I think you'll both be blessed alot by them. Oh, actually, I have the tapes, not videos. It is good to listen to them. Also, I ordered her "Alluring Love" video. It's a newer one. It was good too and her husband talks on it. I think it was aimed more for women though. It's been awhile since I watched it, but I'm pretty sure.
Another book I'd recommend is called "Prodigals Do Come Home". It's at the other website
www.rejoiceministries.org. I think it's pretty cheap. It's very insightful 'cause it's written by Bob, who was the one who had the affair and he told his wife they'd NEVER be married again, he didn't love her, etc. It gives alot of good insight about what is going on in the mind of the other person and how to handle it all. I can't remember if I mentioned or not, but at that site, you can sign up for a daily email devotional (called "Charlyne Cares")-- it has been a blessing so many times for me. I'll be just about ready to give up and then I'll get it and read and just be broken and in tears and the Lord really speaks to me through them. Also, Bob will often share insights about what he was thinking when he was telling his wife he didn't love her, etc. It's very eye-opening.
Well, God bless! I will put you both on my prayer list!
Oh, before I go, something neat about my "Be Encouraged" tapes is that I couldn't afford both them and the "Alluring Love" video but felt I really needed both <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> and I wrote to ask which they'd recommend to me for my situation. Well, a woman sent me her "Be Encouraged" tapes. She no longer needed them because her marriage had been restored! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> She told me to pass them on once I no longer needed them (which I will definitely do!).
I agree Greg about your marriage being worth every penny. It's worth every tear, every lonely night, every prayer.
One last thing: there's another good book. It's called "How to Save Your Marriage Alone" by Ed Wheat. The one I have is really little, like a mini book and was only about $3.99. It's good. Also Gary Smalley has these two books. One is for women called "Winning Your Husband Back Before It's Too Late" and the other is "Winning Your Wife Back Before It's Too Late." There's also a book called "Stained Glass Marriage" written by a couple who reconciled after a very ugly divorce (one where he kidnapped the children after she put a restraining order on him, and where they accused each other of things like abuse, mental insanity, very ugly stuff). They also have a website.
www.stainedglassministry.com. There's not alot there but I think it's still in progress. I'm not sure.
I think it was just really encouraging to me to find that there were restored marriages and ministries. I had no idea before the divorce. After the divorce, I also did alot of reading on divorce and marriage... mostly stuff by godly pastors/authors, and it helped me to become convicted myself and that's when God really laid upon my heart reconciliation and then I found these places!
There is a story in the man's book about a couple where the man cheated and they divorced and 3 yrs later, remarried. Here is what it says, "Jim and Jessica want everyone to know that there is power in persistent prayer. They want to shout to everyone 'Never give up!'" ... Theirs is a story of hope. This hope is delivered to your address by such encouraging words as , "ANYONE who is among the living has hope." (Eccl. 9:4). If you are among the living, you can have hope! The Psalmist had hoope and hung on to it: "I will hope continually, and will praise Thee yet more and more." (Ps. 71:14)
Later, it reads: "Is God able to restore your relationship. In Joel 2:25 He promises to "repay you for the years the locusts have eaten." Can He revive a dead marriage? We read in Luke 1:37 that "nothing is impossible with God." Can God make something good out of something awful? God promises to give "beauty for ashes... joy for mourning... praise for the spirit of heaviness." (Isaiah 61:3).
