I reply for now on. Also, why did you neglect your wife??? I neglected my EX some, but I felt neglected also and we both kinda stopped loving each other. I did want to seek counseling, but she didnt want to and turned to someone else. That is OK for me though.....I met my soulmate in the process. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> Mike, (sorry can I call you Mike, how impolite)
Hang in there but, (I know everyone has a big butt)
I wouldn't make promises just to get her to come home. She needs to come home becuase she really wants to and needs you.
She may have other agenda's. She needs to do this becuase she wants too not becuase you want her to, or promise her things, or change a little for now.
She needs to love you for you and who you are.
This is gonna take time. Don't rush into it..
It is ok to miss one another....
But it needs to be the right decision for both,
you don't want her to blame you for coming back and then it doesn't work.
Take the time now instead of later when it is too late...
I wish I would have taken time instead of rushing things. But I didn't and I got hurt.
Why does it always seem that when you treat them like gold they walk all over you, and when you treat them like Sh** they want you even more, why is that?
Ok enough about me. I'm trying to help you..
Sorry I haven't been around. But I'm in and out so ok. Hope to hear from you soon.....

Its over,,,
Hello I don't quite know your story so I will not judge.
But, things work in many ways and if you found your soulmate I am very happy for you. Just wondering how long have you not been with WS?