BetrayedHusband,

I'm assuming you were talking to me? I'm not positive but think so. I don't really want to get into the middle of your and your wive's divorce/marriage, but I do think it's very detrimental to both of you to air the things you both are airing in here, considering you are both posting in here. I believe it will only cause both of you greater anger, bitterness, embarrasment, grief, etc.

I respect very much what the Bible says about divorce,remarriage, and marriage. In the case of adultery, divorce is "permitted". However, it does not have to be chosen. The verse does not say, "You MUST divorce your wife if she commits adultery." But like I said, I don't want too much to get into the middle. On one hand I've read your wife saying she didn't commit adultery and you saying she did, and personally, I hope you find whatever it is you are looking for in here, but I'm not sure what it is that you two are looking for???

Are you wanting a restored marriage? Are you wanting people to know the bad she did? If so, why? What gain will it bring to you? Are you wanting counseling? In my opinion, this is not a good place for that. There are alot of people here, myself included, who are not professional counselors and there are a lot of people who are also hurting, bitter, angry, etc. because of their situations. So I guess I am wondering why you and your wife are here and if it is doing you any good.

Yes, this is only my opinion. I think if you want reconciliation, you should seek that and do the things that will lead to that. And if you want divorce, which it sounds like you do, then divorce and go on. I don't think it's doing anyone good for you two to be doing what you've been doing in here. That is just my opinion. Take it for what it's worth and leave it if you want.

You already know that your wife is in here. If you continue to post, you know she will probably read. Personally, I think any wife who knew her husband was in here talking about her would want to read. And on the other hand, any husband, as yourself, who knew his wife was talking about him, would want to read.

Divorce is UGLY and there is no way around it. I hope you are in a good church and I believe you can be greatly ministered to at church and maybe with a good Christian counselor. I don't think it's good though to have people say, "Yah, your wife this and your wife that." What good does it do for you? Maybe it makes you feel better... but in the long run, does it really??

Obviously, I am not telling you to leave. I am not a moderator or anything. I guess I am just speaking as an outsider who has read both yours and your wifes posts in here and I thought I would say some things to you with the hope that I could help.

Sure, misery loves misery.... and you can get "help" from others experiencing your pain, but I still wonder if, in the long run, it will really bring you the joy and peace you truly need and desire, esp. since you know your wife is here.

I also think it causes people to "take sides" and well, I just personally don't think it's good for anyone, but that is only my opinion again and you can do what you want with it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I hope God blesses both you and your wife and brings joy and peace to BOTH of you. I pray that He helps you both through this. I think no bad of either of you. I have learned that everyone is a sinner, and while it does not justify sin, well... I honestly think no bad of either of you. But I don't think you should be concerned about what others think anyways although I know that is normal. I worried about it at first in my divorce.

Well, God bless and I truly do hope that God walks closely to both you and your wife and heals you both of the pain of the divorce.