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SIMPLE INSTRUCTIONS!One question. Yes or no naswer. We will discuss later. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Is it okay to date others (apart from your spouse) while married? This means the judge/clergy have not ended the marriage. <small>[ May 08, 2003, 01:23 PM: Message edited by: Chris -CA123 ]</small>
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It's just as 'okay' as having an affair.
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IMHO no. But not everyone thinks like me and I don't expect them too.
May I add too: what if someone is married and is 1+ year into a divorce/custody battle. Then what?
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I say the two parties involved KNOW when its over and it that case.......I think its OK. Me personally, I went to my pastor, my counselor and basically begged the wife to keep the family in tact. She said NO to me and all the people mentioned above. She then continued to date OM and bring him around my kids and filed for divorce two weeks after she booted me out. I knew it was OVER then as did she....so I started to date. BEST MOVE I EVER MADE. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">SIMPLE INSTRUCTIONS!</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">So if we don't play by your rules we can't play? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> I think we have a control freek on our hands <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Chris -CA123, answer my question...I'm curious </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">SIMPLE INSTRUCTIONS!</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">what if someone is married and is 1+ year into a divorce/custody battle. Then what?
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Check out the Lyxa thread - ok your questions will be answered...
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I LuvNprotect ME, I am trying to get a bunch of opinions then discuss them later. Narrow the focus of the discussion down so it's not all over the place. How come YOU didn't even answer the original question? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> In response to your query, no dating while married. Until the judge signs the papers. <small>[ May 08, 2003, 01:53 PM: Message edited by: Chris -CA123 ]</small>
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I agree completely with gnomedeplume.
What is that verse' Get the plank out of your own eye' -
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Check out the Lyxa thread!!!
it's all over the place!!!!
Point taken, Chris -CA123.
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I agree completely with gnomedeplume.
What is that verse' Get the plank out of your own eye' -
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Chris, I believed in that once, but am not so certain now. It may take years for my divorce to go through, and I am certainly emotionally divorced from him. I wouldn't bring a new person into my children's lives, but by 2004, if I'm not D'd, I plan to begin dating.
Right now, the girls are the main focus of my energy, and the D takes up way too much time and energy too. I also need to lighten my load of emotional baggage before I enter a new relationship - but in this way, I think I'm in the minority.
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I did answer the question:
I said "no - its not okay to date while married"
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Why does everyone think it's not ok? I don't happen to be dating but I think I would if I met someone I liked, that liked me, liked my kids and if I were strong enough to handle potential rejection (which I'm not right now)...I beleive that if one spouse leaves the marriage, the other one is freed up to go search for love and companionship too. If not, doesn't one have a great chance of becoming a martyr?
(uh oh, I don't know if I followed the simple instructions of "yes or no")...
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Why does everyone think it's not ok? I don't happen to be dating but I think I would if I met someone I liked, that liked me, liked my kids and if I were strong enough to handle potential rejection (which I'm not right now)...I beleive that if one spouse leaves the marriage, the other one is freed up to go search for love and companionship too. If not, doesn't one have a great chance of becoming a martyr?
(uh oh, I don't know if I followed the simple instructions of "yes or no")...
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Chris
Define DATING!
1) Saying hi to the other gender!
2) Sitting down at a table with the other gender.
3) Doing an free time activity with the other gender with other people
4) Doing an free time activity with the other gender without other people
5) Going out for a date expecting sex
6) Looking for a new mate
there are degrees of what encompasses dating
some are ok, others are not, ultimately the basis for the question that LYXA asked.
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I'm not looking for your definition right now. Whatever you define as dating is fine for answering the initial question.
This is NOT rocket science people. It is a SIMPLE QUESTION!
Is it okay to date (whatever you feel as a defintion of date is okay by me) while you are still legally married?
<small>[ May 08, 2003, 03:54 PM: Message edited by: Chris -CA123 ]</small>
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No. Plain and simple. Mitzi <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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