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In my state, men, at least non-custodial parents, typically end up far better off financially after a divorce than do women. Except in cases of great wealth, alimony is rarely awarded when there is child support, no matter how long the marriage or how out of date or non-existent the job skills of a SAHM. Child support almost never exceeds 40% of the non-custodial parent's income, because the first consideration is that the NCP have "enough" to live on. It does not matter if there are a dozen children, or if it had taken 75% of his income to support the children when he was at home. And there is no reason for the father to give up the good job before the divorce is filed - as soon as the job is gone, all he has to do is ask and the child support will be reduced.
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Well, at say 50% property split and 40% of net income paid in support, the wife is still being taken care of to a large extent. It does not matter if she had 4+ boyfriends. And whatever she did for her husband's benefit during the marriage, she is not doing it post-divorce. But the man still is.
I know there isn't as much money to go around. But I know that my wife's household income is now higher than mine. The laws are designed to ensure that.
I have a friend with 3/7 overnights and slightly less income than his ex-wife. But he pays 20% in child support. They call this the "cliff effect", and the Pennsylvania guidelines explicitly state that the cliff effect is just tough luck for the paying spouse.
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I dont know why your so bent about a check list that encourages men to not become a victom, its all fine and well that some want to save their marriages, but if/ when that effort fails why do women decide they have to say things that are not always true and hold all our stuff hostage?? does it make them feel better they have all our stuff?? The real story is they want the man to look like the bad guy so the judge will paint the woman as the victom and stick it to the men.Lawyers I know call these false abuse restraining orders job security, and since the judges were once lawyers they play the game.
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Please folks let's let this topic die once and for all.
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