Had to change my signature... lost my hope today. I am not really sure what there is left to say cause right now I don't feel like there is anything left in me. All I hear in my head is OH GOD HELP ME!
I have NEVER loved anyone as much as my W and now I fear that too is dead along with my marrage. She says that working it out is a waste of her time and mine. She cannot see us working it out at all now. again.. OH GOD HELP ME! I want to just roll over and die. PLEASE LET THIS ALL BE A BAD DREAM SOMEONE WAKE ME!


Sorry all just had to Vent a bit.

<small>[ January 12, 2004, 07:36 PM: Message edited by: Chipper ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Chipper:
<strong> OH GOD HELP ME! </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">That's a good start actually. I pray that the Lord will be with you and all those here who are in such intense and deep pain. Seek Him and ask Him for His help during this deep, dark valley.

First of all, let me say that regardless of the outcome of your marriage, it will get better with time.

But mostly allowing yourself time (as much as you need) to grieve and feel the sadness is important. However, not to entertain thoughts of killing yourself. I know, I had them too.

Please go to the doctor and get on anti-depressants...they will help and you won't have to stay on them forever if you don't want. But they really, really will help.

Keep coming to this forum to post. This place saved my life. We do understand what you are going thru and while we don't always have all the answers, we can be there for you...with support, help and encouragement.

My prayers are with you.

All I can say is ME TOO! OK, it's just wierd some of you sound just like me and my situation (which you can read some of in the "new here need asvice" post.) Is this a MILITARY epidemic? My husband is in the Coast Guard and he says and does the same idiotic things. You kow, I think part of it is that the guys at work egg them on. The married ones hate their wives and wish they were "free" like the single guys and the single guys are divorced and enjoying their freedom, and the other single guys are too. I can hear it now, "Why stay in a relationship that makes you unhappy? What's the point if you're not 'in love'?" Ugggh! Because I have 2 kids who deserve a father hwo puts their feelings before his own! Because I VOWED to love and cherish my wife FOREVER!!!
I am 24, married almost 6 years with 2 daughters. Now my husband just "dosen't love me, doesen't like to be around me, etc" and wants out. This despite that he gets sex whenever he wants it (good sex, too), and I have tried to meet all his EN. He has treated me like a whore over the past few months. Why did I let him? I didn't know he was doing it! I thought we had problems, but he was committed to me and to working them out. Surprise! Little did I know, 6 months ago he "gave God 6 months to change his heart and 6 months was up Dec. 23." Nice, huh? I don't know how he lives with himself. How is it possible I feel so angry at him, like he is so despicable and yet I love him and want to save our marriage. I wish God could keep this from happening, since I know he would want our family to be together. The Bible says, "God hates divorce." I never thought this would happen to me.
I can't believe how many other people are going through the same thing. What has gotten into these men? Why are they so selfish and cruel?

faithhopeandlove, It is not just the men. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> with me it is the wife and I am not sure what it is. *sigh* I think if we ever figure out what causes it we could make a small fortune. all I can say is we are all here with you and we will help support you we know how you feel. Welcome to the broken heart club.