NNNNNNNNNNNope.

NOT gonna fall for it! All I'll say is I'm older than you are, FW & S&C, and NOT about to tell you how much!!!

Like you, however, I feel about 25 (not physically, tho. In that category, I often feel 98!!), so "age doesn't matter," RIGHT?

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Gettin' serious for a minute, I'd like to take a stab at answering your serious question, if I may: I don't believe ex's don't KNOW how *wonderful* we are.....

THEY JUST DON'T CARE!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Seriously, (I'm getting waaaay too serious, here)...I believe I can almost track the progression of my H's "withdrawal" from our M. I can recall times when I knew he was distant....withdrawn. I believe he made himself see me as NOT WORTHY of his love (first in little things, then started getting into the bigger stuff) in order to allow himself to walk away the way he did. After that, all he has to do is keep convincing himself that he "tried" and I was NOT INTERESTED, and he justifies what he did.

BTW, going back to the original concept of this thread, which was the "need to feel supported and understood" idea....I was trying to give Cajunky what my friends give me! Basically a good, swift kick in the pants!! I have some wonderful friends, eh? They NEVER let me have a day of "wallowing" in my self-pity. Any time I try, they kick my butt, and set me back up on my feet, and turn my face back to the Lord.

Oh, well, I guess I have a tendency to get TOO deeply mired in self-pity, if allowed to go that way. I guess that's why I have "turned" the other way, and never allow myself time to start a pity party.

Take care, all.

And CAJ?!?!?!? WHERE ARE YA, bro?