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Purpleroses,
You did all you could at the time, and all you can do now is pray for him if you want to. You sound at peace and happy with your life and I am happy for you.
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You guys-
for something tossed wave said about gloating- I think i was too happy or satisfied - but supposedly ex H and OW are back together again- i don't know what this means- however, it seemed that he was being nicer to me when she wasn't with him and now that they are back together- he continues to be mean to me. I emailed him to please not shave our 2 year old daughter's hair again- he emails me back that I should stop this nonsense- and move on with my life- he returned daughter last saturday- with her head shaved- without even asking me- i just told him not to do it again- he sees it as me complaining and i don't know what it has to do with me moving on- anyway. I guess just let God take care of it.
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Nezi, Shaving your daughter's head is ludicrous and has nothing to do with you moving on. I would have had a fit if I was you on that one!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> And yet it sounds like you handled it calmly and he is just going overboard.
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Thank you, i couldn't figure out what shaving daughter's hair had to do with me moving on- i really can't figure him out- if OW is with him- he turns mean against me- however, if she's no there- he is so much nicer- does he need to show her that I am this bad person- and he hates me or something.
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nezi, Don't try to figure him out because you can't. He is just foggy brained. Just try your best to be pleasant and civil but don't let him into your life right now would be my advice. I am sorry <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />
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Nezi,
Pardon me if someone has already given you the advice I'm about to offer. Only read the first few posts.
I know how hard it is to not want your XH' relationship to crash and burn. Felt the same way myself years ago when my marriage ended. My XH is STILL WITH her, 22 years later! Thankfully, my Mother sat me down and talked some sense into me about "wanting bad things" to happen to others. I can tell you that when I let it go, I was a much happier, peaceful woman.
Try letting go Nezi. Whether they end tomorrow or spend eternity together, doesn't mean anything to YOUR life.
Peace be with you.
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