Eduard,
I can't give you the chapter and verse, but the bible says " NO greater love has a man than this, than he lay down his life for his friend ". To what length would you go for your children? Do the same for your wife, even when she is clearly out of line with God's will. Remember, She doesn't yet know Jesus like you do. God gave husband's a big responsibility, but He also gives us big rewards. I think if you will suffer those things, you will have that same feeling as Peter did when he took those steps on the water, because his eyes were totally focused on faith in Jesus. No you probably won't literally walk on water, but I feel Jesus will greatly reward your sacrifice for your wife. God is going to do a mighty work in your life, brother. I might want to meet you two even before heaven!!!!
God Bless
singleguy

PS: God Bless You for your widom LMX

I have been away for almost 18 mo. I am currently
separated and papers have been filed. Papers filed May 1, 2003. Over the course of last 60 months I re-invited the Lord into my life. In fact he has taken both of us by the hand and is guiding us. I realize that the Lord is providing an understanding of what happened and how the marriage broke down. I also no that my sin of adultery broke a very sacred union between my wife and myself. The Lord has allowed me to see my sin and I have truly repented and I have been forgiven. I also know that we have not come to resolution but we have reconciled through the grace of God. My new spirituality with the Lord has been very intense and I am in awh how the Holy Spirit is working in me. Here is my dilema. I feel the Lord wants me to be a single christian man walking the narrow path with him. I am fighting that, I like the comfort of home, the comfort of family, and friends, but im not at peace. I almost feel like im fighting him on this issue. I discoved that my dependency on my marriage and seeking emotional intimacy with my wife has take her the zest out of her life. I m turning to the Lord and allowing him to take the controls and my dependency is turning to him. I need help. I feel like the Lord wants me to give up what I love to follow him.
I would appreciate a response. God Bless all of you.
Ron

Fallen1,
Jesus said " if you love Me, then obey Me ". "
And the two become as one ". If you take something that is joined together and then tear it in half, you have not only destroyed it, but have killed it as well. It is the devil that is giving you those feelings to divorce. The greatest act of love you can perform right now is to love the wife you made a covenant with. If something happens that is out of your control, so be it, but otherwise you need to ask God to restore your love and intimacy for your wife.
Do the right thing!!!!
singleguy

LovemyEx

I hope one day my testimony will bring Glory to God in any way possible as yours has to me.

Yes, I have thought about the pain and suffering one must endure to get past these types of situations. It's not something anyone looks forward to but in the end God's grace is with us.

You know, I thought I had done everything humanly possible for our marriage and if she did not come around before she moved, I had no problem in saying it was over because I had laid it all on the line. I feel God has shown me many times throughout this that you have to be willing in a heart beat to soften your heart and let him change your mind. I know I have had that happen many times.

I pray God will bless you with the grace, peace, honor and love you deserve.

I had just heard about the story of Esther a few weeks ago. To think of our small problems compared to some of the other people's in this world and of long ago. Especially those persecuted.

Singleguy Man, that verse hit home a while back when I was reading it. To think of laying down your life as the ultimate self sacrifice is HUGE. I think of the sacrifices I have and will continue to make for my marriage and that I am in essence laying down my life for not only my marriage but also for my wife. I pray for her salvation.

Fallen1 I have felt the same way Fallen1. That maybe God wanted me to give up the idol in my life (wife, marriage) that I put ahead of him and maybe not even be married anymore. But now I feel he wanted to prove a point to me. To get my priorities straight- God, marriage, family and to keep it that way whether we reconcile or not. I figure if I don't, he can take it away from me again just as fast and much more painfully. I would rather put him first and have his blessings on my marriage. Temporary discomfort on earth is worth Eternal happiness.

Thanks for all of your feedback! May God bless you all.

Thank you Single Guy and Eduard. I will trust in the Lord with all my heart and seek his guidance in my life. Just a couple of books that have helped me a lot; Divorce Reality and Purpose Driven Life. One simple thought about the devil.
Remember he knows all of our weaknesses and what will keep us away from doing Gods Will.

Oh BTW, this handle has to go. Im no longer Fallen and enjoy basking in his spirit. Thankyou Lord

Purpose Driven Life is awesome. I've also been reading Boundaries and hope to start Wild at Heart.

Yes, sometimes we forget he likes to pray on our weaknesses. I've thought of that sometimes, that reconciling may tear me away from God but I realize I can't let that happen.

Hey Guys, I need your help. I'm looking for the books: The 21 Day Fast and 101 Reasons to Fast.
I tried prayerradio.net and they show the books, but give you no way to order them. The author is Bob Rodgers. Make note of the d in his name. By the way, I know just enough about the books to know that they would do you both good too. Brother to Brother!!!!!!
Thanks
singleguy

Man, fasting is tough but a great showing of obediance and submission. God answered my fast/prayer.

Maybe try this url? Bob Rodgers But I didn't see anywhere to buy books.